OMG...I just found out my hubby has been talking to this other woman, need advice before I blow up?

I found a number, and called it she answered and she knew who He was. First of allhow did she get his new number..Also about a month ago I got a text from his phone saying ';would ( her name) like to be tasted'; I called him right back on that and he said it was his cousins girl friend. I know she is his homeboys sister because she said so. I'm about to flip on him the minute I get to talk to him.





Back ground- we seperated for about 1.5 months, he was supposed to just be hanging out with his friends. Also this girl I haven;t seen her since like 2 years ago, or heard her name, so why now she is calling a new number that no one had. I'm 4.5 months pregnant with our first child. He told me that he didn't do anything while we were seperated..








What do I do...I'm about to flip out..drive to his work and god knows what else..





When I talked to her on the phone she said it was to tell him her brother is in the hospital. LiarsOMG...I just found out my hubby has been talking to this other woman, need advice before I blow up?
Calm down. Nothing good will come of being so mad you're ready to pop. Talk to him about what you know - let him explain - but do it reasonably and without having a conniption fit.





What he did while you were separated is his business unless he shares it with you. It isn't good for the baby to get so worked up!





Nothing makes a man lie faster than being confronted with a tantrum hon.OMG...I just found out my hubby has been talking to this other woman, need advice before I blow up?
It sounds like he's been fooling around while you're carrying his child! He sounds like a pig to me. Don't stand for being treated this way.
Calm down, your health and the health of your baby is at stake, get control of yourself this instant.


You need to talk with your husband, sort his out, if you are separated, then obviously there are other issues that went wrong with your marriage.


Try and talk to him with clarity, figure out if you want to work out this relationship, if not, best to get a divorce and not deal with this mess.
confront him and leave his lame a^%26amp;





anyone who cheats on his wife is lame and he probably doesnt love u. this reminds me of ';Ex Wives Club'; on ABC. The only advice I can give u is to leave him and get another man who will treat u rite and go to god.
leave him. sounds like a cheater. just watch the blood pressure, you wanna keep baby safe.


can you say child support and alimony???
do not blow up on him, u are pregnant u need to try to stay calm for the baby, get rid of his lying cheating @ss !!! the biggest mistake is blowing up and showing him how hurt u really are, let him go, have his stuff packed when he gets home if u live together. after hes gone cry or do whatever u gotta do, if he sees u upset hes obviously gonna try to calm u down and tell u what u wanna hear so you'll stay with his dumb@ss. don't give him the chance to do this u and your baby deserve much better than that, act like u don't care
Act like you know more than he thinks you know. Tell him that he ';better tell you every fricken detail of what's going on, because you found proof'; be very vague(even if you don't know anything) ;) . Threaten to leave him if he doesn't fess up to everything ';you know';. He'll be to scared to lie, and caught off guard. If he really didn't do anything, he should still understand why you were concerned, if he cares for you. Plus ,you don't need this kind of stress, you are pregnant. I hope it works out, and you definitely have the right to be pissed.
I wouldn't trust any of this, but I don't suggest you go to his job that could cause him to lose his job just wait until he gets home and clown his lying a s s
Keep your kool document everything then contact your attorney and drop the bomb on him . If you threaten him with that and he still cheats you go amunition but it would be better to catch him in act with investigator .
Well, at least now you know the truth. What you do and how you deal with this will follow you your whole life. Try to be calm and make the best decisions you can for yourself and your child.
Try never to make life-changing decisions when you are (1) angry, (2) suspicious of your spouse without absolute proof of his wrongdoing and (3) when your hormones are out of whack because you are expecting.





Ask you husband if everything is ok between you, and listen to his answer. Be rational and do not over-react. Give him the benefit of the doubt unless future behavior on his part gives you good reason to do otherwise. (Wouldn't you expect him to do the same for you? Sometimes, old friends just call, and it's no big deal.)





If all he did was talk to her, count your blessings, assume he is worthy of your trust and go forward with your plans to be a good wife and mother.
He is clearly telling the truth. Don't worry about innocent calls. I think he deserves and appology.
ha ha ha you go BOOM!!! oh and 2 points
BLOW UP on his ***. Sounds like a cheater to me.
flip.


this deserves an explanation
Calm down, the stress is not good for the baby. Dont do anything on the phone, wait until he gets home from work, then talk to him. Ask him whats going on, what went on and tell him you want the truth not a load of crap. Just stay calm, anger will only make him hit the door running.
first of all these men cannot be trusted and you cannot believe anything they tell you . trust me i m married . another don't stress yourself and your unborn child . do what you feel about your situation. confront him at home not at his job that's ghetto and he'll never let u forget that u did that even if he's in the wrong.
I agree that they are lying. You need to calm down. You are pregnant and I am afraid of what you might do right now in this state. I would confront him when he got home and tell him that I know about him and (the girl's name) and see what he says. After that, you can decide what you want to do. Good Luck to you!
Please forgive him. It was an honest mistake, Nancy.
Well to make sure it's a sure thing if you have his phone maybe you can text her and she'll think it's him and see what she says... then confront him so you'll have proof and so he can't give you bullshit lies.
Well I would definitely have a good word with him. The fact that she left a text saying something about being tasted is pretty much a good indicator that something went on before or is starting again. Sorry to say that but sounds like your husband needs a good whack and an ultimatum, no respectable husband or bf should be texting and talking secretively to some other girl knowing you would not like it, and the fact your pregnant shows how thoughtless he is being. Try to stay calm for baby's sake but I would work him over, he has some explaining to do big time.
Move on with your new baby. You don't someone like that. He is obviously cheating on you.
first of all, your pregnant. you shouldn't be upset. i understand he's hiding something but what does that do for you? nothing. the best thing you can do is take it easy. if he's cheating you'll find out. cheaters never get too far until they get found out. secondly i can tell your a smart woman, don't let a long excuse tell you what hes really telling you. short and sweet is the truth, if he cares about you and the baby he will understand that your on the edge with a situation like this. if my husband had some other girl calling here i would kill him, or better yet i would make sure she understood that i cant talk to other men so he cant talk to other women.


if its a cover up you'll know, but don't let it get the best of you. there are plenty of people that have been there and back, they have survived. with or without the other person. just keep calm and don't jump to anything. let him explain.
Leave that loser. There is obviously something going on.
Sounds like hes been busted to me ..........


wait untill he gets home don't cause him a scene at work ...
Of course he cheated. He has a d.i.c.k. don't he?


Don't go to his job, don't flip too hard. While you are pregnant is not the time to get physical with his sorry tail. Call this skank back and ask her when did she get his number. Grill her @$$ like she was a witness to a crime!! Ask her every question that you can think of.


Record it if possible and when he gets home let him hear it.


He will make up some lame excuse and will say she is lying, so have her in the back room so she can hear it, or at least on the phone listening. Let them both know that you don't like what is going on and it had better stop.


Be calm and stern, but get your point across.


Peace
well what you need to do first is talk about with him tell him yo know and how could he do that and if his a *** hole and he tell you is not true how can is not if i have proof then you know his not worth it and let go i know is not so ease but a woman got her pride and no man should mess it up right that what i think bu bye
Of course they are liars, he gave her the new number when you two were apart for those few months, he also just may have slept with her so that is why she is still calling him. You are pregnant so you can not go crazy like you want but what you can do is tell him that if he does not get this under control then he will have to go to court just to see his child and then you begin your paperwork for child support because you didn't do this by yourself.
You've already made up your mind that they are liars and i agree so go blow up and dump this jackass. Your child deserves better for a role model.
Why don't you go see if her brother is in the hospital? Tell your boyfriend that you want to go with him. If he refuses, then you know it's a lie and you can dump him
Stop talking to her. She is not your friend %26amp; is not going to tell you the truth. If she likes him she is going to look to make trouble and if she is doing him she is going to lie so he is not mad at her. He is the one who needs to answer and explain what the deal is. I know your upset with her but, who gave her the number and it could be nothing. I would get more information stay calm and remember actions speak louder then words look at what he does (body lanuage) when you ask. Ask calmly and be nice about it as he will expect you to blow up and yell if you are calm and nice he will be caught off guard. That is how you get the upper hand by him NOT knowing what to expect.

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So, I'm having an affair with a married woman. Advice? lol...?

Now, first and foremost this is a completely honest and serious question. I am not facilitating any sort of lie, I'm just asking for different opinions.





First of all, the woman in question was my long term girlfriend for roughly 3 years. We lost contact for about 7 years, than met back up on Myspace. She ended up taking a trip to New York which is where here and I both grew up. We spent a massive amount of time together.





We ended up sharing several intimate moments, that needless to say, were spectacular. We completely fell in love all over again, spending nearly every waking moment of her two week trip together. Sadly, she had to return home back to her husband.





We talk secretly amongst each other, sinfully desiring to be back with one another. She wants to leave her husband and be with me.





Now I have to admit, I feel quite guilty at times. She's married and theres kids in the picture. However, at the same time...it feels so damm right holding her in my arms again. Advice?So, I'm having an affair with a married woman. Advice? lol...?
Hate to sound so - - ';Pure'; in thought, because I'm not! But, been there, done that. If she ends it with her husband, that would be the best for all involved. Until she does, you should maintain an arms distance. If you don't, the one thing for sure is; your going to get hurt and give hurt!So, I'm having an affair with a married woman. Advice? lol...?
if you love her just try to forget about her cause what if you were the husband you love her but when yo love someone you have to think aboutthem fist than you
Leave her alone. You have no right to mess with another man's woman nor does she have any being married. Especially with kids. Does no one take marriage vows serious anymore?!!? It may have been passionate for 2 weeks but when reality sets in (should you decide to move forward with the relationship), neither of you will trust each other and you'll realize that it was better off leaving the past just that...the past.
leave her alone. she's married. she did it to him and she'll do ut to you. she probably has other guys out there too.
Bottom line....she's married. She needs to resolve that one way or the other before beginning something else. You should really stay out of it until if/when she's free to date again. Tell her you care about her and always will, but she needs to figure out her marriage and until then, you can't see her. And then stick to it. Don't see her or have sexy phone conversations with her as long as she's with her husband. You'll only get hurt.





I wonder if it would have been that magical for her if she was single. Believe me, there's lots going on in that house that you don't know about. And only they can figure out what to do about it.





Good luck and be strong.
Stop what you are doing and move away if necessary in order to stop...kids aren't just ';in the picture';, you're screwing around with their lives in an irresponsible way.
Do you think she would have divorced her husband if you hadn't come along? If the answer is no then cut the ties. You are the one who will get all the pain. She has much to much to lose and you will will get nothing but a woman who will have really pissed off kids, and will do nothing but make your life miserable. If she gets the husband to take the kids, then you will have a miserable woman who misses her kids AND will be paying masses amount of child support and you will still end up with pissed off kids. You do what you want to do, but know that there is an extreme amount of pain in your future if you proceed. Do this the right way.
END ALL CONTACT IMMEDIATELY.





It may feel good temporarily, but it will cause problems for you in the long run that will just not be worth it. It will be very difficult for you to end contact, but it will be even more difficult later on if you don't.
This is how people get hurt and I mean physically hurt. Should the husband find out he might come looking for you. Better find out if he owns any guns!!
You have already crossed lines you absolutely should not have. While I do have some empathy for the fact that the two of you share a history, it appears you did break up and there had to be a reason for that. Many times when couples 're-connect', there is a honeymoon period when they remember all the good times and the closeness they once had and it is so awesome. In this scenario though, it's not just a re-match -- she's cheating on her husband and presumably the father of her children. That's bad, really bad. If you have reconnected with an old love that is not free, it is incumbent upon you both to decide if you are going to work toward becoming a couple again -- BUT, until and unless the partner who is already attached gets a divorce, you must not see each other or communicate anymore. PERIOD! If you two were truly meant to be together, she will go home to her husband and ask for a divorce and get her life cleaned up before engaging in this cheat-job with you. You know what you did was wrong -- it was wrong for you to communicate with her on myspace once you realized the two of you still had a 'thing' and you both totally stepped out of line when you made it possible for you to get together and took it to the next level. If she is unhappy with her husband, SHE needs to fix that situation before she comes to you! The only time it will feel ';SO DAMN RIGHT'; is under cover of darkness, hiding like the cheats you are being. I'm sorry if that's harsh, but you know it's wrong. You should never live in a bad marriage---but you should always get out of the marriage BEFORE you start something else. It's wrong to wait to leave a bad marriage until you have another sure thing waiting in the wings. Don't be her dirty little secret!
This is a completely honest and serious answer.





Buy body armor.





A buddy of mine in an eerily similar situation took a shotgun blast in the chest. Fortunately he had is vest still on and was far enough away that he didn't get killed.
Why is your question in the government section? I think you want the family and relationships section. Personally, I like having sexual relationships with married women for the simple reason that they don't want or expect any commitment... usually. I've met a few that were psychos. It sounds like you're asking if it's OK to break up a marriage. The kids probably like both their parents and want them to be together, so you're probably not being fair to them if the two of you want more than an occaissional roll in the hay. If you keep it simple and secret it can't do much harm (except to yourself if you're in love with her). If you want more, you're being a bit selfish. The two of you had a chance for a life together years ago. You didn't take it. My advice would be to find another girl if you want to share your future with a woman. But if it's just sex, and you don't get too emotional about it, go ahead and enjoy. I would.
OooooooooooooooooooH, toughie! Depends whether you're a gent or a rascal, sir. A gent would let her get on with her life bringing up her children, with minimum disruption. A Rascal would tell her how he felt and hope that she flew back into his arms (kids in tow of course).


Me? I'd do the au pair!
another fool hits the dust
What about her family and kids? Do you feel right for them too?
Why don't you ask for advice from the person that could give you the best answer, her husband. What no cajones? Real men don't screw other man's wife. Better yet....you might just win the prize....an woman who would screw another man at the drop of a phone call.....
Did you attend the ';bill clinton school of ethics'; by any chance? you're both dogs..i feel real bad for her husband and kids.
As a Husband that was cheated on myself by my wife. I swore I would never put another man threw what I went threw. You are willing to destroy a family for your sexual needs you should feel guilty because Mr. You are a piece of SH*T !!!! I'm sure the three kids that have there life's sent into a tail spin because of you will agree. You aren't in the league of Child molesters being the lowest form of life but you are Damn close.
end it


do the right thing


if she really wants to be with you, she will end her commitment first and then come to you and do it the right way


end it now


if she's a cheater now, will you ever be able to trust her?


end it
With the girl comes the kids. Are you ready to take on that responsibilty or are you just lookin for a piece of ... ...anyways, the grass is not always greener on the other side...you may just be wanting her because she's ';unavailable';... How would you feel it she wasnt married, would the feelings still be there?
It is true everything while on vacation is intensified...


Then back to you no what....


You will have memories which also will change.


On a daily basis you have no idea what she is like.


Lust is a *****...
For the sake of her kids, I'd club you to death myself, but then if she's ready to leave them they probably deserve better.
Well id walk away however you should let it as her decision, while not feeling guilty yourself as her choice is just that.
drop the relationship NOW. there is only diseaster in the future for both of you. you stated that you feel guilty at timies listen to your gut reaction and not to your heart. you will regret this in the long term. i know i have been there.
End this immediately. If she cheats FOR you, what makes you think she won't cheat ON you later? Serious relationships should not be based on ';feels right'; emotions, but commitments. Evidently she is incapable of keeping true to a commitment.
You better be sure about what you are doing. Having an affair is exciting because it's 'taboo'. However, things might change if she is living with you and you are caring for her kids. The excitement runs out of the relationship pretty fast. Sometimes, the best thing to do is just to let your affair run its course.

Need woman advice please.

I'm a state trooper and I need advice for hitting on women that I can pull over and talk too.





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its talk to* Need woman advice please.
y wud u do that ooo i no


TO BE AN **** AND WASTE PPLS TIME


dude if u think that is the only way to get a girl then u have issues cuz that is the lamest and dumbest thing i have ever heard unless u want to piss women off and look like a dumbass then dont do it it will pointless and waste of ur time as it is theirs
I guess u could pull a woman over and try pretend like ur about to give her ticket and be like I like past it this time if u go on a date with me. Good Luck. But honestly I dnt think u should hit women at ur work
I read about an officer out in Oregon that did that, hit on girls. Peculiarly he was found a month later washed up on a river bank.
Do that, and I'll file sh_t against you.


Creep.
Ew. How about you don't? If you're actually interested in love, rather than lust, I'm sure you could start it better by just letting things happen the way they should. Start a conversation.. Don't start flirting right away because then if anything does happen.. you won't know anything about this chick and could end up hating every little detail about her.
I'm Bozo the clown and was wondering how to get more candy without having to say trick - or- treat.


I'm Larry the cable guy and here to check your connection.


I'm Marty the moose and what diff does it make why I'm here?


If you're going to wear a badge you mgiht stay at the office. Those parties are for those who are invited.
please do not try to hit on woman during a pull over. It can be misconstrued as harassment and can get you in trouble.

A woman that I work with has a coughing problem. She is a smoker. It is so bad it is affecting others. Advice?

It is disgusting. Should we go to HR? Above her head? There is no where else around here to move. Myself and the other people that I work with are tempted to leave. My co-workers and I don't know what to do. Please help.A woman that I work with has a coughing problem. She is a smoker. It is so bad it is affecting others. Advice?
Just let her be. So she coughs. Would you mind if people kept coming up to you, because you sneezed, or coughed a few times? My guess is it would. So just leave her alone. It's just coughing. It's not a natural disaster. A woman that I work with has a coughing problem. She is a smoker. It is so bad it is affecting others. Advice?
You may need to gently bring to to her attention at first. Just say something like ';It's sounds like you're getting a bad cold';. Then she may admit that she needs to do something about the coughing because others are noticing it. If this doesn't help, sit an abby note on her chair or desk letter her know that she needs to fix this problem. If this doesn't work, you and some co-workers may try telling the manager about hygenic concerns. The manager then may either call a meeting to address these issues to everyone without singling out the coughing employee or contact her alone to discuss. At that point, she will have no choice but to do something about it to save her job.
It depends. If her actual smoking is bothering you (she comes in from a break and the smoke overwhelms you, she smokes in places she shouldn't be, ect) then yes - you need to do something about it. I would suggest going above her head and going to HR. I'm not trying to generalize, but many smokers are kinda offended when they're ';picked on'; directly. We already have so many laws that restrict them, that they don't want any more of their rights taken away.





Now, if it's her coughing, then I would just go to her and say something casually. Ask her if she's sick. Or during one of her coughing spells ask her if she's okay. Let her know that it's bothering you (the cough complaint would offend her less than a smoking one - so it would be better to go to her about it). Act like you think she's coughing because she's sick and say in a friendly tone, ';Wow - maybe you should get that checked out.'; If all else fails on that, well, you need to go to HR. This problem isn't worth losing your job over!

I'm the other woman. advice please?

I am having an affair with a married co-worker. It's been going on for a couple of months. It's completely out of character for me and the guilt is eating at me. on the other hand, i care about him a lot and i don't want to lose him. I want to put a stop to it (I tried once already) but seeing him at work almost everyday doesn't help at all. Please enlighten me on how to handle this situation.I'm the other woman. advice please?
You goofed............lay the law down........to him and STOP seeing him or quit ur job...............u chose this path ...now u pay the price........I hope you know that you committed ADULTERY as well as he. You do not have to be married to commit it....only one of you.


You better get on ur hands and knees to God and beg forgiveness.


He is a Loser, too. Is that the kind of man that you would want????? Was this ALL a game to YOU????????


Don't u think that he would do the same to you ONE day. He has no morals either. You should do yourself the courtesy of informing HIS wife so that she KNOWS the SCUM that she is married to. ...all the while he goes home and smiles in HER face..............


d o g sI'm the other woman. advice please?
i agree with the first person.
He is a married man you should have never fallen into that temptation, its wrong but try to get away and not let those emotions get to you in your head! move on and find a person who is single and wants love.
well, youre always going to be the other woman, and i dont think he really intends to leave his wife for you, espically if he has kids. if you want it to end, he wont be the one to do it, hes getting what he wants from you already. youve got to be the bigger person and tell hiim its wrong, stop seeing each other outside of work, and maybe even quit your job to make things right.
an affair is horrible. if you are truly serious about ending it, you need to end it. you don't want to lose him? obviously, he's a cheater and i doubt that he'll leave his wife for you. you are cheating yourself by giving yourself to a man who isn't available. if you need to quit your job in order to end the relationship, then that is what needs done. it's very inconvenient, i know, but these are the consequences you face from choosing to have an affair
Drop him. You already have at least 2 strikes against you, dating a co-worker and he's married. You can only go down from there.......
last summer i was cheated on by my boyfriend.


he had sex with another girl that knew he was already with me.


i had never been so hurt in my entire life.


put yourself in her shoes. you say that you really care about this guy, so what if you were his wife and you were the one getting cheated on?
Wow. You messed around with someone at work AND he's married? Double whammy there. Let it go before someone gets hurt. Most importantly, his wife.

I need some good woman advice please.?

i m worrying for my friend so much!it happend to talk for sex and i said her condom is safer and she said me... nah i always take pill


...i asked her how long she takes it and she said me she takes it the last 5 years for many times....


are there any problems?i didnt ask much but i just worry for her she is my friend....what happens if u take it more than one two times a month?I need some good woman advice please.?
ok,,, tell your friend... that a birth control pill is no safer than using a condom... actually.. a condom is better... a birth control pill is only gonna HELP prevent getting pregnant... not std's... so tell your friend either to use BOTH.. no just tell her to stop having sex!its not safe....until shes married!I need some good woman advice please.?
Are you talking about the morning after pill? You're not meant to take that more than once a month...if that. They advise you strongly not to. Maybe its because your body might get used to it and it might stop working?





If you're talking about birth control pills (not the morning after pill) then she'll be fine.
there is the morning after pill only to be taken in an emergency and then there is the dail oral birth control pill. I think your friend takes the daily pill and you were thinking she meant the plan B pill (morning after).
WTF are you talking about, and anyway condoms alone are not a very reliable method
What?? I don't understand the question? She's supposed to take it every single day. If she does then its fine
huh?

Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?

Which hairstyle do you think is the hottest on a teenage asian guy. Im giving u a lot of pics so just tell me which video or what time in the video the guy appears that u think's hairstyle is hottest.





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http://youtube.com/watch?v=4ro5A7BpWk4Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
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