Traffic is terrible in Atlanta. (I don't think the infrastructure can support all the people who have moved here!) So ... to avoid a long daily commute, I would start by looking in the proximity of where you plan to work or go to school. There are apartment complexes throughout Atlanta and the suburbs that really cater to newcomers and singles, with parties and other social events.
If you want to live in town, Buckhead and midtown are popular (and pricey) places. If you want to live near town, while saving money, check out Smyrna.
You'll like it here. There's a lot to do; Atlanta is a good place to forge a new chapter in your life!I'm a single woman whose moving from Miami to Atlanta advice on what area to live,areas/places to avoid?
Living close to work is a big plus in Atlanta. But only if work is in a desirable neighborhood. Also living close to the train is a good idea if the train will get you to work.
The best suburban areas are all north or downtown Atlanta. Avoid southwest Atlanta, anything on the west end and almost every county south of downtown.
If you want to live downtown look at Midtown first, then Buckhead, then Brookhaven, Ponce Highland and some of the neighborhoods north and east of downtown. If you prefer suburban life check out Marietta, Sandy Springs, Dunwoody.
Further out is Alpharetta, Roswell, Johns Creek and Cumming but being a single woman I'm not sure you would want to live 40 miles outside the city.
Cobb County, North Fulton, Gwinette and South Forsyth (way north) is where you want to concentrate your efforts on.I'm a single woman whose moving from Miami to Atlanta advice on what area to live,areas/places to avoid?
Be careful. You can find an AWESOME apartment right next door to the ghetto. I loved living in Virginia Highland area at Gables Rock Springs and I lived in the Perimeter area at Post Dunwoody. Those were both great when I lived there (it was about 5 years ago though). But if you call a police station and ask about an apartment complex they will tell you the crimes that have occurred there and about the area around it.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
How do I do it? I need a woman's advice on this please?
my ';boyfriend'; wants me to wear women's lingerie with him and I don't mind but I feel a little uncomfortable. not sure how to go about all this. help please. oh yea and we're gayHow do I do it? I need a woman's advice on this please?
It is a lot of fun you should try it and see how you like it.
Done this for years and even once in awhile will go try on things in the women's dressing room just don't take off the bra and the falsies.
When you get up enough nerve go to a spa get a wax done and then put on a bathing suit and lounge by the pool. U will see how the other side lives and how many free drinks the guys will buy u both.How do I do it? I need a woman's advice on this please?
Why do you feel uncomfortable?
Accept that you are the ';woman'; in the relationship and enjoy it
Don't do it if it makes you uncomfortable. How will you enjoy anything? Wear it in your room by yourself and when you feel more better about it then you should go with him and do it.
Dont know why you need a woman to respond to this.
But as someone in the Transgender Community. If your boyfriend likes to crossdress, you dont have to, unless you want to.
If you would like to approach this with an open mind. an open heart and being respectful to his feelings and desires.. seek out a gender identity specialist and go to counseling with your boyfriend.
Even if you dont end up crossdressing with him, at least you will be seeking out ways of dealing with it and still respecting his feelings.
do you want to? ask yourself.
whats the reason....if it play ...do it...if you like...
It is a lot of fun you should try it and see how you like it.
Done this for years and even once in awhile will go try on things in the women's dressing room just don't take off the bra and the falsies.
When you get up enough nerve go to a spa get a wax done and then put on a bathing suit and lounge by the pool. U will see how the other side lives and how many free drinks the guys will buy u both.How do I do it? I need a woman's advice on this please?
Why do you feel uncomfortable?
Accept that you are the ';woman'; in the relationship and enjoy it
Don't do it if it makes you uncomfortable. How will you enjoy anything? Wear it in your room by yourself and when you feel more better about it then you should go with him and do it.
Dont know why you need a woman to respond to this.
But as someone in the Transgender Community. If your boyfriend likes to crossdress, you dont have to, unless you want to.
If you would like to approach this with an open mind. an open heart and being respectful to his feelings and desires.. seek out a gender identity specialist and go to counseling with your boyfriend.
Even if you dont end up crossdressing with him, at least you will be seeking out ways of dealing with it and still respecting his feelings.
do you want to? ask yourself.
whats the reason....if it play ...do it...if you like...
Ladies only. what advice could you give to anovice x-dresser on passing as a woman?
i.e what to wear how to act etc.
any advice would be much appreciated .xLadies only. what advice could you give to anovice x-dresser on passing as a woman?
If you really want to pass, as opposed to just dressing up to amuse yourself or do a drag show or whatever...
Don`t overdo anything. If you draw attention to yourself with extremes, you will stick out like a sore thumb and people will be more likely to scrutinize you and notice you`re not technically female. The person above who noticed that crossdressers often overdo it... well, they noticed because those guys weren`t successfully passing as women. If they had been, that poster wouldn`t have noticed a thing.
Instead of looking at fashion magazines, look at regular women you see every day for inspiration. Look at how they do their hair and what they`re actually wearing.
Keep the makeup subtle, simple, and pretty close to your natural skin tones. If possible, take a female friend whose makeup usually looks fine to the store and get her to help you pick out colours.
Don`t wear high heels unless you are absolutely sure you know how to walk in them without even thinking about it. Walking funny in heels will look awkward and draw attention.
When you sit, sit with your knees close together.
It`s common to carry some sort of purse or bag for odds and ends. You may be used to going around with just a wallet, but put that wallet in a front pocket of your purse, and throw a bunch of other things into the big part. Carry gum, a hairbrush, makeup, an address book, a phone, pens, old receipts, change, a nail file, your keys... basically a large jumble of items. I suspect that purses, once the jumble reaches a critical mass, develop force fields that attract random small objects, suck them into the purse when nobody is looking, and toss them around like a salad.
Trim and file your nails to be tidy. Put on some light pink nail polish if you have good nails, or a more dramatic colour if you`re good at putting on nail polish and can do it neatly. But skip the fake nails with rhinestones.Ladies only. what advice could you give to anovice x-dresser on passing as a woman?
If you want to pass as a woman, then dress like a woman, if you're trying to be slutty, then you're going to look like a whore. Try to dress for the occasion %26amp; find yourself some help, either a girl from work or the a girl next door or even a shop down the street. If you really want help from the ladies on crossdressing, all you have to do is ask, there's more help out there than you'd ever imagine.
get to know them first, introduce urself to them, and tell them about christ ,pray for a change in their lives,basically the right thing we can do for them.. sry im not a lady , nor cross dresser , but find this topic interesting -alex
wear lbds act friendly flirty and cute flash your eyes
I have noticed that a lot of crossdressers over do. They either look a lot like their mothers or a lot like a tramp. I think the best thing to do is look at what women wear to work, to the mall, to go grocery shopping in... take note in the subtleties.
any advice would be much appreciated .xLadies only. what advice could you give to anovice x-dresser on passing as a woman?
If you really want to pass, as opposed to just dressing up to amuse yourself or do a drag show or whatever...
Don`t overdo anything. If you draw attention to yourself with extremes, you will stick out like a sore thumb and people will be more likely to scrutinize you and notice you`re not technically female. The person above who noticed that crossdressers often overdo it... well, they noticed because those guys weren`t successfully passing as women. If they had been, that poster wouldn`t have noticed a thing.
Instead of looking at fashion magazines, look at regular women you see every day for inspiration. Look at how they do their hair and what they`re actually wearing.
Keep the makeup subtle, simple, and pretty close to your natural skin tones. If possible, take a female friend whose makeup usually looks fine to the store and get her to help you pick out colours.
Don`t wear high heels unless you are absolutely sure you know how to walk in them without even thinking about it. Walking funny in heels will look awkward and draw attention.
When you sit, sit with your knees close together.
It`s common to carry some sort of purse or bag for odds and ends. You may be used to going around with just a wallet, but put that wallet in a front pocket of your purse, and throw a bunch of other things into the big part. Carry gum, a hairbrush, makeup, an address book, a phone, pens, old receipts, change, a nail file, your keys... basically a large jumble of items. I suspect that purses, once the jumble reaches a critical mass, develop force fields that attract random small objects, suck them into the purse when nobody is looking, and toss them around like a salad.
Trim and file your nails to be tidy. Put on some light pink nail polish if you have good nails, or a more dramatic colour if you`re good at putting on nail polish and can do it neatly. But skip the fake nails with rhinestones.Ladies only. what advice could you give to anovice x-dresser on passing as a woman?
If you want to pass as a woman, then dress like a woman, if you're trying to be slutty, then you're going to look like a whore. Try to dress for the occasion %26amp; find yourself some help, either a girl from work or the a girl next door or even a shop down the street. If you really want help from the ladies on crossdressing, all you have to do is ask, there's more help out there than you'd ever imagine.
get to know them first, introduce urself to them, and tell them about christ ,pray for a change in their lives,basically the right thing we can do for them.. sry im not a lady , nor cross dresser , but find this topic interesting -alex
wear lbds act friendly flirty and cute flash your eyes
I have noticed that a lot of crossdressers over do. They either look a lot like their mothers or a lot like a tramp. I think the best thing to do is look at what women wear to work, to the mall, to go grocery shopping in... take note in the subtleties.
What song on Trace Adkins' newest album does his mother give him advice on what type of woman he should find..?
and when he does finds one that meets her criteria, he tells her she won鈥檛 be needing any of grandma鈥檚 recipes because she can鈥檛 boil water?What song on Trace Adkins' newest album does his mother give him advice on what type of woman he should find..?
Sweetpores
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Advice on when a woman tells you that she is afriad to get hurt.?
Ive been seeing this girl for a while now, and she tells me that she is afriad to open up to me because of fear of her falling in love and getting hurt, what can i do to help her, i want her to open up to me and love me,Advice on when a woman tells you that she is afriad to get hurt.?
If it is true whisper to her ';I will never hurt you.';Advice on when a woman tells you that she is afriad to get hurt.?
There is nothing you can really do. Except for show her that she can trust you and that you will be there for her no matter what. And make sure that she knows you care about her a lot.
Sorry, she's not interested in you in *that* way.
She's just trying to let you down easy.
show her rather than tell her how much you care for her
If it is true whisper to her ';I will never hurt you.';Advice on when a woman tells you that she is afriad to get hurt.?
There is nothing you can really do. Except for show her that she can trust you and that you will be there for her no matter what. And make sure that she knows you care about her a lot.
Sorry, she's not interested in you in *that* way.
She's just trying to let you down easy.
show her rather than tell her how much you care for her
What is the best dating advice you can give to a woman over 40 who wants marriage and children?
1. Never act desperate - Speaking from a guys point of view: Guys freak out when they sense urgency in a woman. Hide your ';Biological Clock is Ticking Syndrome';!
2. If you have a boyfriend, and he doesn't want to get married to you. Simple. You need to leave the boyfriend to seek greener pastures. Logic.
3. If you don't have a boyfriend. Get one. How? If you don't already know, there are a thousand guys out there who would absolutely die to be with you. That's the good news! The bad news...none of them may live in your city, state, or possibly even your country. It's all a big crap-shoot really.
4. Be confident and take chances. Don't sit at your house with your dog and just dream. Don't continually run around with the same circle of friends. Break the mold. Chances are, by doing something different in your life--you may tigger something positive like a relationship. Do some traveling. Join some social groups.
5. If marriage and/or having children is not possible--try and settle for a ball of yarn and some knitting needles (just joking). Have you thought about adoption?
Anyways, Good Luck!What is the best dating advice you can give to a woman over 40 who wants marriage and children?
If you think you've found the right guy for marriage,then go for it. As far as children,giving birth at 40+ may be difficult (especially if it's the first pregnancy). A Gynecologist can answer that for you. (Good Luck!)What is the best dating advice you can give to a woman over 40 who wants marriage and children?
Be very clear with the men you are wanting to date that you still want children. Most men would assume that a woman over 40 is probably done having kids.
be yourself and show them what are u made of, be more like open minded and yes not be so picky, have fun and maybe istiemt o hurry up if u want children but you can always adopt
Stop being so picky
obviously something is wrong if u are over 40 and single seriously u need to sit down with some of your close friends and ask them things that u do that would piss them off or turn off guys seriously cuz it aint all about looks us men love a nice women with good convo
find a man who wants the same,im 26 and want the same thing and cant find that person,even though im in a relationship now
take care of herself and be wiser.
take it slow if you are being that needy you will not find anyone and you will be asking this question at 50. Go have some fun and if it happens then it happens.
Find someone who wants the same thing you do. Believe it or not, there ARE men out there who do. Popular media and jerks might give you good reason to think otherwise, but they're out there.
To find them, go to places you would go to. I don't mean bars and clubs. Museums, restaurants, or other places that are more to your tastes are much better, because it is a better reflection of the people who go there.
Don't lose hope.
Be a good listener and witty. Talk about common interest in music, arts and sports. Don鈥檛 forget to kiss him goodnight. Make sure he asks for a second date.
what happened?
anyway,
stay hopefull, coz hope never dies.
believe in you.
It depends on how much over 40 it may be too late unless you have prospective men in mind.
2. If you have a boyfriend, and he doesn't want to get married to you. Simple. You need to leave the boyfriend to seek greener pastures. Logic.
3. If you don't have a boyfriend. Get one. How? If you don't already know, there are a thousand guys out there who would absolutely die to be with you. That's the good news! The bad news...none of them may live in your city, state, or possibly even your country. It's all a big crap-shoot really.
4. Be confident and take chances. Don't sit at your house with your dog and just dream. Don't continually run around with the same circle of friends. Break the mold. Chances are, by doing something different in your life--you may tigger something positive like a relationship. Do some traveling. Join some social groups.
5. If marriage and/or having children is not possible--try and settle for a ball of yarn and some knitting needles (just joking). Have you thought about adoption?
Anyways, Good Luck!What is the best dating advice you can give to a woman over 40 who wants marriage and children?
If you think you've found the right guy for marriage,then go for it. As far as children,giving birth at 40+ may be difficult (especially if it's the first pregnancy). A Gynecologist can answer that for you. (Good Luck!)What is the best dating advice you can give to a woman over 40 who wants marriage and children?
Be very clear with the men you are wanting to date that you still want children. Most men would assume that a woman over 40 is probably done having kids.
be yourself and show them what are u made of, be more like open minded and yes not be so picky, have fun and maybe istiemt o hurry up if u want children but you can always adopt
Stop being so picky
obviously something is wrong if u are over 40 and single seriously u need to sit down with some of your close friends and ask them things that u do that would piss them off or turn off guys seriously cuz it aint all about looks us men love a nice women with good convo
find a man who wants the same,im 26 and want the same thing and cant find that person,even though im in a relationship now
take care of herself and be wiser.
take it slow if you are being that needy you will not find anyone and you will be asking this question at 50. Go have some fun and if it happens then it happens.
Find someone who wants the same thing you do. Believe it or not, there ARE men out there who do. Popular media and jerks might give you good reason to think otherwise, but they're out there.
To find them, go to places you would go to. I don't mean bars and clubs. Museums, restaurants, or other places that are more to your tastes are much better, because it is a better reflection of the people who go there.
Don't lose hope.
Be a good listener and witty. Talk about common interest in music, arts and sports. Don鈥檛 forget to kiss him goodnight. Make sure he asks for a second date.
what happened?
anyway,
stay hopefull, coz hope never dies.
believe in you.
It depends on how much over 40 it may be too late unless you have prospective men in mind.
For those of you that just had a baby what is one good advice that you would give a 5 month pregnant woman?
Something that you did and shouldn't have done or vice versaFor those of you that just had a baby what is one good advice that you would give a 5 month pregnant woman?
Try not to stress about your delivery.Everything will be fine.Just try to relax and don't let anyone make you feel bad for anything you decide to do.
Don't feel bad about denying visitors when you first come home.I wish I would've done that.Don't feel bad about denying visitors at the hospital either.I was exhauseted and had people coming at 8 am every day not leaving until 10 or later at night.Needless to say, I was tired of it and them.
Let the housework go for a while and just rest and spend time with baby.You can't get those days back and you will regret it if you don't..
Unless you think you will need the help,don't let anyone stay that first week or 2.It was helpful but also a total nightmare.I feel like I missed out on my sons first week home because someone was always taking him from me.
You will get advice from everyone,but that doesn't mean you have to listen.Take what you need and just ignore the rest.Don't ignore your mommy instinct.It is almost never wrong..
Enjoy it!!It goes by so fast.For those of you that just had a baby what is one good advice that you would give a 5 month pregnant woman?
take the first 8 weeks minimum to learn how to breastfeed without worrying about wearing a shirt, having visitors etc. This would have made a world of difference for me. Instead, i had so many visitors that i was constantly covering up, or bottlefeeding, which ruins breastfeeding. Finally we got it down, and now he's 14 weeks old. So I would say no guests for 2 months so you can figure things out.
Get as much sleep as you can and walk as much as you can. This is your time, take advantage while you can. After your baby is born, it's all about the baby.
i definantly with the first answer tell family to come 24 hrs later i had visitors the same day and they left until 11 pm!!!!! and dont be afraid to ask 4 help.
If you haven't already, start a pregnancy journal. I didn't do this but so wish I did. I have no clue why I didn't. It would be really nice to read later how you felt each day. Also get plenty of sleep (if possible). Good Luck!
I wish I would have relaxed more. I went on a pretty strict diet. I wouldn't eat anything unhealthy. I wouldn't drink soda or anything unhealthy. I ate lots of fruits and veggies and drank plenty of water and milk. I took my vitamins daily. Anyway, my son was still born with problems. Yet a girl I know who adopted a drug addicted baby, he's just fine and doing much better than my son.
Once baby is here, do NOT put pressure on yourself to get everything done that you did before. Who cares if the house is messy, or the laundry is behind, or dishes are in the sink! Make caring for your baby and healing yourself after delivery your main concerns. Also, accept help!! If someone offers to bring over a meal, let them! If they offer to come over and do a load of laundry for you, let them! You're not superwoman, and the time with your newborn is no time to stress yourself out trying to be everything and a new mom.
Good luck and congrats!!
You need your rest. it will catch up to you, yes you will feel fine, but getting your rest after the baby born is very very important!!
And one other thing- you won't be pregnant forever. Yes, it'll feel like the last 2-3 weeks is taking its' time, but be patient and enjoy your last few days to yourself!! You WILL miss them!
Rest, try to get a lot of sleep and a pedicure. Get the extra long one right before you go into labor.
When resting snuggle up to your partner!!
Take time to bond with your new family ... alone... even if its for a few hours. I wish I would of asked visitors to give us at least 24 hours before they came to visit.
Get plenty of sleep, bond with your child, start saving money, and buy baragins.
Go to the movies, to concerts, to any of the activities that you love while you have the freedom to just go without any planning. Spend time with your partner. Have long bubble baths. Have a massage if you can find the extra cash (some places even do prenatal massage. Take the time to reflect on who you are right now-- maybe even starting a diary that keeps track of your feelings as you prepare for this major shift in your life. Tell your partner that you love them every single day. Read about birth, and try and figure out a rough idea of a birth plan.
Try to talk to your partner about division of labor post-baby. Try to get him to help out once the baby is born as much as possible. You will need time to recover.
Sleep in on the weekends while you still can and try to wake up every day with a smile. A new baby is hard work but worth the things that you may lose in the short term. Good luck!
Take a recent mom with you when you register for your shower. You won't use half of the gadgets you think you need. I returned half mine.
Don't take advice from others to heart or as an insult on your parenting. I did that with my first. Mothers love to share their experiences and most really just want to help not insult you.
Accept help when its offered!!!!
Its always a good idea to listen to the pediatrician but sometimes listenting to your instinct is better. You are with your baby more than your doctor is. For example, if you feed your baby solids 2 days before that 4 month mark nothing is going to happen to your baby.
Don't read the baby book like its the bible.
Bring granny underwear to the hospital. Trust me. In case you have a C section you will be wishing you did.
dont overeat a ton like i did, gaining 70 lbs while pregnant is fine while youre pregnant, but once your not anymore its not so cute. and ask people to wait a couple days before visiting. i had people in my hospital room all freaking day and all i wanted to do was be alone with my hubby and baby. my aunt came in one of the days and sat for 5 hours and even sat while they checked my stitches and breasts. akward! and she wouldnt leave! you need those first few days to get to know your baby without everyone hovering. also, newborn diapers. i only got size one and up at my shower and when we got home they were soooooooo huge on my little guy, it was so sad. we didnt have any NEWBORN sized onesies, only0-3 months which were big on him too. anyways, good luck!
If you are going to breastfeed.... it is hard! It takes a while to get it down. I wish I had bought an electric pump and had it ready. I was SO stressed out that my baby wasn't latching on correctly and that I wasn't making enough milk for him. I ended up pumping and giving him bottles until he got the hang of breastfeeding, and I even gave him some formula to supplement. I wish someone had told me that it isn't easy and it's ok to give some supplements (i actually cried when the hospital gave him a formula supplement because I felt like I had failed as a mom), and to please RELAX!
I would say rest- the first few weeks after baby you really don't get to much. And to try and relax and enjoy her pregnancy, it doesn't matter if the house or the nursery isn't perfect. Your baby will be and that is the only thing that matters. The best advise I got for baby, was to love them and hold them as much as possible. I believe they are only little for a very short time, and then that's it. You will miss them being so tiny and lovable.
Sleep a lot, eat as much good food as you can, and don't stress out about things because as everyone told me throughout my entire pregnancy- things have a way or working out. take lots of belly pictures because i'm really glad i did. once you get close to your due date, take more because it's neat to have a picture the day before your baby was born. also if you stand on your feet for long periods of time at work you may want to consider leaving early. because it gets really difficult. but do your keigals (woah spelling) and walk as much as you feel comfy doing. it brings labor on in a timely matter and makes it much easier to push. also- don't freak out about labor because its going to happen no matter what. take everything one step at a time, do what the doctors and nurses say, and you'll be done with it before you know it.
rest as much as possible now.
make sure u have lots of LOVE and lots of $$$$$$ and make sure u are still with ur hubby/bf because of baby need a mommie and and daddy
Try not to stress about your delivery.Everything will be fine.Just try to relax and don't let anyone make you feel bad for anything you decide to do.
Don't feel bad about denying visitors when you first come home.I wish I would've done that.Don't feel bad about denying visitors at the hospital either.I was exhauseted and had people coming at 8 am every day not leaving until 10 or later at night.Needless to say, I was tired of it and them.
Let the housework go for a while and just rest and spend time with baby.You can't get those days back and you will regret it if you don't..
Unless you think you will need the help,don't let anyone stay that first week or 2.It was helpful but also a total nightmare.I feel like I missed out on my sons first week home because someone was always taking him from me.
You will get advice from everyone,but that doesn't mean you have to listen.Take what you need and just ignore the rest.Don't ignore your mommy instinct.It is almost never wrong..
Enjoy it!!It goes by so fast.For those of you that just had a baby what is one good advice that you would give a 5 month pregnant woman?
take the first 8 weeks minimum to learn how to breastfeed without worrying about wearing a shirt, having visitors etc. This would have made a world of difference for me. Instead, i had so many visitors that i was constantly covering up, or bottlefeeding, which ruins breastfeeding. Finally we got it down, and now he's 14 weeks old. So I would say no guests for 2 months so you can figure things out.
Get as much sleep as you can and walk as much as you can. This is your time, take advantage while you can. After your baby is born, it's all about the baby.
i definantly with the first answer tell family to come 24 hrs later i had visitors the same day and they left until 11 pm!!!!! and dont be afraid to ask 4 help.
If you haven't already, start a pregnancy journal. I didn't do this but so wish I did. I have no clue why I didn't. It would be really nice to read later how you felt each day. Also get plenty of sleep (if possible). Good Luck!
I wish I would have relaxed more. I went on a pretty strict diet. I wouldn't eat anything unhealthy. I wouldn't drink soda or anything unhealthy. I ate lots of fruits and veggies and drank plenty of water and milk. I took my vitamins daily. Anyway, my son was still born with problems. Yet a girl I know who adopted a drug addicted baby, he's just fine and doing much better than my son.
Once baby is here, do NOT put pressure on yourself to get everything done that you did before. Who cares if the house is messy, or the laundry is behind, or dishes are in the sink! Make caring for your baby and healing yourself after delivery your main concerns. Also, accept help!! If someone offers to bring over a meal, let them! If they offer to come over and do a load of laundry for you, let them! You're not superwoman, and the time with your newborn is no time to stress yourself out trying to be everything and a new mom.
Good luck and congrats!!
You need your rest. it will catch up to you, yes you will feel fine, but getting your rest after the baby born is very very important!!
And one other thing- you won't be pregnant forever. Yes, it'll feel like the last 2-3 weeks is taking its' time, but be patient and enjoy your last few days to yourself!! You WILL miss them!
Rest, try to get a lot of sleep and a pedicure. Get the extra long one right before you go into labor.
When resting snuggle up to your partner!!
Take time to bond with your new family ... alone... even if its for a few hours. I wish I would of asked visitors to give us at least 24 hours before they came to visit.
Get plenty of sleep, bond with your child, start saving money, and buy baragins.
Go to the movies, to concerts, to any of the activities that you love while you have the freedom to just go without any planning. Spend time with your partner. Have long bubble baths. Have a massage if you can find the extra cash (some places even do prenatal massage. Take the time to reflect on who you are right now-- maybe even starting a diary that keeps track of your feelings as you prepare for this major shift in your life. Tell your partner that you love them every single day. Read about birth, and try and figure out a rough idea of a birth plan.
Try to talk to your partner about division of labor post-baby. Try to get him to help out once the baby is born as much as possible. You will need time to recover.
Sleep in on the weekends while you still can and try to wake up every day with a smile. A new baby is hard work but worth the things that you may lose in the short term. Good luck!
Take a recent mom with you when you register for your shower. You won't use half of the gadgets you think you need. I returned half mine.
Don't take advice from others to heart or as an insult on your parenting. I did that with my first. Mothers love to share their experiences and most really just want to help not insult you.
Accept help when its offered!!!!
Its always a good idea to listen to the pediatrician but sometimes listenting to your instinct is better. You are with your baby more than your doctor is. For example, if you feed your baby solids 2 days before that 4 month mark nothing is going to happen to your baby.
Don't read the baby book like its the bible.
Bring granny underwear to the hospital. Trust me. In case you have a C section you will be wishing you did.
dont overeat a ton like i did, gaining 70 lbs while pregnant is fine while youre pregnant, but once your not anymore its not so cute. and ask people to wait a couple days before visiting. i had people in my hospital room all freaking day and all i wanted to do was be alone with my hubby and baby. my aunt came in one of the days and sat for 5 hours and even sat while they checked my stitches and breasts. akward! and she wouldnt leave! you need those first few days to get to know your baby without everyone hovering. also, newborn diapers. i only got size one and up at my shower and when we got home they were soooooooo huge on my little guy, it was so sad. we didnt have any NEWBORN sized onesies, only0-3 months which were big on him too. anyways, good luck!
If you are going to breastfeed.... it is hard! It takes a while to get it down. I wish I had bought an electric pump and had it ready. I was SO stressed out that my baby wasn't latching on correctly and that I wasn't making enough milk for him. I ended up pumping and giving him bottles until he got the hang of breastfeeding, and I even gave him some formula to supplement. I wish someone had told me that it isn't easy and it's ok to give some supplements (i actually cried when the hospital gave him a formula supplement because I felt like I had failed as a mom), and to please RELAX!
I would say rest- the first few weeks after baby you really don't get to much. And to try and relax and enjoy her pregnancy, it doesn't matter if the house or the nursery isn't perfect. Your baby will be and that is the only thing that matters. The best advise I got for baby, was to love them and hold them as much as possible. I believe they are only little for a very short time, and then that's it. You will miss them being so tiny and lovable.
Sleep a lot, eat as much good food as you can, and don't stress out about things because as everyone told me throughout my entire pregnancy- things have a way or working out. take lots of belly pictures because i'm really glad i did. once you get close to your due date, take more because it's neat to have a picture the day before your baby was born. also if you stand on your feet for long periods of time at work you may want to consider leaving early. because it gets really difficult. but do your keigals (woah spelling) and walk as much as you feel comfy doing. it brings labor on in a timely matter and makes it much easier to push. also- don't freak out about labor because its going to happen no matter what. take everything one step at a time, do what the doctors and nurses say, and you'll be done with it before you know it.
rest as much as possible now.
make sure u have lots of LOVE and lots of $$$$$$ and make sure u are still with ur hubby/bf because of baby need a mommie and and daddy
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