I'm 28, single, no friends, never had a girlfriend, too shy to talk to women, lonely and isolated. Any advice?

hiya, start going to the pubs and clubs,you are bound to meet girls there.there is aways girls looking for boyfriends.and that is the best place to find what you are looking for.loads of people are shy, boys and girls.just look for a girl that keeps looking at you,then offer to buy a drink for her.then take it from there.good luck,and have fun.xI'm 28, single, no friends, never had a girlfriend, too shy to talk to women, lonely and isolated. Any advice?
Begin with male friends, or you will be WAAAY too needy for any woman. Women like to say they want you to share everything with them, but they don't. Not unless you want to turn it into a friendship.





What are your interests? Get involved in other people who share them. Make male friends.





Once you've done that, you can worry about women. Given you are shy and completely inexperienced, I'd suggest you read up on some 'pick up artist' 'seduction' type stuff. Meeting women, flirting with them, escalating things, they are skills. Skills you don't currently have, but can learn with practice. FIgure out what you need to do, and practice. At first it will go badly, but make your goal to improve your skills at talking to women and flirting, NOT to get a woman right now. Once your skills improve, you'll be able to meet and flirt with lots of women, and then see where a genuine connection happens.I'm 28, single, no friends, never had a girlfriend, too shy to talk to women, lonely and isolated. Any advice?
:| aw that sucks!


You neeeeeeed confidence! Even if you just act confident, it helps.





Get a new job where you get to work with lots of people and use your new found confidence to get talking to people. Im sure you'll have lots of friends in no time...


For the ladies, well, we like shy men! They're better than the cocky arrogant ones!


I've always found that getting a little tipsy helps me be a bit more confident ;)





Do you have any one close to talk to?


that always helps!





Im sure everything will get better in time!





God bless!


x
I know how you feel I find it hard to make friends and I have been alone for over 40 years. it is hard to make friends and to meet people. Generally people go to college and learn a simple skill like cooking or creative writing or gardening and meet people that way. Another way is to do some volunteer work at the local hospital, hospice or charity shop and make friends that way. Another way is to go to a sports centre and join a Gym and meet people there. I used to volunteer at a local museum and made friends there.


I think most people feel like this so you are not alone. I have a great personality and sense of humour and i have trouble finding someone so it is a common problem. Try to think positive about yourself and what good qualities you have. I know its hard because of your problem but I am sure you have some nice good qualities that anyone would enjoy and want to know you. Take care and all the best and if it helps you can email me if you wish.
Don't be afraid, If you do you wont have a girlfriend or friends.





I would advice you to go to a quiet club the go up level untill you get a friend or maybe 2, 3 and so on





that is what my friend done (friend on yahoo)





I hoped i help you





And all so get out a little bit go and do your wardrobe ?


x
dont isolate urself get out and talk to girls,


its all kl man just dont be shy





once u talk to girls theyre as normal as anyone else i was in a all boys school for 5 years now i'm in a mixed 6th form and made loads of freinds that are girls, some randomly even hug me lol and its only been 4 weeks that i've know them
get a job make friends go out with your friends have a drink and a laugh and eventually you will met someone.





confidence is attractive to everyone.


you need to gain confidence or you wont have any friends or a girlfriend.


you need to speak to people.


if someone says hello to you say ';hi how are you?';


try not to be negative.





unless you try (even tho it will be hard) you will never get anywhere
Try to get involved in some local social groups. Things like college evening classes are good, sports clubs etc.


If it is really bad, and anxiety and/or low mood is a big issue try speaking to your GP who can refer you onto a community mental health team. They can assess you and signpost you to appropriate services. They may also know of confidence building groups, anxiety management groups etc.





Try looking at www.livinglifetothefull.com which is a good self help approach to low mood and anxiety.





Good luck.






Seek PSYCHOTHERAPY. Your emotional responses (and thereby your ability to connect with people) are STUNTED, by an inept upbringing. Your head is full of FOG that you can't feel, which is the only way your parents had of controlling you. See your GP with a view to being referred.
i'll be your friend. coz that's not weird at all (sarcasm). anyhu. just put yourself out there. it might be daunting, but what is the worse that can happen? rejection. yeah, that might suck, but you'll never know till you apporach someone.





just try to talk to people in general by putting yourself out there. from work or something...join a community or club or something.





sorry for the lack of helpfulness.
yeah i know what you mean cause i feel the same and in the same position as you and i don't have friends and i find it hard to speak to guys as well . people judge to much accept yourself for what you are and maybe you will find friends and a girl soon i hope . E-mail me back.



aww soz erm try to socalise more i'm trying to do that but i dont no how maybe join a dance group that way you would meet a woman and maybe fall in luv.





what about work dont u have any one u consider as a friend there if u do work, if nt get 1 u could make friends out of that.


just be your self and enjoy it . go clubbing or somet .








good luck hope it helps xxxxxxxxxxxx good luckxxxxxxxxxxx
Need someone to talk to on msn messenger? I understand how you feel bud. The only advice you need is, get a hobbie, get out more. If your shyness is really stopping you from going out and meeting people, you might need to consider seeing a therapist.
Maybe you could start talking to people in chat rooms to build up your confidence. Once you have done that maybe join a group or club that shares your interests.





Building some confidence seems to be the way forward.





Good luck mate
i think oyu should buy some new clothes treat yourself so you feel better in your self , then go out for a drink , you'll soon met a girl you like dont be shy go for it :),x



move out of your mom's basement and you will get a gf in no time. if that isn't working good enough then work out and drop that belly. talking isn't important in you look good and have your own place.
I was once in your position and what helped was taking chances and doing things that I never did. Go somewhere and just be yourself.
well u were able to send this in


just try and talk 2 people join in with activities try 2 but i know it can be hard but start some where hope this helps emma xx
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Porn my friend!
go get drunk and pull.
get a life