In my country the law and my religion allow me to get married to more than one woman,
the case is that the second wife to me is Egyptian , and she hold the Us nationality,for now we live in Egypt
but if we 're planning to move to Us ( the second wife and me only ) , is it agaings the law to have 2 wives , what to do.
if we planned to never fly to Us is there any penalties to any of us , thank you for your answers,
ByeI am muslim living in Egypt,i'm married,i'm planning to get married to an Egyptian-American woman,any advice?
You ask for advice, don't marry againI am muslim living in Egypt,i'm married,i'm planning to get married to an Egyptian-American woman,any advice?
y do u want to get married twice for?
muslims dont have to get married twice
is ur other wife happy that the fact that u got married again
no there isent any laws like that but remember ur have to treat both women equal, unless u got divorced with ur ';old one'; and is ur new one a muslim??? write back!!!
Monday, August 23, 2010
I want to date a beautiful woman that has been married twice before. Any advice?
make sure shes been divorced twice too...or it could get uglyI want to date a beautiful woman that has been married twice before. Any advice?
have a great time.
enjoy each other in every way.
don't be #3.pores
have a great time.
enjoy each other in every way.
don't be #3.
Advice about a general woman matter?
i was once with a woman about 15 years older than me in a relationship in the uk...
i am a foreigner...
i was staying in her house and room and we hardly knew each other , once she came downstairs holding my passport and laughing about it showing me the picture...
things went sour later on after i was gone and now i am far from her trying to figure out whether or not she took down my passport information on paper i have reason for which i need to know this and i cant call and ask her...
do you think she took it down?Advice about a general woman matter?
The over whelming majority of women are what we call ';insane bunny boilers';, she is likely one and will no doubt be abusing your identity in some way.Advice about a general woman matter?
What on earth makes you think this is a matter for ';general'; women? I have no idea what this person did 15 years ago.
I wouldn't worry too much though, as passport information is now held on computer networks. You can check with your embassy/consulate for an up-to-date report if you like.
How is this a ';general woman matter';? A GENERAL woman wouldn't have taken down anything but nobody knows whether she's a psycho. Only you could make that call, and even then it could be wrong.
I don't know what the person did for sure but this is a question of moral issue anyways.
So, is there a possibility someone took your passport information?
Maybe maybe not. If you still have your passport it shoudn't matter. If she took your passport there are many law's on the books in the UK to deal with her.
You can never tel the weirdness of women.
i am a foreigner...
i was staying in her house and room and we hardly knew each other , once she came downstairs holding my passport and laughing about it showing me the picture...
things went sour later on after i was gone and now i am far from her trying to figure out whether or not she took down my passport information on paper i have reason for which i need to know this and i cant call and ask her...
do you think she took it down?Advice about a general woman matter?
The over whelming majority of women are what we call ';insane bunny boilers';, she is likely one and will no doubt be abusing your identity in some way.Advice about a general woman matter?
What on earth makes you think this is a matter for ';general'; women? I have no idea what this person did 15 years ago.
I wouldn't worry too much though, as passport information is now held on computer networks. You can check with your embassy/consulate for an up-to-date report if you like.
How is this a ';general woman matter';? A GENERAL woman wouldn't have taken down anything but nobody knows whether she's a psycho. Only you could make that call, and even then it could be wrong.
I don't know what the person did for sure but this is a question of moral issue anyways.
So, is there a possibility someone took your passport information?
Maybe maybe not. If you still have your passport it shoudn't matter. If she took your passport there are many law's on the books in the UK to deal with her.
You can never tel the weirdness of women.
What actually helps a woman get pregnant ? any advice?
thanks in advance. no wanna be smart *** comments.What actually helps a woman get pregnant ? any advice?
OK about ovulation. According to the ovulation kit that I used...I would recommend you get one. (Clearblue Easy...digital) The digital ones are worth the extra money...no ambiguity. Ovulation occurs between 8 and 14 days after THE FIRST DAY OF YOUR PERIOD...not after your period ends. I actually ovulated 9 days after the first day of my period. I never would have believed that was when I ovulated if I hadn't been through this. I spent a year trying around the 14th day and got NOTHING. First month out with this kit I got pregnant.
Also, I made my husband abstain from any sort of release for a week before I ovulated, just to make sure he had plenty of swimmers. After I did also do the whole lay with your legs going up the headboard for 10 minutes or so. I don't know if any of these things helped but somehow it worked.What actually helps a woman get pregnant ? any advice?
have sex 2 days before and on the day of your ovulation...
www.peeonastick.com answers all your ovulation test kit questions, home pregnancy test questions, everything.
good luck!
Exercise more and become more physically fit. I don't know what you weigh or anything, but I have known many women who get pregnant after losing weight and exercising more often, including myself.
This may be too drastic for you but, there is a ';fertility drug'; available by prescription called ';Clomiphene';. As with any other fertility treatment, it's not the most ost effective but, it's nowhere near as expensive or time consuming as other medical methods, it is taken orally.
Ask you Dr. about it!
Hope this helped!
My doctor said that having sex every other day will increase your chances but having sex more often then that will decrease them. Take folic acid too. I have also heard that taken prenatal vitamins are really good too.
lol very funny! Well first it might help to find out when your ovulating. Normally Its about 14 days after your period. Than do the deed. lol when people plan to have a baby verses it being like a mistake or something....its usually just a big waiting game!
I heard eating ice cream. try it it won't hurt. ( im being serious)
OK about ovulation. According to the ovulation kit that I used...I would recommend you get one. (Clearblue Easy...digital) The digital ones are worth the extra money...no ambiguity. Ovulation occurs between 8 and 14 days after THE FIRST DAY OF YOUR PERIOD...not after your period ends. I actually ovulated 9 days after the first day of my period. I never would have believed that was when I ovulated if I hadn't been through this. I spent a year trying around the 14th day and got NOTHING. First month out with this kit I got pregnant.
Also, I made my husband abstain from any sort of release for a week before I ovulated, just to make sure he had plenty of swimmers. After I did also do the whole lay with your legs going up the headboard for 10 minutes or so. I don't know if any of these things helped but somehow it worked.What actually helps a woman get pregnant ? any advice?
have sex 2 days before and on the day of your ovulation...
www.peeonastick.com answers all your ovulation test kit questions, home pregnancy test questions, everything.
good luck!
Exercise more and become more physically fit. I don't know what you weigh or anything, but I have known many women who get pregnant after losing weight and exercising more often, including myself.
This may be too drastic for you but, there is a ';fertility drug'; available by prescription called ';Clomiphene';. As with any other fertility treatment, it's not the most ost effective but, it's nowhere near as expensive or time consuming as other medical methods, it is taken orally.
Ask you Dr. about it!
Hope this helped!
My doctor said that having sex every other day will increase your chances but having sex more often then that will decrease them. Take folic acid too. I have also heard that taken prenatal vitamins are really good too.
lol very funny! Well first it might help to find out when your ovulating. Normally Its about 14 days after your period. Than do the deed. lol when people plan to have a baby verses it being like a mistake or something....its usually just a big waiting game!
I heard eating ice cream. try it it won't hurt. ( im being serious)
What actually helps a woman get pregnant ? any advice?
thanks in advance. no wanna be smart *** comments.What actually helps a woman get pregnant ? any advice?
OK about ovulation. According to the ovulation kit that I used...I would recommend you get one. (Clearblue Easy...digital) The digital ones are worth the extra money...no ambiguity. Ovulation occurs between 8 and 14 days after THE FIRST DAY OF YOUR PERIOD...not after your period ends. I actually ovulated 9 days after the first day of my period. I never would have believed that was when I ovulated if I hadn't been through this. I spent a year trying around the 14th day and got NOTHING. First month out with this kit I got pregnant.
Also, I made my husband abstain from any sort of release for a week before I ovulated, just to make sure he had plenty of swimmers. After I did also do the whole lay with your legs going up the headboard for 10 minutes or so. I don't know if any of these things helped but somehow it worked.What actually helps a woman get pregnant ? any advice?
have sex 2 days before and on the day of your ovulation...
www.peeonastick.com answers all your ovulation test kit questions, home pregnancy test questions, everything.
good luck!
Exercise more and become more physically fit. I don't know what you weigh or anything, but I have known many women who get pregnant after losing weight and exercising more often, including myself.
This may be too drastic for you but, there is a ';fertility drug'; available by prescription called ';Clomiphene';. As with any other fertility treatment, it's not the most ost effective but, it's nowhere near as expensive or time consuming as other medical methods, it is taken orally.
Ask you Dr. about it!
Hope this helped!
My doctor said that having sex every other day will increase your chances but having sex more often then that will decrease them. Take folic acid too. I have also heard that taken prenatal vitamins are really good too.
lol very funny! Well first it might help to find out when your ovulating. Normally Its about 14 days after your period. Than do the deed. lol when people plan to have a baby verses it being like a mistake or something....its usually just a big waiting game!
I heard eating ice cream. try it it won't hurt. ( im being serious)
OK about ovulation. According to the ovulation kit that I used...I would recommend you get one. (Clearblue Easy...digital) The digital ones are worth the extra money...no ambiguity. Ovulation occurs between 8 and 14 days after THE FIRST DAY OF YOUR PERIOD...not after your period ends. I actually ovulated 9 days after the first day of my period. I never would have believed that was when I ovulated if I hadn't been through this. I spent a year trying around the 14th day and got NOTHING. First month out with this kit I got pregnant.
Also, I made my husband abstain from any sort of release for a week before I ovulated, just to make sure he had plenty of swimmers. After I did also do the whole lay with your legs going up the headboard for 10 minutes or so. I don't know if any of these things helped but somehow it worked.What actually helps a woman get pregnant ? any advice?
have sex 2 days before and on the day of your ovulation...
www.peeonastick.com answers all your ovulation test kit questions, home pregnancy test questions, everything.
good luck!
Exercise more and become more physically fit. I don't know what you weigh or anything, but I have known many women who get pregnant after losing weight and exercising more often, including myself.
This may be too drastic for you but, there is a ';fertility drug'; available by prescription called ';Clomiphene';. As with any other fertility treatment, it's not the most ost effective but, it's nowhere near as expensive or time consuming as other medical methods, it is taken orally.
Ask you Dr. about it!
Hope this helped!
My doctor said that having sex every other day will increase your chances but having sex more often then that will decrease them. Take folic acid too. I have also heard that taken prenatal vitamins are really good too.
lol very funny! Well first it might help to find out when your ovulating. Normally Its about 14 days after your period. Than do the deed. lol when people plan to have a baby verses it being like a mistake or something....its usually just a big waiting game!
I heard eating ice cream. try it it won't hurt. ( im being serious)
Any advice on what to do for Valentine's Day for a single woman in her 20's?
any events going on in teh Los Angeles area?Any advice on what to do for Valentine's Day for a single woman in her 20's?
Gather up your other single friends and have a girls' night out! Go to dinner, maybe a movie, etc. No reason to stay at home when other people are celebrating! :) You could even grab one or two single ladies and treat each other as your Valentines - buy each other cards, candy, etc. It's cute and fun, and you get to partake in the day's special events.Any advice on what to do for Valentine's Day for a single woman in her 20's?
well Valentines Day is a day for lovers.. go on a blind date!! or hurry and find urself a boyfriend
Look up a Lock and Key event. They're singles parties and I know they're doing something for that day.
Just be natural.
You should take her to dinner and a movie
A movie and dinner. And a flower if you can get it.
take her to a movie,give her candy,compliment her
and her favorite thing: SHOPPING!!
come and visit me. we can find a great restaurant and evening together
jewlery always works with a romantic dinner at home.
Find a concert, show to take in, movie, dinner, rent a dvd and pick up a cheap bottle of wine.....round up other signle ladies and go out for a fun night.......
Gather up your other single friends and have a girls' night out! Go to dinner, maybe a movie, etc. No reason to stay at home when other people are celebrating! :) You could even grab one or two single ladies and treat each other as your Valentines - buy each other cards, candy, etc. It's cute and fun, and you get to partake in the day's special events.Any advice on what to do for Valentine's Day for a single woman in her 20's?
well Valentines Day is a day for lovers.. go on a blind date!! or hurry and find urself a boyfriend
Look up a Lock and Key event. They're singles parties and I know they're doing something for that day.
Just be natural.
You should take her to dinner and a movie
A movie and dinner. And a flower if you can get it.
take her to a movie,give her candy,compliment her
and her favorite thing: SHOPPING!!
come and visit me. we can find a great restaurant and evening together
jewlery always works with a romantic dinner at home.
Find a concert, show to take in, movie, dinner, rent a dvd and pick up a cheap bottle of wine.....round up other signle ladies and go out for a fun night.......
Advice on woman liking you?
i know you cant make a woman like you, but is there any advice to make herget them butterflies and likable towards me, without looking desperate. thank youAdvice on woman liking you?
Be respectful to them. If you can see they have a new dress on or something, comment on it. Ask them what they are doing over Xmas and if they are looking forward to anything.
Talk about your interests aswel... Dont make it ALL about them, or it looks a bit obsessive.
Just try and be yourself the same time!
Good luck.Advice on woman liking you?
joking around,, talking alot,,having fun,,tell her she looks hot/nice/beautiful but not in the ''desperate looking way''!!
that always gets my eye on the guy!
(but allways matters what type of personality she is,, some girls hate it when guys say shes hot some girls like it....difference with ppl)
hope i helped!
Just be yourself, You cant be missed unless you are different.
Be there for them, Not to much cause then they exspect to be friends.
Be respectful to them. If you can see they have a new dress on or something, comment on it. Ask them what they are doing over Xmas and if they are looking forward to anything.
Talk about your interests aswel... Dont make it ALL about them, or it looks a bit obsessive.
Just try and be yourself the same time!
Good luck.Advice on woman liking you?
joking around,, talking alot,,having fun,,tell her she looks hot/nice/beautiful but not in the ''desperate looking way''!!
that always gets my eye on the guy!
(but allways matters what type of personality she is,, some girls hate it when guys say shes hot some girls like it....difference with ppl)
hope i helped!
Just be yourself, You cant be missed unless you are different.
Be there for them, Not to much cause then they exspect to be friends.
Any advice for a newly incontinent young woman?
Maybe you guys can offer me some advice I haven't received elsewhere or that I haven't thought of myself. Recently, as the result of some health problems, I'm left totally incontinent (as in: no control of my bowels or my bladder). There isn't much my doctor can do for me at this time, so I more or less have to deal with it. Its very tough considering that I'm 21 and I enjoy being out socially.
I feel like a baby, honestly, having to wear ';protective undergarments'; (though, lets face it, they're diapers) and having to constantly worry about when I'm going to have my next ';accident.'; I haven't told my friends much about it yet, and I'm afraid to. Furthermore, I'm afraid to even go out in public much anymore for the fear of being humiliated in front of everyone, regadless of whether they're familiar with my condition or not. Even if I was with all my friends, I don't think I can be comfortable having to excuse myself because everyone knows I just had an accident.
Thanks!Any advice for a newly incontinent young woman?
well if your friends are truly friends then they shouldn't be bothered or laugh at you. If they do they are losers and get rid of them. Your condition is not something that you asked for nor is it your fault and you should know that. Bottom line is you don't have to disclose your situation until you are comfortable and when you do you shouldn't feel bad about it because its life and everyone has something or other that they either wished they didn't or they are not proud of make the best out of your situation and be happy that you are still here!Any advice for a newly incontinent young woman?
See another doctor, one that will help you with your problems. You are way too yound to be having this problem and it can be fixed. Try doing kegal exercises to tighten muscles up down there
kegal.exercises.biolifedynamics.com
cut and paste this into your google bar
Hello,
I worked for many years at a MN company called America Medical Systems. They worked along with Dr. Bradley at the Baylor College of Medicine to develop an artificial sphincter muscle. This is how it works, it is a surgically implanted device. A cuff is attached around the neck of the bladder, where the natural sphincter is. Attached are some tubes and the tubes lead to a small reservoir filled with some fluid. There is a small bulb implanted in the labia Majora. When you do not wish to urinate you simply pump the bulb, this forces fluid into the cuff and stops the flow of urine. When you wish to urinate you squeeze another part of the bulb, this releases the fluid from the cuff allowing urine to pass, after you are done voiding you simply pump it up again. This has given people just like you a life again, I would suggest you contact them or a urologist that does the procedure. Again American Medical Systems, Minnetonka, Mn. Best of luck.pores
I feel like a baby, honestly, having to wear ';protective undergarments'; (though, lets face it, they're diapers) and having to constantly worry about when I'm going to have my next ';accident.'; I haven't told my friends much about it yet, and I'm afraid to. Furthermore, I'm afraid to even go out in public much anymore for the fear of being humiliated in front of everyone, regadless of whether they're familiar with my condition or not. Even if I was with all my friends, I don't think I can be comfortable having to excuse myself because everyone knows I just had an accident.
Thanks!Any advice for a newly incontinent young woman?
well if your friends are truly friends then they shouldn't be bothered or laugh at you. If they do they are losers and get rid of them. Your condition is not something that you asked for nor is it your fault and you should know that. Bottom line is you don't have to disclose your situation until you are comfortable and when you do you shouldn't feel bad about it because its life and everyone has something or other that they either wished they didn't or they are not proud of make the best out of your situation and be happy that you are still here!Any advice for a newly incontinent young woman?
See another doctor, one that will help you with your problems. You are way too yound to be having this problem and it can be fixed. Try doing kegal exercises to tighten muscles up down there
kegal.exercises.biolifedynamics.com
cut and paste this into your google bar
Hello,
I worked for many years at a MN company called America Medical Systems. They worked along with Dr. Bradley at the Baylor College of Medicine to develop an artificial sphincter muscle. This is how it works, it is a surgically implanted device. A cuff is attached around the neck of the bladder, where the natural sphincter is. Attached are some tubes and the tubes lead to a small reservoir filled with some fluid. There is a small bulb implanted in the labia Majora. When you do not wish to urinate you simply pump the bulb, this forces fluid into the cuff and stops the flow of urine. When you wish to urinate you squeeze another part of the bulb, this releases the fluid from the cuff allowing urine to pass, after you are done voiding you simply pump it up again. This has given people just like you a life again, I would suggest you contact them or a urologist that does the procedure. Again American Medical Systems, Minnetonka, Mn. Best of luck.
What does it mean when a married woman who has a flirtatious friendship with a guy turns to him for advice?
This would be a girl who does not like the friends girlfriend as the girlfriend caught them having an inappropriate conversation before she was married. They hide that they talk but she is getting more forward in contacting him. Shouldnt she be talking to her husband about her concerns? What does it mean that she is turning to the ';flirtatious friend'; ?What does it mean when a married woman who has a flirtatious friendship with a guy turns to him for advice?
She probably should be talking to her husband, and no, this isn't a good sign. Even if nothing comes of it, a person constantly putting themself in a situation that tempts fate is harming the situation. Not good. Hopefully, she'll realize what she is doing before she goes down an even more slippery slope.What does it mean when a married woman who has a flirtatious friendship with a guy turns to him for advice?
Theres phone sex, theres cyber sex and there are friends with benefits. Shes a slut.
well first of all you haven't cheated yet i hope, and about telling your husband about it well he aint going to like it or i say. But maybe your husband is into that, you know....so you mite tell him about it. also think about that your husband is doing that to you, would you like that, and if your turning into a flirtatious friend it mite be that your husband is not giving you that kind of attention, theres a lot of issues that go through a marriage goog luck i mean to that girl...............
She probably should be talking to her husband, and no, this isn't a good sign. Even if nothing comes of it, a person constantly putting themself in a situation that tempts fate is harming the situation. Not good. Hopefully, she'll realize what she is doing before she goes down an even more slippery slope.What does it mean when a married woman who has a flirtatious friendship with a guy turns to him for advice?
Theres phone sex, theres cyber sex and there are friends with benefits. Shes a slut.
well first of all you haven't cheated yet i hope, and about telling your husband about it well he aint going to like it or i say. But maybe your husband is into that, you know....so you mite tell him about it. also think about that your husband is doing that to you, would you like that, and if your turning into a flirtatious friend it mite be that your husband is not giving you that kind of attention, theres a lot of issues that go through a marriage goog luck i mean to that girl...............
I'm getting married next month, but I'm cheating on my fiance with a woman. Help? Advice?
I've been with my fiance for the past four years. I'm 23 years old and we are getting married next month. I've been a virgin because I want to save myself for marriage...at least I was. I recently begun sleeping with a girlfriend of mine who is a lesbian. My fiance doesn't know, and he thinks I am still saving myself for him (he is a virgin too). I technically lost my virginity to this girl, since she broke my hymen. I thought maybe it was experimentation and I want to tell my fiance about it, but lately I'm not even looking forward to marrying him. A part of me just wants to stay with her forever and keep having lesbian sex. I enjoy being with a woman and don't think I can be with a man ever. Is this just a phase? I don't think I should be getting married, I don't want to hurt him more than I have already. I don't even think I'm straight anymore...I'm getting married next month, but I'm cheating on my fiance with a woman. Help? Advice?
deep down you are a lesbian, and i beleive that people who are gay was born that way and environmental factors while growing up has influenced that. it sounds to me that your heart is with the girl and definately not the guy. if you really want to tell this guy go ahead but it is really none of his business and i would not if i were you. so it really makes no sense you get married cuz realistically you will be divorced in no time. make the right decision and ALWAYS follow your heartI'm getting married next month, but I'm cheating on my fiance with a woman. Help? Advice?
Tell your fiance and get out of that engagement. If you're going to cheat on him and don't love him, he has a right to know and to decide whether or not he wants to try and keep your relationship going. It's not fair to him or you and will just make things a lot more painful in the end if you try to force it to work out.
If you don't think you should be getting married....then you shouldn't! Regardless of whether or not you are straight or not. It doesn't matter if it is a phase (which I highly doubt) or if it is just this one girl...you cheated, repeatedly, and you no longer feel like you should be getting married to your fiance. You would be doing him (and yourself) a huge dis-service if you continued with this charade. You have to come clean, and do it now before things get any worse than they already are : )
If you feel you don't want to marry him then don't-marriage is not something to be taken lightly.I made that mistake %26amp; I was miserable for a long time until we split up %26amp; I came out,it hurt both of us.I've been very happy with who I am ever since %26amp; I'm now married to the real love of my life.
you need to sit down and talk to both of them
don't get married your not ready yet
figure out who you want to be with
you can be happy with a man or a women get married and have all those dreams you have
i wish you luck
Call off the wedding and figure out your feelings.
Well you defiantly are not straight %26amp; 2nd of all you need to tell your fiance about this he deserves to know the truth.
dont get married. your talking about the rest of your life here..not something to be taken lightly
Before it's too late, let him know. You will never be happy getting married and keeping a secret. And all the more you'll be hurting him when he finds out. Be honest!
deep down you are a lesbian, and i beleive that people who are gay was born that way and environmental factors while growing up has influenced that. it sounds to me that your heart is with the girl and definately not the guy. if you really want to tell this guy go ahead but it is really none of his business and i would not if i were you. so it really makes no sense you get married cuz realistically you will be divorced in no time. make the right decision and ALWAYS follow your heartI'm getting married next month, but I'm cheating on my fiance with a woman. Help? Advice?
Tell your fiance and get out of that engagement. If you're going to cheat on him and don't love him, he has a right to know and to decide whether or not he wants to try and keep your relationship going. It's not fair to him or you and will just make things a lot more painful in the end if you try to force it to work out.
If you don't think you should be getting married....then you shouldn't! Regardless of whether or not you are straight or not. It doesn't matter if it is a phase (which I highly doubt) or if it is just this one girl...you cheated, repeatedly, and you no longer feel like you should be getting married to your fiance. You would be doing him (and yourself) a huge dis-service if you continued with this charade. You have to come clean, and do it now before things get any worse than they already are : )
If you feel you don't want to marry him then don't-marriage is not something to be taken lightly.I made that mistake %26amp; I was miserable for a long time until we split up %26amp; I came out,it hurt both of us.I've been very happy with who I am ever since %26amp; I'm now married to the real love of my life.
you need to sit down and talk to both of them
don't get married your not ready yet
figure out who you want to be with
you can be happy with a man or a women get married and have all those dreams you have
i wish you luck
Call off the wedding and figure out your feelings.
Well you defiantly are not straight %26amp; 2nd of all you need to tell your fiance about this he deserves to know the truth.
dont get married. your talking about the rest of your life here..not something to be taken lightly
Before it's too late, let him know. You will never be happy getting married and keeping a secret. And all the more you'll be hurting him when he finds out. Be honest!
Any advice to a middle aged woman on how to lose weight..fast?
I've tried the diets, I exercise....but am having no luck losing I want to lose 25 lbs by the new year help!!Any advice to a middle aged woman on how to lose weight..fast?
Thanks for helping me with my question. If you have children it would help a lot. You could change the whole family's diet and that would be beneficial to everyone if you usually eat junk. Exercise! 30 minutes a day is a really good start. Walk whenever you can, you don't necessarily need to cut foods out, it's proportion size. Eat like your French basically they have 3 small meals a day. Try not to eat any processed foods, even if it's one of those microwave meals that say it's low in calories. Eat fresh and start from scratch. Drink lots of lots of water (the daily recommended intake is 2000ml - 2 litres) because it suppresses your appetite and leaves you feeling as if you've eaten and are full. If you don't really like water then add some concentrated juice to it or just drink green tea which is even better as it has flavour and has 0 calories.
Here are some ways to suppress food cravings but they'll really help you if you're planning on losing weight.
Start your day with oatmeal: Oatmeal has a high amount of fiber that suppresses your food craving for a long time during the day. Real oatmeal is better than instant oatmeal because its fiber content is higher. You can also add some flaxseed oil into the oatmeal for more appetite suppression.
Put some flaxseed into your diet: Flaxseed oil is an excellent source of omega-3, that reduces your risk of coronary heart disease. Flaxseed also contains about eight grams of fiber that can help curb your hunger. Sprinkle flaxseed oil on your veggies and salads to effectively suppress your appetite.
Drink a glass of water: Water is a powerful appetite suppressant. Every time you start to feel hungry, immediately drink an eight-ounce glass of water. Now, be patient and wait for 10 minutes after drinking the glass of water. Usually, you’ll find that your appetite is greatly reduced or completely gone.
Reduce your appetite with pine nuts: Pine nuts contain the most protein of all other nuts and seeds. Pine nuts have an appetite suppressing pinolenic acid that naturally reduces hunger. The polyunsaturated fat in pine nuts gives you a full feeling that can last for a while.
Go green: Green leafy vegetables can give you the power to hack your diet. You can eat an unlimited quantity of cabbage, lettuce, bokchoy, and other leafy vegetables because they have virtually zero calories. They will make you feel full and turn off the hunger signals in your brain. Simply make them into a salad, add a little bit of dressing, and eat to your heart’s content.
Settle for soups: Sipping soup is a great way to reduce your hunger and lose weight. Most soups have a high water content and low calories, except for the creamy types. Eat a couple of bowls of soup per day to suppress your food cravings.
Weigh less by eating whey: Drinking liquid meals that contain whey protein powder suppresses appetite since whey affects your hormones and gives you that full feeling. Whey also builds your muscles, lowers your blood pressure, and aids in your weight loss.
Exercise: Tricking your brain into thinking you’ve consumed lots of calories has a catch — sooner or later, it will figure out that you don’t have enough energy and your hunger will return. It’s too late for that though, because you’ve delayed the onset of hunger for an hour or more. You can delay the onset of hunger even further by exercising daily because exercise converts stored body fat into blood sugar, which suppresses your food cravings.
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These are some healthy and low fat ideas for a day:
Breakfast: Oats with prunes or dried fruits and green tea
Lunch: Fresh salad with chicken strips, beetroot, olives and red onions OR a salmon sandwich (wholemeal bread) and a drink of water OR soup.
Dinner: Steamed fish or grilled steak with asparagus, tomatoes, cucumbers and brown rice.
In between you could have some of the 5 fruit and vegetables as snacks like carrot shavings or apples. Any fruit and vegetable basically and remember to drink 2000ml of water. These are all healthy dinners and are generally low fat depending on how much you have of it so keep the portion fairly small.Any advice to a middle aged woman on how to lose weight..fast?
First of all dont focus on ';weight'; focus on ';body fat';
Body fat is what you want to loose to look better. Weight can be deceiving because muscle weighs more than fat and any additional muscle is good because more muscle equals more metabolism equals more burned calories equals easier fat loss.... and the cycle continues.
You want to eat 20% under your Base Metabolic rate, no more and no less. this is the optimum amount of calories for maximum fat burn. Use the diet calorie calculator on this page:
http://burning-the-fat.com/DCC/
That will take into consideration your activity level. Also the more you workout the more calories your burn and the higher your 20% deficit is. So if you workout, not only can you eat more and feel more full throughout the day, but your calorie deficit is larger so you burn more fat, so workout as much as you can.
Here is an example of what i mean:
Female, 30yrs, lazy, 145 lbs would need about 1600 calories in a day to maintain weight. To loose maximum fat that would be 20% less, so that would be about 1300 calories. Only a 300 calories deficit, which will take a while to add up to significant fat loss.
On the other hand, take that same woman and calculate everything again with her working out every day: She would need to eat 2400 calories to maintain her weight and 1900 calories for maximum fat loss. As you can see the active woman's calorie deficit is 500 calories now and she can eat alot more each day, which , lets face it is a definite benefit over starving yourself and feeling uncomfortable and hungry.
Hope that helps
Well to answer your question it would take ime but here is a workout or thing that might help :
1)Stop eating and excercise intensely. (time consumed: about a week, maybe)
2) Dehydrate yourself. Do not drink any water, and you can lose up to 10 pounds (time consumed: a day or two)
3) Get lipo-suction (time consumed: idk, i guess a few hours)
4) Cut off a limb. (time consumed: instantaneous)
you need to find an exercise and eating (notice I didn't say DIET) plan that works for you;
You also need to find a strenuous physical activity that you actually enjoy, it might just be walking.
Pretty soon your friends will be asking you for advice!
Good luck, you can do this!!
Avoid “white” carbohydrates
Avoid any carbohydrate that is — or can be — white. The following foods are thus prohibited, except for within 1.5 hours of finishing a resistance-training workout of at least 20 minutes in length: bread, rice, cereal, potatoes, pasta, and fried food with breading. If you avoid eating anything white, you’ll be safe.
* Take one pound at a time
* Set Reachable Goals
* Stay off the scales
* Stay focused on being healthy, not thin
* Fat Free?
* Drink plenty of water
* Reward yourself
* Seek help if you need it
* Watch your portions
* Eat your food slowly
- Healthy life every day!
Thanks for helping me with my question. If you have children it would help a lot. You could change the whole family's diet and that would be beneficial to everyone if you usually eat junk. Exercise! 30 minutes a day is a really good start. Walk whenever you can, you don't necessarily need to cut foods out, it's proportion size. Eat like your French basically they have 3 small meals a day. Try not to eat any processed foods, even if it's one of those microwave meals that say it's low in calories. Eat fresh and start from scratch. Drink lots of lots of water (the daily recommended intake is 2000ml - 2 litres) because it suppresses your appetite and leaves you feeling as if you've eaten and are full. If you don't really like water then add some concentrated juice to it or just drink green tea which is even better as it has flavour and has 0 calories.
Here are some ways to suppress food cravings but they'll really help you if you're planning on losing weight.
Start your day with oatmeal: Oatmeal has a high amount of fiber that suppresses your food craving for a long time during the day. Real oatmeal is better than instant oatmeal because its fiber content is higher. You can also add some flaxseed oil into the oatmeal for more appetite suppression.
Put some flaxseed into your diet: Flaxseed oil is an excellent source of omega-3, that reduces your risk of coronary heart disease. Flaxseed also contains about eight grams of fiber that can help curb your hunger. Sprinkle flaxseed oil on your veggies and salads to effectively suppress your appetite.
Drink a glass of water: Water is a powerful appetite suppressant. Every time you start to feel hungry, immediately drink an eight-ounce glass of water. Now, be patient and wait for 10 minutes after drinking the glass of water. Usually, you’ll find that your appetite is greatly reduced or completely gone.
Reduce your appetite with pine nuts: Pine nuts contain the most protein of all other nuts and seeds. Pine nuts have an appetite suppressing pinolenic acid that naturally reduces hunger. The polyunsaturated fat in pine nuts gives you a full feeling that can last for a while.
Go green: Green leafy vegetables can give you the power to hack your diet. You can eat an unlimited quantity of cabbage, lettuce, bokchoy, and other leafy vegetables because they have virtually zero calories. They will make you feel full and turn off the hunger signals in your brain. Simply make them into a salad, add a little bit of dressing, and eat to your heart’s content.
Settle for soups: Sipping soup is a great way to reduce your hunger and lose weight. Most soups have a high water content and low calories, except for the creamy types. Eat a couple of bowls of soup per day to suppress your food cravings.
Weigh less by eating whey: Drinking liquid meals that contain whey protein powder suppresses appetite since whey affects your hormones and gives you that full feeling. Whey also builds your muscles, lowers your blood pressure, and aids in your weight loss.
Exercise: Tricking your brain into thinking you’ve consumed lots of calories has a catch — sooner or later, it will figure out that you don’t have enough energy and your hunger will return. It’s too late for that though, because you’ve delayed the onset of hunger for an hour or more. You can delay the onset of hunger even further by exercising daily because exercise converts stored body fat into blood sugar, which suppresses your food cravings.
___________
These are some healthy and low fat ideas for a day:
Breakfast: Oats with prunes or dried fruits and green tea
Lunch: Fresh salad with chicken strips, beetroot, olives and red onions OR a salmon sandwich (wholemeal bread) and a drink of water OR soup.
Dinner: Steamed fish or grilled steak with asparagus, tomatoes, cucumbers and brown rice.
In between you could have some of the 5 fruit and vegetables as snacks like carrot shavings or apples. Any fruit and vegetable basically and remember to drink 2000ml of water. These are all healthy dinners and are generally low fat depending on how much you have of it so keep the portion fairly small.Any advice to a middle aged woman on how to lose weight..fast?
First of all dont focus on ';weight'; focus on ';body fat';
Body fat is what you want to loose to look better. Weight can be deceiving because muscle weighs more than fat and any additional muscle is good because more muscle equals more metabolism equals more burned calories equals easier fat loss.... and the cycle continues.
You want to eat 20% under your Base Metabolic rate, no more and no less. this is the optimum amount of calories for maximum fat burn. Use the diet calorie calculator on this page:
http://burning-the-fat.com/DCC/
That will take into consideration your activity level. Also the more you workout the more calories your burn and the higher your 20% deficit is. So if you workout, not only can you eat more and feel more full throughout the day, but your calorie deficit is larger so you burn more fat, so workout as much as you can.
Here is an example of what i mean:
Female, 30yrs, lazy, 145 lbs would need about 1600 calories in a day to maintain weight. To loose maximum fat that would be 20% less, so that would be about 1300 calories. Only a 300 calories deficit, which will take a while to add up to significant fat loss.
On the other hand, take that same woman and calculate everything again with her working out every day: She would need to eat 2400 calories to maintain her weight and 1900 calories for maximum fat loss. As you can see the active woman's calorie deficit is 500 calories now and she can eat alot more each day, which , lets face it is a definite benefit over starving yourself and feeling uncomfortable and hungry.
Hope that helps
Well to answer your question it would take ime but here is a workout or thing that might help :
1)Stop eating and excercise intensely. (time consumed: about a week, maybe)
2) Dehydrate yourself. Do not drink any water, and you can lose up to 10 pounds (time consumed: a day or two)
3) Get lipo-suction (time consumed: idk, i guess a few hours)
4) Cut off a limb. (time consumed: instantaneous)
you need to find an exercise and eating (notice I didn't say DIET) plan that works for you;
You also need to find a strenuous physical activity that you actually enjoy, it might just be walking.
Pretty soon your friends will be asking you for advice!
Good luck, you can do this!!
Avoid “white” carbohydrates
Avoid any carbohydrate that is — or can be — white. The following foods are thus prohibited, except for within 1.5 hours of finishing a resistance-training workout of at least 20 minutes in length: bread, rice, cereal, potatoes, pasta, and fried food with breading. If you avoid eating anything white, you’ll be safe.
* Take one pound at a time
* Set Reachable Goals
* Stay off the scales
* Stay focused on being healthy, not thin
* Fat Free?
* Drink plenty of water
* Reward yourself
* Seek help if you need it
* Watch your portions
* Eat your food slowly
- Healthy life every day!
Any advice on meeting an attractive woman?
After getting divorced, losing job, losing house, and moving far away, I feel like the life has been sucked out of me. I'm in a rut. I don't relate to folks where I have moved. Any advice on starting over? Any advice on meeting an attractive woman?Any advice on meeting an attractive woman?
first off you have to be yourself or in the long rn you will be wors off, second you must be confindent or else same result, and third you have to be wanting love and be searching for it and you can't ever be shy or it will take forever for you to find love.Any advice on meeting an attractive woman?
i was in a pretty bad breakup. Do yourself a favor, be single for a while. Evaluate yourself, learn about urself then improve yourself. You end up in a divorce for a reason and no matter what you feel, you are 50% at fault.
Find out what every one of those faults are and correct them. Move to big cities, pretty girls go there to make something out of themselves.
Good Luck
be your self pal and let the past be just that the past. my opion?
first off you have to be yourself or in the long rn you will be wors off, second you must be confindent or else same result, and third you have to be wanting love and be searching for it and you can't ever be shy or it will take forever for you to find love.Any advice on meeting an attractive woman?
i was in a pretty bad breakup. Do yourself a favor, be single for a while. Evaluate yourself, learn about urself then improve yourself. You end up in a divorce for a reason and no matter what you feel, you are 50% at fault.
Find out what every one of those faults are and correct them. Move to big cities, pretty girls go there to make something out of themselves.
Good Luck
be your self pal and let the past be just that the past. my opion?
What should I do next? (I want EVERY woman's advice)?
A few months ago, towards the end of the summer, I met a woman who I thought was great from the moment that I noticed her. The second time that I saw her, we had a discussion about random things with a few other people and afterwards, I asked and received her phone number. For the first few weeks, we hit it off really well. We talked when we had the chance but texted for what turned out to be hours. After a few weeks, we had a great time just walking and enjoy the sites together, which turned out to be really romantic. We ended up kissing for the 1st and probably 6th time in that one night. For approx. the next 2 weeks, that momentum carried on but by the end of that, things changed. When I tried to kiss her, she wouldn't want to, we didn't see each other much and talked on the phone minimally. When I asked her if something was wrong, she said ';No, I've just been busy'; which is reasonable, but nothing's changed. It's been months. What do you think that I should do? More details coming.What should I do next? (I want EVERY woman's advice)?
Gosh, it could be any number of things. She was just infatuated, she was leading you on (Why ?) or she has found someone else that she is now infatuated with. For some people (women and men) it's all about the chase and the excitement of a new relationship. When the novelty is gone they are ready to move on. These are only guesses ... If it were me in this situation, and she couldn't give me a better answer than ';I've just been busy';, I would back off for awhile and see how she responds to the distance between you. If she is really interested in you or wants a closer relationship with you ... she'll let you know.What should I do next? (I want EVERY woman's advice)?
I think you should leave her behind......shes probably cheating on u........find a girl who wants to kiss .... i mean she (says) shes to busy but with what guys or work????thats my question
Obviously ';been busy'; is her way of telling you that ';you're not numero uno anymore';. She's been busy with someone else or something more important than you.
She tried you, liked you for a while, now she's ready to move on.
So should you.
she might be seeing someone else or maybe she really is busy, but just wait out and see what happens
Okay this sounds harsh, But it seems like shes gone off you, And doesnt want to tell you and hurt you. She obviously cares about you though, Just back off for a bit, only text if she texts you, If she doesnt text at all for about a week send a text asking how she is and that so she doesnt forget you, She probly just needs some space, Good luck x
If she's not opening up to you and it's been months, then clearly she has trust issues. It's obvious to you (and even to me!) that there's something bothering her, and because she won't talk about it and openly discuss her feelings, it's obvious that she is having a hard time trusting you 100%. This is probably because she's been hurt by some jerk(s) in the past. I know it's not your fault, but DON'T BLAME HER for being scared to open up. It's really hard to trust again after having your heart broken.
Keep being yourself, caring for her and letting her know she can count on you- and hopefully, she will finally realize she can trust you and she'll open up. Until then, be patient.
Good luck! :)
Sounds like she's trying to back off. Maybe she freaked herself out by getting so close so fast. Give her some space. If its meant to work between you she'll make her way back and it wll be better. But dont hold on so tight in case.
play the field, until you find that right one
ask her straight up does she want serious relationship with you
maybe she wants to go slow with things
. . . .
ask her if shes still intrested in you, if shes not then you dont have to waste your time on her
This actually happened to a guy i had been talking with not too long ago. I really liked him at first, and we started getting close, then i pushed him away. It seems to happen with a lot of girls. They tend to freak themselves out, and find ';flaws'; in a man. Not that there's anything wrong with you, but when we get freaked out , when tend to come up with every reason in the book to stray away from a relationship.
Just respect her wishes of taking it slow...Maybe offer to take her out a night she is free, to take her mind out of the chaotic schedule she has. Just make her feel as comfortable as possible around you, and see if she'll make a move. Definitely ask her about it though you know? Ask her what she wants in a relationship and those sort of things.
hope that helped
For WHATEVER reason, she has cooled off. Let it go for a while and see if she comes to You. If not, it's over.
Ask her what's wrong and why she's acting that way. And apologize right away for ANYTHING you may have said/done.
I don't need more details to tell you that ';she's just not that into you'; Whatever it was that pushed her buttons, those buttons aren't being pushed anymore. She doesn't want to share why. She may not know the reason herself.
Let her go.
How old are y'all? If you are over 50, it could be hormonal, and not mean anything.
If you are a lot younger than that, try chocolate, flowers, and wine! Tf that doesn't work, keep looking!
';If she won't love, you cannot make her! The devil take her!';
ok, since you want 'every woman's advice' here's mine....I think she is backing off....not enough info to know why, but for some reason....backing off.....
I think u shouls back off, too, and see where it goes from there...
maybe she saw things were getting serious with you %26amp; she didnt want a serious relationship at the moment. shes probally giving you space from her so the relationship doesnt get too serious. i bet shes like me...she likes the beginng of a relationship but when things gets too serious i dont wanna say iM scared that the feelings will be different but just ugh...it hard to explain its a girl thing...maybe shes in a point in her life where she likes being single but still having sumbody on the side without being serious with them then agian it could be the fact that some people are scared of relationships.
I think you should just give it some time and see if things change and go back to how they use to be, if they dont you should really sit her down and try to talk to her to see whats really good with you two.
It sounds like your lady friend is waiting for you to either crap or get off the pot! Sorry to be so blunt but there is nothing more irritating than a man who will not ask what a woman wants, needs or expects in the relationship. If I am no longer interested in a man that is when I suddenly get ';busy'; and no longer talk much or see him. You need to ask her out for coffee and have a talk as to what she is expecting from you, what she would like to do with the relationship and if she is still interested in persuing one with you. Better you find out now what her ';intentions'; are before you get any deeper in with her. Best of luck to you and take charge! Don't be bossy and have an attitude but most women like a man who can make decisions!
Enlighten that Spirit of yours %26amp; move on; never settle for someone who doesn't want you around.
Gosh, it's hard to say. From the info you have given it sounds like she did a 360. Women at times don' t want to hurt others feelings. Perhaps you should tell her what you have posted. Not word for word but let her know that things aren't the same and that it's totally fine if she's honest with you. It's better to let you now if something is wrong than down the line. Usually when you have a feeling something is wrong other then ';being busy'; it usually it. Good Luck :)
ok, what did you do....
i wouldn't attempt to contact her anymore. some women grow curious from a lack of attention...maybe she would.
Maybe she is not as in to it anymore. But she could be scared. She might have lost someone close who she fell in love with before. She may be scared of love. She may just not know what to do. Just try to talk to her. She just may have a difficult problem in her life that has nothing to do with you and needs someone to talk to about it. And you should be that person. Good Luck! :]
thats really tough. if your friends with any of her friends you could ask them if anythings up, usually girls friends like to help the guy out, unless the guy did something stupid. dont push to hard, of corse, but still try to do romantic things so she thinks of you in the best possible way, you want her to think about you and the good things about you, not flaws. well, thats the best i got. good luck!
~ccroks
You should move on. It sounds like she changed her mind about how she felt about you and didn't know how to tell you so she just let it fade away... sorry.
It sounds like her feelings have cooled. I would step back for a while; if she's into you, she'll make a step in your direction. If not, look elsewhere.
It sounds as though she is not interested in you anymore. There are plenty of great women out there. The worse they can say if you ask them out is ';no.'; Keep trying, don't stop asking women out that you think are attractive. The more you talk to women, the better you will get at being able to figure out what they like and what they don't like, and the easier it will be to talk and not text all the time.
what do you mean sites? where you on vacation or living somewhere else temporarily?
Two weeks used to be my limit too.
You get tired of guys because they become too serious too soon and become clingy.
I don't see much hope here if she's been avoiding you especially when she didn't want to kiss you, that's like the kiss of death. Er. Figuratively of course. More details please.
My first thought would be....';Has she met someone else?';..... That is what usually happens.......So just ask her to be honest with you.......Only if you think you can handle it.....
Good Luck
Honestly, it sounds to me like she might have met someone else. You guys had some great, romantic dates obviously but any time a relationship is new, there is what I call the ';feeling out'; stage, which can last quite a while. I would straight up ask her if she is dating someone else. It's possible that you maybe wanted to get too close too fast while she was still maybe not wanting to be exclusive. The best thing to do is to ask her if she is seeing someone else. Sure sounds that way to me.
snag that azz
Gosh, it could be any number of things. She was just infatuated, she was leading you on (Why ?) or she has found someone else that she is now infatuated with. For some people (women and men) it's all about the chase and the excitement of a new relationship. When the novelty is gone they are ready to move on. These are only guesses ... If it were me in this situation, and she couldn't give me a better answer than ';I've just been busy';, I would back off for awhile and see how she responds to the distance between you. If she is really interested in you or wants a closer relationship with you ... she'll let you know.What should I do next? (I want EVERY woman's advice)?
I think you should leave her behind......shes probably cheating on u........find a girl who wants to kiss .... i mean she (says) shes to busy but with what guys or work????thats my question
Obviously ';been busy'; is her way of telling you that ';you're not numero uno anymore';. She's been busy with someone else or something more important than you.
She tried you, liked you for a while, now she's ready to move on.
So should you.
she might be seeing someone else or maybe she really is busy, but just wait out and see what happens
Okay this sounds harsh, But it seems like shes gone off you, And doesnt want to tell you and hurt you. She obviously cares about you though, Just back off for a bit, only text if she texts you, If she doesnt text at all for about a week send a text asking how she is and that so she doesnt forget you, She probly just needs some space, Good luck x
If she's not opening up to you and it's been months, then clearly she has trust issues. It's obvious to you (and even to me!) that there's something bothering her, and because she won't talk about it and openly discuss her feelings, it's obvious that she is having a hard time trusting you 100%. This is probably because she's been hurt by some jerk(s) in the past. I know it's not your fault, but DON'T BLAME HER for being scared to open up. It's really hard to trust again after having your heart broken.
Keep being yourself, caring for her and letting her know she can count on you- and hopefully, she will finally realize she can trust you and she'll open up. Until then, be patient.
Good luck! :)
Sounds like she's trying to back off. Maybe she freaked herself out by getting so close so fast. Give her some space. If its meant to work between you she'll make her way back and it wll be better. But dont hold on so tight in case.
play the field, until you find that right one
ask her straight up does she want serious relationship with you
maybe she wants to go slow with things
. . . .
ask her if shes still intrested in you, if shes not then you dont have to waste your time on her
This actually happened to a guy i had been talking with not too long ago. I really liked him at first, and we started getting close, then i pushed him away. It seems to happen with a lot of girls. They tend to freak themselves out, and find ';flaws'; in a man. Not that there's anything wrong with you, but when we get freaked out , when tend to come up with every reason in the book to stray away from a relationship.
Just respect her wishes of taking it slow...Maybe offer to take her out a night she is free, to take her mind out of the chaotic schedule she has. Just make her feel as comfortable as possible around you, and see if she'll make a move. Definitely ask her about it though you know? Ask her what she wants in a relationship and those sort of things.
hope that helped
For WHATEVER reason, she has cooled off. Let it go for a while and see if she comes to You. If not, it's over.
Ask her what's wrong and why she's acting that way. And apologize right away for ANYTHING you may have said/done.
I don't need more details to tell you that ';she's just not that into you'; Whatever it was that pushed her buttons, those buttons aren't being pushed anymore. She doesn't want to share why. She may not know the reason herself.
Let her go.
How old are y'all? If you are over 50, it could be hormonal, and not mean anything.
If you are a lot younger than that, try chocolate, flowers, and wine! Tf that doesn't work, keep looking!
';If she won't love, you cannot make her! The devil take her!';
ok, since you want 'every woman's advice' here's mine....I think she is backing off....not enough info to know why, but for some reason....backing off.....
I think u shouls back off, too, and see where it goes from there...
maybe she saw things were getting serious with you %26amp; she didnt want a serious relationship at the moment. shes probally giving you space from her so the relationship doesnt get too serious. i bet shes like me...she likes the beginng of a relationship but when things gets too serious i dont wanna say iM scared that the feelings will be different but just ugh...it hard to explain its a girl thing...maybe shes in a point in her life where she likes being single but still having sumbody on the side without being serious with them then agian it could be the fact that some people are scared of relationships.
I think you should just give it some time and see if things change and go back to how they use to be, if they dont you should really sit her down and try to talk to her to see whats really good with you two.
It sounds like your lady friend is waiting for you to either crap or get off the pot! Sorry to be so blunt but there is nothing more irritating than a man who will not ask what a woman wants, needs or expects in the relationship. If I am no longer interested in a man that is when I suddenly get ';busy'; and no longer talk much or see him. You need to ask her out for coffee and have a talk as to what she is expecting from you, what she would like to do with the relationship and if she is still interested in persuing one with you. Better you find out now what her ';intentions'; are before you get any deeper in with her. Best of luck to you and take charge! Don't be bossy and have an attitude but most women like a man who can make decisions!
Enlighten that Spirit of yours %26amp; move on; never settle for someone who doesn't want you around.
Gosh, it's hard to say. From the info you have given it sounds like she did a 360. Women at times don' t want to hurt others feelings. Perhaps you should tell her what you have posted. Not word for word but let her know that things aren't the same and that it's totally fine if she's honest with you. It's better to let you now if something is wrong than down the line. Usually when you have a feeling something is wrong other then ';being busy'; it usually it. Good Luck :)
ok, what did you do....
i wouldn't attempt to contact her anymore. some women grow curious from a lack of attention...maybe she would.
Maybe she is not as in to it anymore. But she could be scared. She might have lost someone close who she fell in love with before. She may be scared of love. She may just not know what to do. Just try to talk to her. She just may have a difficult problem in her life that has nothing to do with you and needs someone to talk to about it. And you should be that person. Good Luck! :]
thats really tough. if your friends with any of her friends you could ask them if anythings up, usually girls friends like to help the guy out, unless the guy did something stupid. dont push to hard, of corse, but still try to do romantic things so she thinks of you in the best possible way, you want her to think about you and the good things about you, not flaws. well, thats the best i got. good luck!
~ccroks
You should move on. It sounds like she changed her mind about how she felt about you and didn't know how to tell you so she just let it fade away... sorry.
It sounds like her feelings have cooled. I would step back for a while; if she's into you, she'll make a step in your direction. If not, look elsewhere.
It sounds as though she is not interested in you anymore. There are plenty of great women out there. The worse they can say if you ask them out is ';no.'; Keep trying, don't stop asking women out that you think are attractive. The more you talk to women, the better you will get at being able to figure out what they like and what they don't like, and the easier it will be to talk and not text all the time.
what do you mean sites? where you on vacation or living somewhere else temporarily?
Two weeks used to be my limit too.
You get tired of guys because they become too serious too soon and become clingy.
I don't see much hope here if she's been avoiding you especially when she didn't want to kiss you, that's like the kiss of death. Er. Figuratively of course. More details please.
My first thought would be....';Has she met someone else?';..... That is what usually happens.......So just ask her to be honest with you.......Only if you think you can handle it.....
Good Luck
Honestly, it sounds to me like she might have met someone else. You guys had some great, romantic dates obviously but any time a relationship is new, there is what I call the ';feeling out'; stage, which can last quite a while. I would straight up ask her if she is dating someone else. It's possible that you maybe wanted to get too close too fast while she was still maybe not wanting to be exclusive. The best thing to do is to ask her if she is seeing someone else. Sure sounds that way to me.
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Hysterectomy or not ,I'm 41 and my periods last for 11 days or more and heavy and hurts needs a woman's advice
A hysterectomy is probably what your going to end up having in the long run i had an endometrial ablation June 15Th after bleeding on and off for years ( nothing regular ) the ablation didn't work so still hemorrhaging panic/anxiety attacks brought on my menopause so now they are doing the hysterectomy August 29Th which is there ASAP date because of the attacks so please go get it seen to asap ~ good luckHysterectomy or not ,I'm 41 and my periods last for 11 days or more and heavy and hurts needs a woman's advice
consult a gynaecologist immediately dont waste time in dng such things hereHysterectomy or not ,I'm 41 and my periods last for 11 days or more and heavy and hurts needs a woman's advice
I have been having the same problem. Did the D%26amp;C 6 weeks ago Wed. I am still having same problem as before. I went through the shots and pills but no relief. Finally after a year I'll have relief and have the hysterectomy only as a last resort. I'm 41 also. Talk to your doctor and see whats the best solution for you especially if your not planning on having any kids.
See your doctor. I was having the same problem and had an endometrial ablation with a D%26amp;C last week. My doctor thinks that may work in helping with the heavy bleeding and cramping. My doctor also told me that your insurance generally will want you to try other treatment options before having a hysterectomy...sorry! I wanted to go ahead and have the hysterectomy as well, I'm 40.
Definitely see your doctor. I'm going through the same thing, and just last week my doctor informed me that he thinks I have adenomyosis. The only treatment is a hysterectomy.
at 41, if youre through having children, I would certainly discuss it with my doctor...and I say yes, absolutely.
you definitely need to see a doctor. my aunt had something like this and had to go on hormone treatments. definitely get it checked out, please. the fact that it hurts is not normal and 11 days? that's pretty long...you even say 11 days or more--that's close to 2 weeks.pores
consult a gynaecologist immediately dont waste time in dng such things hereHysterectomy or not ,I'm 41 and my periods last for 11 days or more and heavy and hurts needs a woman's advice
I have been having the same problem. Did the D%26amp;C 6 weeks ago Wed. I am still having same problem as before. I went through the shots and pills but no relief. Finally after a year I'll have relief and have the hysterectomy only as a last resort. I'm 41 also. Talk to your doctor and see whats the best solution for you especially if your not planning on having any kids.
See your doctor. I was having the same problem and had an endometrial ablation with a D%26amp;C last week. My doctor thinks that may work in helping with the heavy bleeding and cramping. My doctor also told me that your insurance generally will want you to try other treatment options before having a hysterectomy...sorry! I wanted to go ahead and have the hysterectomy as well, I'm 40.
Definitely see your doctor. I'm going through the same thing, and just last week my doctor informed me that he thinks I have adenomyosis. The only treatment is a hysterectomy.
at 41, if youre through having children, I would certainly discuss it with my doctor...and I say yes, absolutely.
you definitely need to see a doctor. my aunt had something like this and had to go on hormone treatments. definitely get it checked out, please. the fact that it hurts is not normal and 11 days? that's pretty long...you even say 11 days or more--that's close to 2 weeks.
I need help in this situation with my woman, any advice?
I have always had a high sex drive. My woman had a low sex drive to begin with. I settled and adjusted to her level of sex drive which was a low level sex drive. Later, she developed cysts in her uterus and it hurt when she had sex with me. So we didn't have sex at all. I waited and waited, trying to be faithful after 4 months of having no sex at all...I cheated on her. I was doing everything possible to avoid cheating on her for 4 straight months of no sex at all. She didn't want to have oral sex with me because she couldn't enjoy sex with me. How selfish of her right? Well, I probably wouldn't have cheated if she just fulfilled my needs regardless. She refused to do oral sex because we couldn't have full total sex. So for four months I went without. Was I wrong for that? Later, I told her, she was hurt. I tried to break it up with her because I wasn't strong enough to go through this situation with her. She doesn't want to leave me. However, let me tell you she stays with me, and the place is in my name which means it's my place. I don't really think she loves me, just using me all along for a place to live. Or at least I thought that around the time I cheated. Now that she's had her hysterectomy and it's been 4 months now, she's healed but says she has no nerve endings because she had a full hysterectomy, so she doesn't want to have sex with me because she can't feel it now that she had the surgery, she says its numb down there. We get into arguments that root from my sexual frustration. I told her what if you never get your nerve endings back to where you can enjoy sex, do you expect me to stay with you and never have a sex life again. We're not married we've only been dating for a year. She expects me to live my whole life if possible without sex because of her medical condition. Again, she doesn't want to give me oral sex because she doesn't feel comfortable having full sex. This is not right, I feel. She's being selfish too right? I'm thinking about moving on. Would you if you were in my situation. I know relationships aren't based on sex, but I'm not getting any at all and it's been months now. I try all the time to break up but she doesn't want to. Again, sometimes I believe it's because she needs a place to stay. I was with her when she had her hysterectomy at the hospital and I know this is hard on women, believe me however, it's hard on me as well. Sometimes I want to throw in the towel with this relationship. What should I do?I need help in this situation with my woman, any advice?
It's only been a year and I think you are right on a lot of things. She does not want to leave for several reasons but I suggest you give her a time frame to get her act together and get out. You stood by her during her time of need but the fighting will just go on forever. The last thing you want is for her to guilt you. if you lost your penis would she stay with you? I doubt not. Even when you wanted a little she made it seem like a lot. she wants you to feel sorry for her. Tell her you do not love her and it's time for her to go. Surgery or not your sex life went out the door ages ago and the shared misery will go one until one of you stop it..I need help in this situation with my woman, any advice?
I think you're disgusting.
But more then that, you guys don't belong together. Break up.
It's only been a year and I think you are right on a lot of things. She does not want to leave for several reasons but I suggest you give her a time frame to get her act together and get out. You stood by her during her time of need but the fighting will just go on forever. The last thing you want is for her to guilt you. if you lost your penis would she stay with you? I doubt not. Even when you wanted a little she made it seem like a lot. she wants you to feel sorry for her. Tell her you do not love her and it's time for her to go. Surgery or not your sex life went out the door ages ago and the shared misery will go one until one of you stop it..I need help in this situation with my woman, any advice?
I think you're disgusting.
But more then that, you guys don't belong together. Break up.
Advice on woman liking you?
i know you cant make a woman like you, but is there any advice to make herget them butterflies and likable towards me, without looking desperate. thank youAdvice on woman liking you?
Whisper sweet things in her ear....describe your feelings for her....tell her you're thinking of her.....the cornier, the more it sticks! (people will deny it) but it's true!
Men don't look desperate....they sound sexy.....the more you appeal to her vanity, the more she will remember you.....even if it's to question the sincerity of your words and thoughts! She's thinking of you nonetheless!Advice on woman liking you?
Treat her like a bloke. Show her that your the guvnor. Don't ask her anything just tell her. If you don't then a bloke who talks like this will take her away from you. Now go and tell her to put the kettle on.
complement them say something witty then wink at them and leave
just be cool and wear deodorant lol
Whisper sweet things in her ear....describe your feelings for her....tell her you're thinking of her.....the cornier, the more it sticks! (people will deny it) but it's true!
Men don't look desperate....they sound sexy.....the more you appeal to her vanity, the more she will remember you.....even if it's to question the sincerity of your words and thoughts! She's thinking of you nonetheless!Advice on woman liking you?
Treat her like a bloke. Show her that your the guvnor. Don't ask her anything just tell her. If you don't then a bloke who talks like this will take her away from you. Now go and tell her to put the kettle on.
complement them say something witty then wink at them and leave
just be cool and wear deodorant lol
I'm 21 and in love with a 29 year-old woman and she is a single mother with three kids. I need some advice pls?
I just want to know what you think about it. ThanksI'm 21 and in love with a 29 year-old woman and she is a single mother with three kids. I need some advice pls?
You are 21 and you are an adult now. You can take your own decisions. If you are okay with the relationship, don't care about what others say.I'm 21 and in love with a 29 year-old woman and she is a single mother with three kids. I need some advice pls?
That's a big responsibility but if you love her go for it !! I would know because i have 1 child myself and its not easy so i can just imagine what 3 would be like... If you truly love her and care about her and not using her for a MILF fantasy then thats fine.
Been there, done that. I miss the girls, I miss her parents, but I don't miss her. It is difficult if you get attached to family then break up.
you can do better.
if u love her, then go for it! :)
You are 21 and you are an adult now. You can take your own decisions. If you are okay with the relationship, don't care about what others say.I'm 21 and in love with a 29 year-old woman and she is a single mother with three kids. I need some advice pls?
That's a big responsibility but if you love her go for it !! I would know because i have 1 child myself and its not easy so i can just imagine what 3 would be like... If you truly love her and care about her and not using her for a MILF fantasy then thats fine.
Been there, done that. I miss the girls, I miss her parents, but I don't miss her. It is difficult if you get attached to family then break up.
you can do better.
if u love her, then go for it! :)
I want to ask out an older woman, any advice ladies?
I met this girl last night, she is absolutely gorgeous, a ton of fun, but most importantly, seems really, really nice. The problem is, she is 31 and I'm 25. She seemed like she might be interested in me, to be honest, I got mixed signals. I got her number, and I plan on calling her tomorrow night to ask if she wants to go out on new years. Assuming she says yes, do you older ladies have any advice for me on the date?
I know most women do not like younger guys, and I know almost everyone says this, but I am not like most guys my age. I have a successful career and I am looking for a serious, committed relationship.
Aside from avoiding the typical first date pitfalls, what can I do to win a slightly older woman over? I was thinking single rose, so as not to go overboard, then a casual but classy bar/lounge. However, is there anything I should say/do/talk about to alleviate her incertitude about my age? (she is very worldly, likes to travel, and is a teacher if that helps)
Thanks!I want to ask out an older woman, any advice ladies?
Just go for it simple as that xI want to ask out an older woman, any advice ladies?
don't bring up that she is older, unless she does.
she does not think she is old, and she is not.
she will feel uncomfortable if she thinks its a big deal to you.
your plan sounds good. as with any woman, you should try to be a good listener and get her to talk about herself. Everyone likes to talk about themselves.
Just relax and do it! Good luck.
This is not a problem. Just be yourself and let the date flow naturally. Age should not be an issue or even come up.
The only difference with dating someone a bit older is that they have a better idea of what they want, what works for them etc... so pay attention and be a good listener!
ANother tip, since both of you are out of college awhile, no college bar like atmosphere etc... probably a lounge or places like that where you can actually have a conversation.
Good Luck
What do you want to ';win her over'; for? Sex?
If yes, then what's your problem with the age difference?
What, 35 year olds (yecch, so OLD!) don't do it?
So how old was your mother or your friends' mother when you/they were born?
You're in love? Tell her. What has age difference got to do with love?? My mother was 28 years old and she married a 19 year old. He died at the age of 45 and she died at the age of 85....What does that mean to you?
Its not true that girls dont like younger guys.
I am thinking about dating a younger guy who has asked me out myself (I am 24, he is 21).
I think she will find it a turn on that you are younger. Just act like a man and do all the things guys normally do on dates - open doors, offer her your jacket and be protective.
The biggest thing is to act very mature. None of the childish stuff. Assure her that you are stable, goal oriented, not looking for someone to take care of you, ambitious, and you know what you want out of life, even if you don't. lol
Tell her why you are attracted to her, don't come on too strong, read her signals, and go from there. Good luck, and btw, some of us do like younger guys.
u have a good career,a good attitude,who doesnt like that?
i say go ahead,she`ll fall 4 u! be nice,show good manners and she`ll be totally impressed!
by aunt is three years older than my uncle and she only married him becuz he had a good career and a good attitude!go on.
Hope this helps!=)
I am an older woman who dates younger guys. I do not look my age and I am not attracted to guys that are my age.
I like a confident guy, one that knows what to do and takes charge.
It is the same dating situation regardless of age. Dont worry about it. Just dont get fall down drunk!
I read your added notes - I would do a nice resturant and have dinner then find a place that has a nice bar for after dinner drinks.
I know most women do not like younger guys, and I know almost everyone says this, but I am not like most guys my age. I have a successful career and I am looking for a serious, committed relationship.
Aside from avoiding the typical first date pitfalls, what can I do to win a slightly older woman over? I was thinking single rose, so as not to go overboard, then a casual but classy bar/lounge. However, is there anything I should say/do/talk about to alleviate her incertitude about my age? (she is very worldly, likes to travel, and is a teacher if that helps)
Thanks!I want to ask out an older woman, any advice ladies?
Just go for it simple as that xI want to ask out an older woman, any advice ladies?
don't bring up that she is older, unless she does.
she does not think she is old, and she is not.
she will feel uncomfortable if she thinks its a big deal to you.
your plan sounds good. as with any woman, you should try to be a good listener and get her to talk about herself. Everyone likes to talk about themselves.
Just relax and do it! Good luck.
This is not a problem. Just be yourself and let the date flow naturally. Age should not be an issue or even come up.
The only difference with dating someone a bit older is that they have a better idea of what they want, what works for them etc... so pay attention and be a good listener!
ANother tip, since both of you are out of college awhile, no college bar like atmosphere etc... probably a lounge or places like that where you can actually have a conversation.
Good Luck
What do you want to ';win her over'; for? Sex?
If yes, then what's your problem with the age difference?
What, 35 year olds (yecch, so OLD!) don't do it?
So how old was your mother or your friends' mother when you/they were born?
You're in love? Tell her. What has age difference got to do with love?? My mother was 28 years old and she married a 19 year old. He died at the age of 45 and she died at the age of 85....What does that mean to you?
Its not true that girls dont like younger guys.
I am thinking about dating a younger guy who has asked me out myself (I am 24, he is 21).
I think she will find it a turn on that you are younger. Just act like a man and do all the things guys normally do on dates - open doors, offer her your jacket and be protective.
The biggest thing is to act very mature. None of the childish stuff. Assure her that you are stable, goal oriented, not looking for someone to take care of you, ambitious, and you know what you want out of life, even if you don't. lol
Tell her why you are attracted to her, don't come on too strong, read her signals, and go from there. Good luck, and btw, some of us do like younger guys.
u have a good career,a good attitude,who doesnt like that?
i say go ahead,she`ll fall 4 u! be nice,show good manners and she`ll be totally impressed!
by aunt is three years older than my uncle and she only married him becuz he had a good career and a good attitude!go on.
Hope this helps!=)
I am an older woman who dates younger guys. I do not look my age and I am not attracted to guys that are my age.
I like a confident guy, one that knows what to do and takes charge.
It is the same dating situation regardless of age. Dont worry about it. Just dont get fall down drunk!
I read your added notes - I would do a nice resturant and have dinner then find a place that has a nice bar for after dinner drinks.
Mums of yahoo - do you trust a woman's advice more than a man?
Just wondering. If you post a question and get several answers from both mums and dads, do you automatically think less of the dads answers?
I have to confess, unless I have seen that they are a stay at home dad, I assume that they haven't personally had to deal with the things that I do as a stay at home mum. I saw an answer from a dad earlier about keeping children in strict routines and wondered how much his wife sticks to his rules!
Just curious really, what do the rest of you think?Mums of yahoo - do you trust a woman's advice more than a man?
I trust dads opinions but my husband and my own dad are really good dads so I know all their advice is good. I think you only feel like that if you dont know hands on dads.
EdiT; I think its cause your husband cant do it that you think all men cant. My husband can be left on his own and make dinner,tidy house and care for our daughter. He does it all the time when I am at work and out. He is really good at it and he is better than me cause I cant cook and he can do it all. My husband could run teh house better than me in my opinion but thats one of the reasons I married him as I dont want a traditional manMums of yahoo - do you trust a woman's advice more than a man?
I am a stay at home mom, so by default, I go with the women. But the Best person to trust is yourself...and your child's doctor.
My husband is really good at tough answers when I am in a pickle. Still I still go with my gut on most things.
When I was in school for Childcare/Psychology there were quite a few guys in the class that were educated and interested in the subject.
Don't count the guys out totally.
As for mister routine, it is really hard to tell who you are actually talking to or getting advise from when you are on the computer. First you have to trust that the person put the correct information in the title, then are they being serious. (He probably made the rules, if his wife didn't, she will try, but probably not stick to the routines.)
Well, honestly, it really depends on the question and answer that an individual gives. But, in my case, I trust a man's answer (legit answer of course). This is for a couple of reasons:
1.) My husband is better at disciplining than I am.
2.) My husband is better at maintaining order in the household than I am.
3.) My husband has more patience that I do.
4.) My husband is really just better at the whole parenting thing than I am as he has been helping raise little kids his whole life whereas I had never even held a baby before I had my first child (who is now 3) when I was 21 years old.
My dad was the same way. So yep, to an extent, I'd trust the guys more! No offense! God bless!
Actually, the best piece of advice I have been given came from a Daddy. It was in regards to basically what you asked here. I questioned my husband’s methods to parent our son and this person told me that Mom’s have one method of parenting and Daddy’s have another. Neither is right nor wrong, they’re just different.
And because of that answer, I just listen to the responses I get from a question asked and choose the best answer for my situation. And it doesn’t matter to me if it’s a male/female, mother/father, or a person with no kids at all.
I have actually seen some really good advice from moms and dads on here. My daughter's peditrician is a man and he is the best. Has five kids of his own so he gives good practical advice.
On the other hand, my husband works all day and hasn't been around babies much. Neither was his dad. Some of the things they tell me to do with my daughter I don't pay a lot of attention too. Not that I think they are stupid-its just not practical.
I agree with on the above posters. Good advice is good advice..no matter the gender.
I will tell you that good advice is good advice. I totally get where you are coming from. There are a couple of ';regulars'; that come to my mind whose advice ';ranks'; over other males in general. I will say that I'm actually partial to advice from people whose answers I am familiar with and I usually agree with anyway. People who seem to have sense. I usually think more of their opinion than people I've never seen before.
Yea my husband is the same way. God help you all if he ever figure out how to use YA, you would all be in trouble. :-)
I generally don't ask for specific advice here...why would I trust complete strangers with my child?
On the occasion that I ask here it's simply to measure my own opinion on a matter...that's about it.
As far as gender...I think I go more by the content of the answer, not by the sex of the answerer...
Idiots come in both genders...
I take the advice of men. Unless as you said it's anything to do with pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding etc anything that they personally never have to deal with.
But apart from that gender doesn't bother me - too much anyway.
I don't trust anyone's advice, really. I consider it and decide whether it makes sense and would work within the values and structure of my life and family.
Men's ideas are just as worthy of consideration as women's, though
I don't make any assumptions about the gender of the person answering the question regardless of what their avatar indicates. Anyone can say they are a mum or a dad on the internet.
i have given a lot of good advice to a lot of mums on here, but its other female answerers that give me loads of thumbs down, but i still get a lot of top answers from the askers though.
I tend to trust the women more...especially if the men are advising me on the state of being pregnant! They do that sometimes which is very annoying actually...they cannot comment unless they are doctors.
I equally trust woman and men's answers . I've met some wonderful dads on here as well as some wonderful moms.
I have not noticed the gender of the person answering the question.. Good advice is good advice to me!
No way. I go with what answer makes most sense to me. My partner states things about our daughter that don't occur to me so I really value a dad's point of view too
When i ask factual questions generally men answer. if its emotional or personal women come out!
Dont know why??
No both men and woman can offer good advice.
Well, I usually don't even notice whether it is a man or woman.
--I do get what you mean though.
I kind of agree, not that I think a dad is any less capible of knowing things about children %26amp; so on but I feel better taking advice from other moms. I guess it's a woman thing.
Good Luck!
I have to confess, unless I have seen that they are a stay at home dad, I assume that they haven't personally had to deal with the things that I do as a stay at home mum. I saw an answer from a dad earlier about keeping children in strict routines and wondered how much his wife sticks to his rules!
Just curious really, what do the rest of you think?Mums of yahoo - do you trust a woman's advice more than a man?
I trust dads opinions but my husband and my own dad are really good dads so I know all their advice is good. I think you only feel like that if you dont know hands on dads.
EdiT; I think its cause your husband cant do it that you think all men cant. My husband can be left on his own and make dinner,tidy house and care for our daughter. He does it all the time when I am at work and out. He is really good at it and he is better than me cause I cant cook and he can do it all. My husband could run teh house better than me in my opinion but thats one of the reasons I married him as I dont want a traditional manMums of yahoo - do you trust a woman's advice more than a man?
I am a stay at home mom, so by default, I go with the women. But the Best person to trust is yourself...and your child's doctor.
My husband is really good at tough answers when I am in a pickle. Still I still go with my gut on most things.
When I was in school for Childcare/Psychology there were quite a few guys in the class that were educated and interested in the subject.
Don't count the guys out totally.
As for mister routine, it is really hard to tell who you are actually talking to or getting advise from when you are on the computer. First you have to trust that the person put the correct information in the title, then are they being serious. (He probably made the rules, if his wife didn't, she will try, but probably not stick to the routines.)
Well, honestly, it really depends on the question and answer that an individual gives. But, in my case, I trust a man's answer (legit answer of course). This is for a couple of reasons:
1.) My husband is better at disciplining than I am.
2.) My husband is better at maintaining order in the household than I am.
3.) My husband has more patience that I do.
4.) My husband is really just better at the whole parenting thing than I am as he has been helping raise little kids his whole life whereas I had never even held a baby before I had my first child (who is now 3) when I was 21 years old.
My dad was the same way. So yep, to an extent, I'd trust the guys more! No offense! God bless!
Actually, the best piece of advice I have been given came from a Daddy. It was in regards to basically what you asked here. I questioned my husband’s methods to parent our son and this person told me that Mom’s have one method of parenting and Daddy’s have another. Neither is right nor wrong, they’re just different.
And because of that answer, I just listen to the responses I get from a question asked and choose the best answer for my situation. And it doesn’t matter to me if it’s a male/female, mother/father, or a person with no kids at all.
I have actually seen some really good advice from moms and dads on here. My daughter's peditrician is a man and he is the best. Has five kids of his own so he gives good practical advice.
On the other hand, my husband works all day and hasn't been around babies much. Neither was his dad. Some of the things they tell me to do with my daughter I don't pay a lot of attention too. Not that I think they are stupid-its just not practical.
I agree with on the above posters. Good advice is good advice..no matter the gender.
I will tell you that good advice is good advice. I totally get where you are coming from. There are a couple of ';regulars'; that come to my mind whose advice ';ranks'; over other males in general. I will say that I'm actually partial to advice from people whose answers I am familiar with and I usually agree with anyway. People who seem to have sense. I usually think more of their opinion than people I've never seen before.
Yea my husband is the same way. God help you all if he ever figure out how to use YA, you would all be in trouble. :-)
I generally don't ask for specific advice here...why would I trust complete strangers with my child?
On the occasion that I ask here it's simply to measure my own opinion on a matter...that's about it.
As far as gender...I think I go more by the content of the answer, not by the sex of the answerer...
Idiots come in both genders...
I take the advice of men. Unless as you said it's anything to do with pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding etc anything that they personally never have to deal with.
But apart from that gender doesn't bother me - too much anyway.
I don't trust anyone's advice, really. I consider it and decide whether it makes sense and would work within the values and structure of my life and family.
Men's ideas are just as worthy of consideration as women's, though
I don't make any assumptions about the gender of the person answering the question regardless of what their avatar indicates. Anyone can say they are a mum or a dad on the internet.
i have given a lot of good advice to a lot of mums on here, but its other female answerers that give me loads of thumbs down, but i still get a lot of top answers from the askers though.
I tend to trust the women more...especially if the men are advising me on the state of being pregnant! They do that sometimes which is very annoying actually...they cannot comment unless they are doctors.
I equally trust woman and men's answers . I've met some wonderful dads on here as well as some wonderful moms.
I have not noticed the gender of the person answering the question.. Good advice is good advice to me!
No way. I go with what answer makes most sense to me. My partner states things about our daughter that don't occur to me so I really value a dad's point of view too
When i ask factual questions generally men answer. if its emotional or personal women come out!
Dont know why??
No both men and woman can offer good advice.
Well, I usually don't even notice whether it is a man or woman.
--I do get what you mean though.
I kind of agree, not that I think a dad is any less capible of knowing things about children %26amp; so on but I feel better taking advice from other moms. I guess it's a woman thing.
Good Luck!
Is it harmful to have an relation with 45 years woman ? Im 30 PLease advice?
dude ... this happens men tend 2 fall for older woman ...Is it harmful to have an relation with 45 years woman ? Im 30 PLease advice?
no i do not think it is harmful to date with 15 years between you. at those respective ages both of you should have enough sufficient life experiences, and growth of maturity. to date.
it is way different, than saying '; is a 15 year difference harmful when a 30 year old is dating a 15 year old. of course it is. that is harmful there is no experience, no maturity, and one is still a child.
id say by the ages given in your circumstances it would be ok. both of you have had time to grow up. the only set back might be differences in generational values.
ie hippies vs like grandparents where things were more conservative.Is it harmful to have an relation with 45 years woman ? Im 30 PLease advice?
In a sense, yes. Because it's taken you out of circulation while you're in your prime. When she hits 50, you'd be 35. At that point, if it bothers you to be with a 50 yo woman, and you call it quit, then you'd have lost the prime of your life between 30-35 where you should be developing relationship with someone more suitable. Now if you stay with her until she's 60 and you change your mind, then you'll be scrambling at 45. See where I'm going? Good luck.
no is perfectly normal, she won't have the same insecurities and hangups of a younger lady and will be more mature and relaxed in herself and confidence is always attractive,
Would you be thinking this if was 30 yr old woman and 45 yr old man, is too much DOUBLE STANDARDS as far as dating is concerned, you can't help who you fall in love with.
Relationship are always generated through heart. If you are in realtion ship with a woman this is emotional attachment. So it directly proportional to your emotional attachment with that woman. So need not to bother about and keep your heart strongly attached to that woman unless untill it affects both of you, socially and persoanlly.
Well, I guess you like her, right? So what麓s the fuzz??
Do you think a 45 years old man would post this question here and ask if it麓s okay to have a 30 years old girl friend???
No, of course not...
Don麓t care about what people might think or say, it麓s your business and nobodies else麓s.
Are you happy with her? Yes?? So... have a good time, enjoy and if you really love her, go and marry her...
Live your life!!
Good luck!
No...It happens...But if you are a married man the lady is also an married ,then there is a problem...You must be faithful to your partner....
Age not a problem beside she also is a woman. Not too old which only different of 15 years only
In or out chose one dont be in the middle ...... do what you feel best for you... irrespective of if its harmful or not.... so enjoy life as an how it comes
age does not matter, you should be concerned and careful about getting any disease, practise safe sex
Age is just a number. There are plenty of couples like you. Look at Demi Moore she's 45 and she's dating a 30 yr old.
well in love when sex does not matter then where does age come into play?hey derz nothing rong....just live life king size!
if shes ugly then yes harmful.
Harmful? what do you mean by that? at 45 she is still a woman!
I don't think so. You're both adults.
It can be good and healthy for both of you to have this experience.
No...is her hooha any differnt than a 30 year olds??
Relation mean what kind ?
She is like ur mother....respect her....
dont worry abt that
but be secure while ..............
give us more details
no harm till ur mom dznt kick ur *** off!!pores
no i do not think it is harmful to date with 15 years between you. at those respective ages both of you should have enough sufficient life experiences, and growth of maturity. to date.
it is way different, than saying '; is a 15 year difference harmful when a 30 year old is dating a 15 year old. of course it is. that is harmful there is no experience, no maturity, and one is still a child.
id say by the ages given in your circumstances it would be ok. both of you have had time to grow up. the only set back might be differences in generational values.
ie hippies vs like grandparents where things were more conservative.Is it harmful to have an relation with 45 years woman ? Im 30 PLease advice?
In a sense, yes. Because it's taken you out of circulation while you're in your prime. When she hits 50, you'd be 35. At that point, if it bothers you to be with a 50 yo woman, and you call it quit, then you'd have lost the prime of your life between 30-35 where you should be developing relationship with someone more suitable. Now if you stay with her until she's 60 and you change your mind, then you'll be scrambling at 45. See where I'm going? Good luck.
no is perfectly normal, she won't have the same insecurities and hangups of a younger lady and will be more mature and relaxed in herself and confidence is always attractive,
Would you be thinking this if was 30 yr old woman and 45 yr old man, is too much DOUBLE STANDARDS as far as dating is concerned, you can't help who you fall in love with.
Relationship are always generated through heart. If you are in realtion ship with a woman this is emotional attachment. So it directly proportional to your emotional attachment with that woman. So need not to bother about and keep your heart strongly attached to that woman unless untill it affects both of you, socially and persoanlly.
Well, I guess you like her, right? So what麓s the fuzz??
Do you think a 45 years old man would post this question here and ask if it麓s okay to have a 30 years old girl friend???
No, of course not...
Don麓t care about what people might think or say, it麓s your business and nobodies else麓s.
Are you happy with her? Yes?? So... have a good time, enjoy and if you really love her, go and marry her...
Live your life!!
Good luck!
No...It happens...But if you are a married man the lady is also an married ,then there is a problem...You must be faithful to your partner....
Age not a problem beside she also is a woman. Not too old which only different of 15 years only
In or out chose one dont be in the middle ...... do what you feel best for you... irrespective of if its harmful or not.... so enjoy life as an how it comes
age does not matter, you should be concerned and careful about getting any disease, practise safe sex
Age is just a number. There are plenty of couples like you. Look at Demi Moore she's 45 and she's dating a 30 yr old.
well in love when sex does not matter then where does age come into play?hey derz nothing rong....just live life king size!
if shes ugly then yes harmful.
Harmful? what do you mean by that? at 45 she is still a woman!
I don't think so. You're both adults.
It can be good and healthy for both of you to have this experience.
No...is her hooha any differnt than a 30 year olds??
Relation mean what kind ?
She is like ur mother....respect her....
dont worry abt that
but be secure while ..............
give us more details
no harm till ur mom dznt kick ur *** off!!
Dealing with sexual depression in pregnancy? Woman's advice please!?
Ok Heres the deal. I'm 32.5 weeks pregnant with baby number 3. With the first two i was pretty happy and energetic throughout both the pregnancies and myself and my hubby had no problems having sex. With this one though, i feel completely different as i am a little bigger than i was with the other 2 and things ';inside'; feel different and awkward too. I love being intimate with my partner, and i'm getting really depressed that i can't / don't want to be because of the way im feeling, and i know hes suffering too as it's not about the sex itself as it is about connecting with each other... Is there neway that i can beat this? I just want to get back to feeling like me again...Dealing with sexual depression in pregnancy? Woman's advice please!?
Things are different with this pregnancy. You are a little older this time, you have more children to take care of and consequently you are bound to have less energy. Thoughts and possibly a little bit of fear about bringing another person into your family has got to take some kind of toil on your mind. That together with the fact that you are 8 months pregnant... I'd be surprized if you didn't have some of the feelings that you are experiencing. What ever the cause, the outcome is the same.
So what can you do about it? Well as you have pointed out, you love being intimate with your husband. But intimacy is not just about having sex. Just laying together once the children are in bed and sharing your thoughts and feelings about this wonderful miricle that you have created with your love, might be just what you need to get those fires burning. Just get sex out of your mind and spend some time together. Holding each other and touching without a specific goal in mind may bring out some new and stronger feelings of intimacy in you and your husband. I do realize that men have needs, but assuming that he is not a Neanderthal, I am sure that he would understand if you told him what you are feeling inside. Explain to him that these feelings are as much physical as they are emotional and that you need him now more than ever. I bet you that his love for you and the life that you are growing inside of you will bring out a side of him and you that you may never have seen. Dealing with sexual depression in pregnancy? Woman's advice please!?
ahh I feel ya. Its so depressing not being able to have the same sex life with your partner like before you got the belly. I know that me and the hubby have def. lost our mojo the last couple of months but we are always just reminding each other how awesome it will be when I feel and look like myself again. We tried to try ';it'; last week but it was so uncomfortable. So I would just try and hold out a little longer and just think about how good it will be when your all done healing after your angel arrives.
Well the thing you can do is:...... Spend time together on the little things like going out to have dinner, sitting and watching the sunset and listening to each others feelings. Then of course if the actual intercourse hurts/feels weird then of course you can have him pleasure you in other ways(clitoral stimulation) as well as you being able to give him oral (if you feel up to that). Have him give you back massages (or whatever other kind of massages lol :) and do the same for him. Hopefully you'll just bounce back after the little cutie is born :) Hope this helped!!!
I felt like this at the end of my pregnancy too. Maybe just enjoy time spent with each other like cuddling, kissing, going out for romantic dinners (get someone to babysit) and even oral stimulation if you feel like it. You don't need to be having sex to connect to one another.
Once bubs is born, I'm sure you'll be in the mood again!
Good luck!
i wanted to start off by saying to 'samantha' that maybe she has step children, or something??? actually, i just looked at her profile and she does have step children so that is why she considers haveing 5, but this is HER 3rd child. so she wasnt asking to be investigated on, she was just asking a question.
anyways, i know how you feel. im only 28 weeks and im already miserable and feel too big to have sex...it sucks. but im sure your husband doesnt mind how big you are. i agree with someone above me who said to enjoy other things like cuddling.
congrats!
Personally I think you should talk to your partner about they way you are feeling and find out how he is feeling and maybe you need just a little bit of time to get used to the different way you feel this time around.
Good luck
Not every pregnancy is the same and there are more things besides sex that you can do together! Your in the home stretch now to so not to much longer and you can be back to having all the sex you want! Good luck!
You need to talk to your partner about how you are feeling and maybe you guys could try something new.
Although you may be feeling that sex is not for you right now, there are plenty of other ways you can both stay intimate.
I'm currently 38 weeks pregnant with baby number one and I can totally relate. My partner and I haven't had sex for roughly three months now and it can be really depressing. But by doing the following things hopefully you can start feeling better really soon.
Some of the ways we stay intimate otherwise are:
-Cuddling
-Telling each other how attracted we are to each other
-Oral sex occasionally
-Making sure we spend time together
-Communication, communication, communication.
I hope this helps! Things will get back to normal soon enough I'm sure...You are beautiful and you are doing a beautiful thing! Sex will come back if you both want it to.
Best wishes!
How about a bubble bath and taking time out to cuddle with him.
Also, maybe you could try buying some really sexy underwear and showing it off for him one night!
It is hard, I am 15 wks now and still repeat to myself on a daily basis that I am beautiful and that my husband loves my baby body. It just seemed to change so much and it was really different to how I was before. But this mantra really helps me to feel more sexy, beautiful and wanted. And to enjoy everything more
Otherwise, maybe just stop pressuring yourself and wait for the arrival of the baby. You aren't far away and I am sure that everything will settle back into place soon
Good luck
';I'm 32.5 weeks pregnant with baby number 3.';
your name is ';mummy of 4 soon to be 5';
did you make a typo? because i doubt that you just forgot about your other children.
now with that being said, im not sure what can be done, other than talking to your partner and trying to explain to him whats going on and that its not him making you feel that way, its sort of a side effect of pregnancy.
EDIT: all apologies. i dont usually read peoples profiles. i did not mean to offend anyone, i just thought that it was a typo. im sorry that i came across as rude, and i hope that you find a solution to your problem.
Things are different with this pregnancy. You are a little older this time, you have more children to take care of and consequently you are bound to have less energy. Thoughts and possibly a little bit of fear about bringing another person into your family has got to take some kind of toil on your mind. That together with the fact that you are 8 months pregnant... I'd be surprized if you didn't have some of the feelings that you are experiencing. What ever the cause, the outcome is the same.
So what can you do about it? Well as you have pointed out, you love being intimate with your husband. But intimacy is not just about having sex. Just laying together once the children are in bed and sharing your thoughts and feelings about this wonderful miricle that you have created with your love, might be just what you need to get those fires burning. Just get sex out of your mind and spend some time together. Holding each other and touching without a specific goal in mind may bring out some new and stronger feelings of intimacy in you and your husband. I do realize that men have needs, but assuming that he is not a Neanderthal, I am sure that he would understand if you told him what you are feeling inside. Explain to him that these feelings are as much physical as they are emotional and that you need him now more than ever. I bet you that his love for you and the life that you are growing inside of you will bring out a side of him and you that you may never have seen. Dealing with sexual depression in pregnancy? Woman's advice please!?
ahh I feel ya. Its so depressing not being able to have the same sex life with your partner like before you got the belly. I know that me and the hubby have def. lost our mojo the last couple of months but we are always just reminding each other how awesome it will be when I feel and look like myself again. We tried to try ';it'; last week but it was so uncomfortable. So I would just try and hold out a little longer and just think about how good it will be when your all done healing after your angel arrives.
Well the thing you can do is:...... Spend time together on the little things like going out to have dinner, sitting and watching the sunset and listening to each others feelings. Then of course if the actual intercourse hurts/feels weird then of course you can have him pleasure you in other ways(clitoral stimulation) as well as you being able to give him oral (if you feel up to that). Have him give you back massages (or whatever other kind of massages lol :) and do the same for him. Hopefully you'll just bounce back after the little cutie is born :) Hope this helped!!!
I felt like this at the end of my pregnancy too. Maybe just enjoy time spent with each other like cuddling, kissing, going out for romantic dinners (get someone to babysit) and even oral stimulation if you feel like it. You don't need to be having sex to connect to one another.
Once bubs is born, I'm sure you'll be in the mood again!
Good luck!
i wanted to start off by saying to 'samantha' that maybe she has step children, or something??? actually, i just looked at her profile and she does have step children so that is why she considers haveing 5, but this is HER 3rd child. so she wasnt asking to be investigated on, she was just asking a question.
anyways, i know how you feel. im only 28 weeks and im already miserable and feel too big to have sex...it sucks. but im sure your husband doesnt mind how big you are. i agree with someone above me who said to enjoy other things like cuddling.
congrats!
Personally I think you should talk to your partner about they way you are feeling and find out how he is feeling and maybe you need just a little bit of time to get used to the different way you feel this time around.
Good luck
Not every pregnancy is the same and there are more things besides sex that you can do together! Your in the home stretch now to so not to much longer and you can be back to having all the sex you want! Good luck!
You need to talk to your partner about how you are feeling and maybe you guys could try something new.
Although you may be feeling that sex is not for you right now, there are plenty of other ways you can both stay intimate.
I'm currently 38 weeks pregnant with baby number one and I can totally relate. My partner and I haven't had sex for roughly three months now and it can be really depressing. But by doing the following things hopefully you can start feeling better really soon.
Some of the ways we stay intimate otherwise are:
-Cuddling
-Telling each other how attracted we are to each other
-Oral sex occasionally
-Making sure we spend time together
-Communication, communication, communication.
I hope this helps! Things will get back to normal soon enough I'm sure...You are beautiful and you are doing a beautiful thing! Sex will come back if you both want it to.
Best wishes!
How about a bubble bath and taking time out to cuddle with him.
Also, maybe you could try buying some really sexy underwear and showing it off for him one night!
It is hard, I am 15 wks now and still repeat to myself on a daily basis that I am beautiful and that my husband loves my baby body. It just seemed to change so much and it was really different to how I was before. But this mantra really helps me to feel more sexy, beautiful and wanted. And to enjoy everything more
Otherwise, maybe just stop pressuring yourself and wait for the arrival of the baby. You aren't far away and I am sure that everything will settle back into place soon
Good luck
';I'm 32.5 weeks pregnant with baby number 3.';
your name is ';mummy of 4 soon to be 5';
did you make a typo? because i doubt that you just forgot about your other children.
now with that being said, im not sure what can be done, other than talking to your partner and trying to explain to him whats going on and that its not him making you feel that way, its sort of a side effect of pregnancy.
EDIT: all apologies. i dont usually read peoples profiles. i did not mean to offend anyone, i just thought that it was a typo. im sorry that i came across as rude, and i hope that you find a solution to your problem.
Mums of yahoo - do you trust a woman's advice more than a man?
Just wondering. If you post a question and get several answers from both mums and dads, do you automatically think less of the dads answers?
I have to confess, unless I have seen that they are a stay at home dad, I assume that they haven't personally had to deal with the things that I do as a stay at home mum. I saw an answer from a dad earlier about keeping children in strict routines and wondered how much his wife sticks to his rules!
Just curious really, what do the rest of you think?Mums of yahoo - do you trust a woman's advice more than a man?
I trust dads opinions but my husband and my own dad are really good dads so I know all their advice is good. I think you only feel like that if you dont know hands on dads.
EdiT; I think its cause your husband cant do it that you think all men cant. My husband can be left on his own and make dinner,tidy house and care for our daughter. He does it all the time when I am at work and out. He is really good at it and he is better than me cause I cant cook and he can do it all. My husband could run teh house better than me in my opinion but thats one of the reasons I married him as I dont want a traditional manMums of yahoo - do you trust a woman's advice more than a man?
I am a stay at home mom, so by default, I go with the women. But the Best person to trust is yourself...and your child's doctor.
My husband is really good at tough answers when I am in a pickle. Still I still go with my gut on most things.
When I was in school for Childcare/Psychology there were quite a few guys in the class that were educated and interested in the subject.
Don't count the guys out totally.
As for mister routine, it is really hard to tell who you are actually talking to or getting advise from when you are on the computer. First you have to trust that the person put the correct information in the title, then are they being serious. (He probably made the rules, if his wife didn't, she will try, but probably not stick to the routines.)
Well, honestly, it really depends on the question and answer that an individual gives. But, in my case, I trust a man's answer (legit answer of course). This is for a couple of reasons:
1.) My husband is better at disciplining than I am.
2.) My husband is better at maintaining order in the household than I am.
3.) My husband has more patience that I do.
4.) My husband is really just better at the whole parenting thing than I am as he has been helping raise little kids his whole life whereas I had never even held a baby before I had my first child (who is now 3) when I was 21 years old.
My dad was the same way. So yep, to an extent, I'd trust the guys more! No offense! God bless!
Actually, the best piece of advice I have been given came from a Daddy. It was in regards to basically what you asked here. I questioned my husband’s methods to parent our son and this person told me that Mom’s have one method of parenting and Daddy’s have another. Neither is right nor wrong, they’re just different.
And because of that answer, I just listen to the responses I get from a question asked and choose the best answer for my situation. And it doesn’t matter to me if it’s a male/female, mother/father, or a person with no kids at all.
I have actually seen some really good advice from moms and dads on here. My daughter's peditrician is a man and he is the best. Has five kids of his own so he gives good practical advice.
On the other hand, my husband works all day and hasn't been around babies much. Neither was his dad. Some of the things they tell me to do with my daughter I don't pay a lot of attention too. Not that I think they are stupid-its just not practical.
I agree with on the above posters. Good advice is good advice..no matter the gender.
I will tell you that good advice is good advice. I totally get where you are coming from. There are a couple of ';regulars'; that come to my mind whose advice ';ranks'; over other males in general. I will say that I'm actually partial to advice from people whose answers I am familiar with and I usually agree with anyway. People who seem to have sense. I usually think more of their opinion than people I've never seen before.
Yea my husband is the same way. God help you all if he ever figure out how to use YA, you would all be in trouble. :-)
I generally don't ask for specific advice here...why would I trust complete strangers with my child?
On the occasion that I ask here it's simply to measure my own opinion on a matter...that's about it.
As far as gender...I think I go more by the content of the answer, not by the sex of the answerer...
Idiots come in both genders...
I take the advice of men. Unless as you said it's anything to do with pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding etc anything that they personally never have to deal with.
But apart from that gender doesn't bother me - too much anyway.
I don't trust anyone's advice, really. I consider it and decide whether it makes sense and would work within the values and structure of my life and family.
Men's ideas are just as worthy of consideration as women's, though
I don't make any assumptions about the gender of the person answering the question regardless of what their avatar indicates. Anyone can say they are a mum or a dad on the internet.
i have given a lot of good advice to a lot of mums on here, but its other female answerers that give me loads of thumbs down, but i still get a lot of top answers from the askers though.
I tend to trust the women more...especially if the men are advising me on the state of being pregnant! They do that sometimes which is very annoying actually...they cannot comment unless they are doctors.
I equally trust woman and men's answers . I've met some wonderful dads on here as well as some wonderful moms.
I have not noticed the gender of the person answering the question.. Good advice is good advice to me!
No way. I go with what answer makes most sense to me. My partner states things about our daughter that don't occur to me so I really value a dad's point of view too
When i ask factual questions generally men answer. if its emotional or personal women come out!
Dont know why??
No both men and woman can offer good advice.
Well, I usually don't even notice whether it is a man or woman.
--I do get what you mean though.
I kind of agree, not that I think a dad is any less capible of knowing things about children %26amp; so on but I feel better taking advice from other moms. I guess it's a woman thing.
Good Luck!
I have to confess, unless I have seen that they are a stay at home dad, I assume that they haven't personally had to deal with the things that I do as a stay at home mum. I saw an answer from a dad earlier about keeping children in strict routines and wondered how much his wife sticks to his rules!
Just curious really, what do the rest of you think?Mums of yahoo - do you trust a woman's advice more than a man?
I trust dads opinions but my husband and my own dad are really good dads so I know all their advice is good. I think you only feel like that if you dont know hands on dads.
EdiT; I think its cause your husband cant do it that you think all men cant. My husband can be left on his own and make dinner,tidy house and care for our daughter. He does it all the time when I am at work and out. He is really good at it and he is better than me cause I cant cook and he can do it all. My husband could run teh house better than me in my opinion but thats one of the reasons I married him as I dont want a traditional manMums of yahoo - do you trust a woman's advice more than a man?
I am a stay at home mom, so by default, I go with the women. But the Best person to trust is yourself...and your child's doctor.
My husband is really good at tough answers when I am in a pickle. Still I still go with my gut on most things.
When I was in school for Childcare/Psychology there were quite a few guys in the class that were educated and interested in the subject.
Don't count the guys out totally.
As for mister routine, it is really hard to tell who you are actually talking to or getting advise from when you are on the computer. First you have to trust that the person put the correct information in the title, then are they being serious. (He probably made the rules, if his wife didn't, she will try, but probably not stick to the routines.)
Well, honestly, it really depends on the question and answer that an individual gives. But, in my case, I trust a man's answer (legit answer of course). This is for a couple of reasons:
1.) My husband is better at disciplining than I am.
2.) My husband is better at maintaining order in the household than I am.
3.) My husband has more patience that I do.
4.) My husband is really just better at the whole parenting thing than I am as he has been helping raise little kids his whole life whereas I had never even held a baby before I had my first child (who is now 3) when I was 21 years old.
My dad was the same way. So yep, to an extent, I'd trust the guys more! No offense! God bless!
Actually, the best piece of advice I have been given came from a Daddy. It was in regards to basically what you asked here. I questioned my husband’s methods to parent our son and this person told me that Mom’s have one method of parenting and Daddy’s have another. Neither is right nor wrong, they’re just different.
And because of that answer, I just listen to the responses I get from a question asked and choose the best answer for my situation. And it doesn’t matter to me if it’s a male/female, mother/father, or a person with no kids at all.
I have actually seen some really good advice from moms and dads on here. My daughter's peditrician is a man and he is the best. Has five kids of his own so he gives good practical advice.
On the other hand, my husband works all day and hasn't been around babies much. Neither was his dad. Some of the things they tell me to do with my daughter I don't pay a lot of attention too. Not that I think they are stupid-its just not practical.
I agree with on the above posters. Good advice is good advice..no matter the gender.
I will tell you that good advice is good advice. I totally get where you are coming from. There are a couple of ';regulars'; that come to my mind whose advice ';ranks'; over other males in general. I will say that I'm actually partial to advice from people whose answers I am familiar with and I usually agree with anyway. People who seem to have sense. I usually think more of their opinion than people I've never seen before.
Yea my husband is the same way. God help you all if he ever figure out how to use YA, you would all be in trouble. :-)
I generally don't ask for specific advice here...why would I trust complete strangers with my child?
On the occasion that I ask here it's simply to measure my own opinion on a matter...that's about it.
As far as gender...I think I go more by the content of the answer, not by the sex of the answerer...
Idiots come in both genders...
I take the advice of men. Unless as you said it's anything to do with pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding etc anything that they personally never have to deal with.
But apart from that gender doesn't bother me - too much anyway.
I don't trust anyone's advice, really. I consider it and decide whether it makes sense and would work within the values and structure of my life and family.
Men's ideas are just as worthy of consideration as women's, though
I don't make any assumptions about the gender of the person answering the question regardless of what their avatar indicates. Anyone can say they are a mum or a dad on the internet.
i have given a lot of good advice to a lot of mums on here, but its other female answerers that give me loads of thumbs down, but i still get a lot of top answers from the askers though.
I tend to trust the women more...especially if the men are advising me on the state of being pregnant! They do that sometimes which is very annoying actually...they cannot comment unless they are doctors.
I equally trust woman and men's answers . I've met some wonderful dads on here as well as some wonderful moms.
I have not noticed the gender of the person answering the question.. Good advice is good advice to me!
No way. I go with what answer makes most sense to me. My partner states things about our daughter that don't occur to me so I really value a dad's point of view too
When i ask factual questions generally men answer. if its emotional or personal women come out!
Dont know why??
No both men and woman can offer good advice.
Well, I usually don't even notice whether it is a man or woman.
--I do get what you mean though.
I kind of agree, not that I think a dad is any less capible of knowing things about children %26amp; so on but I feel better taking advice from other moms. I guess it's a woman thing.
Good Luck!
Is it harmful to have an relation with 45 years woman ? Im 30 PLease advice?
dude ... this happens men tend 2 fall for older woman ...Is it harmful to have an relation with 45 years woman ? Im 30 PLease advice?
no i do not think it is harmful to date with 15 years between you. at those respective ages both of you should have enough sufficient life experiences, and growth of maturity. to date.
it is way different, than saying '; is a 15 year difference harmful when a 30 year old is dating a 15 year old. of course it is. that is harmful there is no experience, no maturity, and one is still a child.
id say by the ages given in your circumstances it would be ok. both of you have had time to grow up. the only set back might be differences in generational values.
ie hippies vs like grandparents where things were more conservative.Is it harmful to have an relation with 45 years woman ? Im 30 PLease advice?
In a sense, yes. Because it's taken you out of circulation while you're in your prime. When she hits 50, you'd be 35. At that point, if it bothers you to be with a 50 yo woman, and you call it quit, then you'd have lost the prime of your life between 30-35 where you should be developing relationship with someone more suitable. Now if you stay with her until she's 60 and you change your mind, then you'll be scrambling at 45. See where I'm going? Good luck.
no is perfectly normal, she won't have the same insecurities and hangups of a younger lady and will be more mature and relaxed in herself and confidence is always attractive,
Would you be thinking this if was 30 yr old woman and 45 yr old man, is too much DOUBLE STANDARDS as far as dating is concerned, you can't help who you fall in love with.
Relationship are always generated through heart. If you are in realtion ship with a woman this is emotional attachment. So it directly proportional to your emotional attachment with that woman. So need not to bother about and keep your heart strongly attached to that woman unless untill it affects both of you, socially and persoanlly.
Well, I guess you like her, right? So what麓s the fuzz??
Do you think a 45 years old man would post this question here and ask if it麓s okay to have a 30 years old girl friend???
No, of course not...
Don麓t care about what people might think or say, it麓s your business and nobodies else麓s.
Are you happy with her? Yes?? So... have a good time, enjoy and if you really love her, go and marry her...
Live your life!!
Good luck!
No...It happens...But if you are a married man the lady is also an married ,then there is a problem...You must be faithful to your partner....
Age not a problem beside she also is a woman. Not too old which only different of 15 years only
In or out chose one dont be in the middle ...... do what you feel best for you... irrespective of if its harmful or not.... so enjoy life as an how it comes
age does not matter, you should be concerned and careful about getting any disease, practise safe sex
Age is just a number. There are plenty of couples like you. Look at Demi Moore she's 45 and she's dating a 30 yr old.
well in love when sex does not matter then where does age come into play?hey derz nothing rong....just live life king size!
if shes ugly then yes harmful.
Harmful? what do you mean by that? at 45 she is still a woman!
I don't think so. You're both adults.
It can be good and healthy for both of you to have this experience.
No...is her hooha any differnt than a 30 year olds??
Relation mean what kind ?
She is like ur mother....respect her....
dont worry abt that
but be secure while ..............
give us more details
no harm till ur mom dznt kick ur *** off!!
no i do not think it is harmful to date with 15 years between you. at those respective ages both of you should have enough sufficient life experiences, and growth of maturity. to date.
it is way different, than saying '; is a 15 year difference harmful when a 30 year old is dating a 15 year old. of course it is. that is harmful there is no experience, no maturity, and one is still a child.
id say by the ages given in your circumstances it would be ok. both of you have had time to grow up. the only set back might be differences in generational values.
ie hippies vs like grandparents where things were more conservative.Is it harmful to have an relation with 45 years woman ? Im 30 PLease advice?
In a sense, yes. Because it's taken you out of circulation while you're in your prime. When she hits 50, you'd be 35. At that point, if it bothers you to be with a 50 yo woman, and you call it quit, then you'd have lost the prime of your life between 30-35 where you should be developing relationship with someone more suitable. Now if you stay with her until she's 60 and you change your mind, then you'll be scrambling at 45. See where I'm going? Good luck.
no is perfectly normal, she won't have the same insecurities and hangups of a younger lady and will be more mature and relaxed in herself and confidence is always attractive,
Would you be thinking this if was 30 yr old woman and 45 yr old man, is too much DOUBLE STANDARDS as far as dating is concerned, you can't help who you fall in love with.
Relationship are always generated through heart. If you are in realtion ship with a woman this is emotional attachment. So it directly proportional to your emotional attachment with that woman. So need not to bother about and keep your heart strongly attached to that woman unless untill it affects both of you, socially and persoanlly.
Well, I guess you like her, right? So what麓s the fuzz??
Do you think a 45 years old man would post this question here and ask if it麓s okay to have a 30 years old girl friend???
No, of course not...
Don麓t care about what people might think or say, it麓s your business and nobodies else麓s.
Are you happy with her? Yes?? So... have a good time, enjoy and if you really love her, go and marry her...
Live your life!!
Good luck!
No...It happens...But if you are a married man the lady is also an married ,then there is a problem...You must be faithful to your partner....
Age not a problem beside she also is a woman. Not too old which only different of 15 years only
In or out chose one dont be in the middle ...... do what you feel best for you... irrespective of if its harmful or not.... so enjoy life as an how it comes
age does not matter, you should be concerned and careful about getting any disease, practise safe sex
Age is just a number. There are plenty of couples like you. Look at Demi Moore she's 45 and she's dating a 30 yr old.
well in love when sex does not matter then where does age come into play?hey derz nothing rong....just live life king size!
if shes ugly then yes harmful.
Harmful? what do you mean by that? at 45 she is still a woman!
I don't think so. You're both adults.
It can be good and healthy for both of you to have this experience.
No...is her hooha any differnt than a 30 year olds??
Relation mean what kind ?
She is like ur mother....respect her....
dont worry abt that
but be secure while ..............
give us more details
no harm till ur mom dznt kick ur *** off!!
Dealing with sexual depression in pregnancy? Woman's advice please!?
Ok Heres the deal. I'm 32.5 weeks pregnant with baby number 3. With the first two i was pretty happy and energetic throughout both the pregnancies and myself and my hubby had no problems having sex. With this one though, i feel completely different as i am a little bigger than i was with the other 2 and things ';inside'; feel different and awkward too. I love being intimate with my partner, and i'm getting really depressed that i can't / don't want to be because of the way im feeling, and i know hes suffering too as it's not about the sex itself as it is about connecting with each other... Is there neway that i can beat this? I just want to get back to feeling like me again...Dealing with sexual depression in pregnancy? Woman's advice please!?
Things are different with this pregnancy. You are a little older this time, you have more children to take care of and consequently you are bound to have less energy. Thoughts and possibly a little bit of fear about bringing another person into your family has got to take some kind of toil on your mind. That together with the fact that you are 8 months pregnant... I'd be surprized if you didn't have some of the feelings that you are experiencing. What ever the cause, the outcome is the same.
So what can you do about it? Well as you have pointed out, you love being intimate with your husband. But intimacy is not just about having sex. Just laying together once the children are in bed and sharing your thoughts and feelings about this wonderful miricle that you have created with your love, might be just what you need to get those fires burning. Just get sex out of your mind and spend some time together. Holding each other and touching without a specific goal in mind may bring out some new and stronger feelings of intimacy in you and your husband. I do realize that men have needs, but assuming that he is not a Neanderthal, I am sure that he would understand if you told him what you are feeling inside. Explain to him that these feelings are as much physical as they are emotional and that you need him now more than ever. I bet you that his love for you and the life that you are growing inside of you will bring out a side of him and you that you may never have seen. Dealing with sexual depression in pregnancy? Woman's advice please!?
ahh I feel ya. Its so depressing not being able to have the same sex life with your partner like before you got the belly. I know that me and the hubby have def. lost our mojo the last couple of months but we are always just reminding each other how awesome it will be when I feel and look like myself again. We tried to try ';it'; last week but it was so uncomfortable. So I would just try and hold out a little longer and just think about how good it will be when your all done healing after your angel arrives.
Well the thing you can do is:...... Spend time together on the little things like going out to have dinner, sitting and watching the sunset and listening to each others feelings. Then of course if the actual intercourse hurts/feels weird then of course you can have him pleasure you in other ways(clitoral stimulation) as well as you being able to give him oral (if you feel up to that). Have him give you back massages (or whatever other kind of massages lol :) and do the same for him. Hopefully you'll just bounce back after the little cutie is born :) Hope this helped!!!
I felt like this at the end of my pregnancy too. Maybe just enjoy time spent with each other like cuddling, kissing, going out for romantic dinners (get someone to babysit) and even oral stimulation if you feel like it. You don't need to be having sex to connect to one another.
Once bubs is born, I'm sure you'll be in the mood again!
Good luck!
i wanted to start off by saying to 'samantha' that maybe she has step children, or something??? actually, i just looked at her profile and she does have step children so that is why she considers haveing 5, but this is HER 3rd child. so she wasnt asking to be investigated on, she was just asking a question.
anyways, i know how you feel. im only 28 weeks and im already miserable and feel too big to have sex...it sucks. but im sure your husband doesnt mind how big you are. i agree with someone above me who said to enjoy other things like cuddling.
congrats!
Personally I think you should talk to your partner about they way you are feeling and find out how he is feeling and maybe you need just a little bit of time to get used to the different way you feel this time around.
Good luck
Not every pregnancy is the same and there are more things besides sex that you can do together! Your in the home stretch now to so not to much longer and you can be back to having all the sex you want! Good luck!
You need to talk to your partner about how you are feeling and maybe you guys could try something new.
Although you may be feeling that sex is not for you right now, there are plenty of other ways you can both stay intimate.
I'm currently 38 weeks pregnant with baby number one and I can totally relate. My partner and I haven't had sex for roughly three months now and it can be really depressing. But by doing the following things hopefully you can start feeling better really soon.
Some of the ways we stay intimate otherwise are:
-Cuddling
-Telling each other how attracted we are to each other
-Oral sex occasionally
-Making sure we spend time together
-Communication, communication, communication.
I hope this helps! Things will get back to normal soon enough I'm sure...You are beautiful and you are doing a beautiful thing! Sex will come back if you both want it to.
Best wishes!
How about a bubble bath and taking time out to cuddle with him.
Also, maybe you could try buying some really sexy underwear and showing it off for him one night!
It is hard, I am 15 wks now and still repeat to myself on a daily basis that I am beautiful and that my husband loves my baby body. It just seemed to change so much and it was really different to how I was before. But this mantra really helps me to feel more sexy, beautiful and wanted. And to enjoy everything more
Otherwise, maybe just stop pressuring yourself and wait for the arrival of the baby. You aren't far away and I am sure that everything will settle back into place soon
Good luck
';I'm 32.5 weeks pregnant with baby number 3.';
your name is ';mummy of 4 soon to be 5';
did you make a typo? because i doubt that you just forgot about your other children.
now with that being said, im not sure what can be done, other than talking to your partner and trying to explain to him whats going on and that its not him making you feel that way, its sort of a side effect of pregnancy.
EDIT: all apologies. i dont usually read peoples profiles. i did not mean to offend anyone, i just thought that it was a typo. im sorry that i came across as rude, and i hope that you find a solution to your problem.pores
Things are different with this pregnancy. You are a little older this time, you have more children to take care of and consequently you are bound to have less energy. Thoughts and possibly a little bit of fear about bringing another person into your family has got to take some kind of toil on your mind. That together with the fact that you are 8 months pregnant... I'd be surprized if you didn't have some of the feelings that you are experiencing. What ever the cause, the outcome is the same.
So what can you do about it? Well as you have pointed out, you love being intimate with your husband. But intimacy is not just about having sex. Just laying together once the children are in bed and sharing your thoughts and feelings about this wonderful miricle that you have created with your love, might be just what you need to get those fires burning. Just get sex out of your mind and spend some time together. Holding each other and touching without a specific goal in mind may bring out some new and stronger feelings of intimacy in you and your husband. I do realize that men have needs, but assuming that he is not a Neanderthal, I am sure that he would understand if you told him what you are feeling inside. Explain to him that these feelings are as much physical as they are emotional and that you need him now more than ever. I bet you that his love for you and the life that you are growing inside of you will bring out a side of him and you that you may never have seen. Dealing with sexual depression in pregnancy? Woman's advice please!?
ahh I feel ya. Its so depressing not being able to have the same sex life with your partner like before you got the belly. I know that me and the hubby have def. lost our mojo the last couple of months but we are always just reminding each other how awesome it will be when I feel and look like myself again. We tried to try ';it'; last week but it was so uncomfortable. So I would just try and hold out a little longer and just think about how good it will be when your all done healing after your angel arrives.
Well the thing you can do is:...... Spend time together on the little things like going out to have dinner, sitting and watching the sunset and listening to each others feelings. Then of course if the actual intercourse hurts/feels weird then of course you can have him pleasure you in other ways(clitoral stimulation) as well as you being able to give him oral (if you feel up to that). Have him give you back massages (or whatever other kind of massages lol :) and do the same for him. Hopefully you'll just bounce back after the little cutie is born :) Hope this helped!!!
I felt like this at the end of my pregnancy too. Maybe just enjoy time spent with each other like cuddling, kissing, going out for romantic dinners (get someone to babysit) and even oral stimulation if you feel like it. You don't need to be having sex to connect to one another.
Once bubs is born, I'm sure you'll be in the mood again!
Good luck!
i wanted to start off by saying to 'samantha' that maybe she has step children, or something??? actually, i just looked at her profile and she does have step children so that is why she considers haveing 5, but this is HER 3rd child. so she wasnt asking to be investigated on, she was just asking a question.
anyways, i know how you feel. im only 28 weeks and im already miserable and feel too big to have sex...it sucks. but im sure your husband doesnt mind how big you are. i agree with someone above me who said to enjoy other things like cuddling.
congrats!
Personally I think you should talk to your partner about they way you are feeling and find out how he is feeling and maybe you need just a little bit of time to get used to the different way you feel this time around.
Good luck
Not every pregnancy is the same and there are more things besides sex that you can do together! Your in the home stretch now to so not to much longer and you can be back to having all the sex you want! Good luck!
You need to talk to your partner about how you are feeling and maybe you guys could try something new.
Although you may be feeling that sex is not for you right now, there are plenty of other ways you can both stay intimate.
I'm currently 38 weeks pregnant with baby number one and I can totally relate. My partner and I haven't had sex for roughly three months now and it can be really depressing. But by doing the following things hopefully you can start feeling better really soon.
Some of the ways we stay intimate otherwise are:
-Cuddling
-Telling each other how attracted we are to each other
-Oral sex occasionally
-Making sure we spend time together
-Communication, communication, communication.
I hope this helps! Things will get back to normal soon enough I'm sure...You are beautiful and you are doing a beautiful thing! Sex will come back if you both want it to.
Best wishes!
How about a bubble bath and taking time out to cuddle with him.
Also, maybe you could try buying some really sexy underwear and showing it off for him one night!
It is hard, I am 15 wks now and still repeat to myself on a daily basis that I am beautiful and that my husband loves my baby body. It just seemed to change so much and it was really different to how I was before. But this mantra really helps me to feel more sexy, beautiful and wanted. And to enjoy everything more
Otherwise, maybe just stop pressuring yourself and wait for the arrival of the baby. You aren't far away and I am sure that everything will settle back into place soon
Good luck
';I'm 32.5 weeks pregnant with baby number 3.';
your name is ';mummy of 4 soon to be 5';
did you make a typo? because i doubt that you just forgot about your other children.
now with that being said, im not sure what can be done, other than talking to your partner and trying to explain to him whats going on and that its not him making you feel that way, its sort of a side effect of pregnancy.
EDIT: all apologies. i dont usually read peoples profiles. i did not mean to offend anyone, i just thought that it was a typo. im sorry that i came across as rude, and i hope that you find a solution to your problem.
Should a message be sent ( EVERY Woman's Advice wanted)?
Email me 4 details if needed. ';I'; met a woman a while ago who ';I'; had a lot of chemistry with in the beginning. We had a great time at first, but after a while, we stopped seeing each other as frequently. When I asked if i had upset her somehow, she said no and gave an excuse. I eventually asked her friend what was wrong. She told me that the girl that I'd been hanging with had gotten uncomfortable because I had supposedly ignored her feelings and been pushy with her. IT'S 100% not true. I always asked how she felt but she would give riddle-like responses. The things that she claims that I had been pushy about are things that she never told me. For instance, when we kissed at one point, she pulled away slowly, smiled and said ';let's save some for later.'; How was I supposed to know that meant ';I don't want you to kiss me when we are together?'; I still haven't heard from her in a while. I'm upset because she's been lying/misleading me. Should I send her a text/email? What should it say?Should a message be sent ( EVERY Woman's Advice wanted)?
What's the point if she doesn't want to kiss you anyway?
Just don't bother with her anymore.
Writing an email or a text would be definitely pushy.
Look for chemistry elsewhere!Should a message be sent ( EVERY Woman's Advice wanted)?
doesn't sound like she's making time for you so why waste your time and energy for a girl like that? she obviously has some issues. find someone else to focus on.
do you really want to be with someone you cant communicate with?? move on
What's the point if she doesn't want to kiss you anyway?
Just don't bother with her anymore.
Writing an email or a text would be definitely pushy.
Look for chemistry elsewhere!Should a message be sent ( EVERY Woman's Advice wanted)?
doesn't sound like she's making time for you so why waste your time and energy for a girl like that? she obviously has some issues. find someone else to focus on.
do you really want to be with someone you cant communicate with?? move on
Scorpio men please answer :a loving woman needs advice?
we have decided ( he has ) after 3 yrs , to be friends and not lovers any more. He said i'm too perfect and if he didn't know how naturally caring i was , he would resent me. he calls me a ';saint'; . we did not spend last weekend together as usual , he went to see his sister who just got in from canada. so i'm waiting to see if we spend this weekend coming , together, and if he tries to have sex with me, i'll dash his *** to the curb. Sex has always been fantastic, we have known each other for 11 years, 3 as lovers, and i broke his heart when we were teens .
I never have sex with anyone other than a comitted boyfriend. and he knows this so if he thinks i'll be a friend with benefits he is sadly mistaken.
That said, I love him very much, i was willing to be with him, unmarried, separate recidences and no kids, no problem, but he can't even handle that..said i'm too nice and wonderful a woman to have to deal with his bullshit ( his words)
my question is, if i'm so wonderful, why isn't he utterly scared of losing me as his woman ? when i say '; i don't want to be friends ,'; he gets upset , so i know he wants me to be in his life so i relent , we talk on the phone once a day, three times at night, we have great conversations and joke alot now...so i wait to see what this shitty patch really means..
i cannot see myself with anyone else but him , he is a fine man and a good one , and i guess i want input from a scorpio male...have you ever had this situation before and why ?Scorpio men please answer :a loving woman needs advice?
If a person tells you who and what they are, you need to believe them. If he said he's no good and that you're too good for him HE MEANS IT. You don't just want to have a guy that you see on his terms, screw and then go back to your own place. You don't. You're not getting anything out of this relationship, its all about him. I don't even think you should be friends with this guy, and I seriously think you might want to consider some counseling to determine why you're so insistent on selling yourself short. He's not a good guy at all, sweetie. I wish you the best, but its really time to move on. You are too good to deal with his bullshit. Its not enough for others to believe that though...YOU need to believe it. If someone doesn't love you, there is nothing you can do to get them to change their mind. You shouldn't have to...he should be BEGGING YOU to be with him. Move forward, not backward.Scorpio men please answer :a loving woman needs advice?
This guy is exploiting you. You don't talk to a ';friend'; 4 times a day. You already are a friend with benefits to him - but he gets all the benefits. Like Marina said, he is getting you on his terms. Get him out of your life completely and move on; you are selling yourself short.
the dude you're talking on sounds very insecure. and he's being honest. do you like that about him? or does what he does hurt you....... maybe you should think about what you want and not what he wants. you talk it out with him on how you REALLY feel. not what you want to feel or what you idealise about the two of you. if you really truely want something romantic and trusting with this guy you will talk with him and get the bottom of your relationship with him. you're smart to not let a good thing slip by !!! keep up your own inner confidence, it really shines through. ~~the heart is like a submarine through traveling deeply in dark and uncharted waters. but you're the captain. :-) Good Luck!!!
[Gemini Sun, Cap Moon Girl]
I never have sex with anyone other than a comitted boyfriend. and he knows this so if he thinks i'll be a friend with benefits he is sadly mistaken.
That said, I love him very much, i was willing to be with him, unmarried, separate recidences and no kids, no problem, but he can't even handle that..said i'm too nice and wonderful a woman to have to deal with his bullshit ( his words)
my question is, if i'm so wonderful, why isn't he utterly scared of losing me as his woman ? when i say '; i don't want to be friends ,'; he gets upset , so i know he wants me to be in his life so i relent , we talk on the phone once a day, three times at night, we have great conversations and joke alot now...so i wait to see what this shitty patch really means..
i cannot see myself with anyone else but him , he is a fine man and a good one , and i guess i want input from a scorpio male...have you ever had this situation before and why ?Scorpio men please answer :a loving woman needs advice?
If a person tells you who and what they are, you need to believe them. If he said he's no good and that you're too good for him HE MEANS IT. You don't just want to have a guy that you see on his terms, screw and then go back to your own place. You don't. You're not getting anything out of this relationship, its all about him. I don't even think you should be friends with this guy, and I seriously think you might want to consider some counseling to determine why you're so insistent on selling yourself short. He's not a good guy at all, sweetie. I wish you the best, but its really time to move on. You are too good to deal with his bullshit. Its not enough for others to believe that though...YOU need to believe it. If someone doesn't love you, there is nothing you can do to get them to change their mind. You shouldn't have to...he should be BEGGING YOU to be with him. Move forward, not backward.Scorpio men please answer :a loving woman needs advice?
This guy is exploiting you. You don't talk to a ';friend'; 4 times a day. You already are a friend with benefits to him - but he gets all the benefits. Like Marina said, he is getting you on his terms. Get him out of your life completely and move on; you are selling yourself short.
the dude you're talking on sounds very insecure. and he's being honest. do you like that about him? or does what he does hurt you....... maybe you should think about what you want and not what he wants. you talk it out with him on how you REALLY feel. not what you want to feel or what you idealise about the two of you. if you really truely want something romantic and trusting with this guy you will talk with him and get the bottom of your relationship with him. you're smart to not let a good thing slip by !!! keep up your own inner confidence, it really shines through. ~~the heart is like a submarine through traveling deeply in dark and uncharted waters. but you're the captain. :-) Good Luck!!!
[Gemini Sun, Cap Moon Girl]
I got friend dumped. Need Woman's advice! ?
I dated this amazing girl for 4 months very seriously and she dumped me as her boyfriend and now as a friend too! Basically, I was foolish and cheated on her 6 weeks into the relationship with another girl. I fessed up and tried to fix things, so I told the other girl I couldn't talk to her anymore because I wanted to commit 100% to my new girlfriend. This other girl understood, wished me best of luck with my new girlfriend, and told me to hit her up if things ever changed. So 3 months pass and my girlfriend dumps me for unrelated reasons. She begins dating other guys immediately and tells me to move on. So I decide to reconnect with the other girl I had cheated on her with.
Now my ex girlfriend feels very betrayed because she apparently considered that girl off limits due to ';unwritten breakup rules';. My ex claims I must not value even her friendship otherwise I wouldn't have done that. I don't think reengaging with the other girl was wrong since my ex-girlfriend and I are no longer a couple. What's your take? Include age and m/f please. Thanks!I got friend dumped. Need Woman's advice! ?
I would be really pissed if my ex bf chose to go out with the girl that he cheated on me with. It would be hurtful because it seems as though you and I broke up, so you ran to the other person that you know would kill me.
That is what it is like. That would be like her going out with a guy that looks and acts just like you. You would probably be like wtf.
BUt do not worry about it, not all the time exes stays friends. It is hard to be friends when you just get out of a relationship with that person. Just give it some time and it will work.
Age:20
Sex: Female I got friend dumped. Need Woman's advice! ?
Heya, Eighteen and female here...
Yeah, girl rules state that the other girl is strictly off limits. She's a betrayal to everything that was ever between you, just as she was a betrayal during your relationship. Being friends with an ex is hard enough, especially when you begin to date again but dating the girl you cheated on her with... It makes it seem like you wanted the other girl the entire time y'all were back together, which is interpreted as lying to her about your level of commitment... and all sorts of bad things that you as a boy don't understand.
Why should it matter to her who you date. She is not your girlfriend any more she is just your friend. What rule is she talking about cause i never heard if such a dumb thing. Thats why they alsay you cant be friends with your ex because of stuff like this. She is being very jealous and you dont need that. You need to let her know that she is your friend and whom ever you date it should not matter to her. She might get mad are she might understand but its worth it to talk to her about it!
i dont think it should matter to the old gf because u guys are not dating anymore. it is ur life now unless she still has feelings for u then it should not matter she broke up with u right. Tell her to get over it and that it is ur life not hers.
Female 23 yrs old
your ex has no right to tell you who you are allowed to date. you can talk to that other girl if you want. if your ex has issues with it then maybe she shouldnt have broken up with you.
f 18
17 f she was wrong you guys werent dating and she moved on then you can talk to the other chick i think shes afarid of something
Date who you want. The ex has no say in the matter unless of course it should be her best friend.
tell your ex to get lost, shes not part of ur life so u can see whom ever u want. move on..
just tell your old friend u are srry and try to talk to her
Well, really, she seems like a tie worth severing anyways...
but if you don't want that to happen, you had to consider she'd be offended. Since it's too late to have talked to her BEFORE hand, try a good conversation, ask what she wants you to do and say how its unfair for her to put limits on who you can be with at the cost of a friendship with her. Seems to me she shouldn't care, if she doesn't want to be with you. but if you really need to hold on to her, you can't go to the reconnect girl.
Your ex was probably deeply hurt by you cheating on her, and now is getting hurt again. This makes it look like you've been two-timing her the entire relationship, and makes any apologies given for the cheating null and void.
Obviously you didn't care about this girl if you have to question why this is a problem for you. And she wouldn't care if she didn't love you in the first place.
I think that you didn't intentionally do this to hurt her, but weren't there any other girls you could've gotten with?
Well, I think that your ex girlfriend is definitely jealous of this other girl. From a girls point of view, 26 yrs old btw, If my bf cheated on me and then dated the girl after we broke up I would definitely be upset. You betrayed her trust by cheating with this girl, which always hurts (we always feel like ';what does she have that I couldn't have offered';) and then by dating the ';mistress'; It shows that you DID have feelings for her and it wasn't just some casual mistake. All the sorry's that you have said to your ex means nothing to her now because by dating this other girl you have shown her that you have had feelings for her (the other girl) all along. I hope this makes sense (so tired right now but am trying to help).
My best advice to you would be to continue to see the ';other girl';. If your ex girlfriend wanted to be with you she wouldn't have dumped you in the first place. Besides, do you really think just being your ex's friend could really work out??
Good Luck!!!
well i don't think she can ba angry at you for hooking up with that other girl, because seeing as you have broken up, the relationships you become involved in don't exactly have anything to do with her. if she has started to date again, then there is no reason that you cant as well.
if shes acting like this towards you she obviously isn't over you, even though she might think so herself. it might take her a bit of time to get over it, but if this behaviour continues, don't even worry about her friendship, because it isn't really one hat you would want.
good luck!
btw:
sex: Female
age: 16
Now my ex girlfriend feels very betrayed because she apparently considered that girl off limits due to ';unwritten breakup rules';. My ex claims I must not value even her friendship otherwise I wouldn't have done that. I don't think reengaging with the other girl was wrong since my ex-girlfriend and I are no longer a couple. What's your take? Include age and m/f please. Thanks!I got friend dumped. Need Woman's advice! ?
I would be really pissed if my ex bf chose to go out with the girl that he cheated on me with. It would be hurtful because it seems as though you and I broke up, so you ran to the other person that you know would kill me.
That is what it is like. That would be like her going out with a guy that looks and acts just like you. You would probably be like wtf.
BUt do not worry about it, not all the time exes stays friends. It is hard to be friends when you just get out of a relationship with that person. Just give it some time and it will work.
Age:20
Sex: Female I got friend dumped. Need Woman's advice! ?
Heya, Eighteen and female here...
Yeah, girl rules state that the other girl is strictly off limits. She's a betrayal to everything that was ever between you, just as she was a betrayal during your relationship. Being friends with an ex is hard enough, especially when you begin to date again but dating the girl you cheated on her with... It makes it seem like you wanted the other girl the entire time y'all were back together, which is interpreted as lying to her about your level of commitment... and all sorts of bad things that you as a boy don't understand.
Why should it matter to her who you date. She is not your girlfriend any more she is just your friend. What rule is she talking about cause i never heard if such a dumb thing. Thats why they alsay you cant be friends with your ex because of stuff like this. She is being very jealous and you dont need that. You need to let her know that she is your friend and whom ever you date it should not matter to her. She might get mad are she might understand but its worth it to talk to her about it!
i dont think it should matter to the old gf because u guys are not dating anymore. it is ur life now unless she still has feelings for u then it should not matter she broke up with u right. Tell her to get over it and that it is ur life not hers.
Female 23 yrs old
your ex has no right to tell you who you are allowed to date. you can talk to that other girl if you want. if your ex has issues with it then maybe she shouldnt have broken up with you.
f 18
17 f she was wrong you guys werent dating and she moved on then you can talk to the other chick i think shes afarid of something
Date who you want. The ex has no say in the matter unless of course it should be her best friend.
tell your ex to get lost, shes not part of ur life so u can see whom ever u want. move on..
just tell your old friend u are srry and try to talk to her
Well, really, she seems like a tie worth severing anyways...
but if you don't want that to happen, you had to consider she'd be offended. Since it's too late to have talked to her BEFORE hand, try a good conversation, ask what she wants you to do and say how its unfair for her to put limits on who you can be with at the cost of a friendship with her. Seems to me she shouldn't care, if she doesn't want to be with you. but if you really need to hold on to her, you can't go to the reconnect girl.
Your ex was probably deeply hurt by you cheating on her, and now is getting hurt again. This makes it look like you've been two-timing her the entire relationship, and makes any apologies given for the cheating null and void.
Obviously you didn't care about this girl if you have to question why this is a problem for you. And she wouldn't care if she didn't love you in the first place.
I think that you didn't intentionally do this to hurt her, but weren't there any other girls you could've gotten with?
Well, I think that your ex girlfriend is definitely jealous of this other girl. From a girls point of view, 26 yrs old btw, If my bf cheated on me and then dated the girl after we broke up I would definitely be upset. You betrayed her trust by cheating with this girl, which always hurts (we always feel like ';what does she have that I couldn't have offered';) and then by dating the ';mistress'; It shows that you DID have feelings for her and it wasn't just some casual mistake. All the sorry's that you have said to your ex means nothing to her now because by dating this other girl you have shown her that you have had feelings for her (the other girl) all along. I hope this makes sense (so tired right now but am trying to help).
My best advice to you would be to continue to see the ';other girl';. If your ex girlfriend wanted to be with you she wouldn't have dumped you in the first place. Besides, do you really think just being your ex's friend could really work out??
Good Luck!!!
well i don't think she can ba angry at you for hooking up with that other girl, because seeing as you have broken up, the relationships you become involved in don't exactly have anything to do with her. if she has started to date again, then there is no reason that you cant as well.
if shes acting like this towards you she obviously isn't over you, even though she might think so herself. it might take her a bit of time to get over it, but if this behaviour continues, don't even worry about her friendship, because it isn't really one hat you would want.
good luck!
btw:
sex: Female
age: 16
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