Advice for a Sexual Prude? How many women are having anal sex?

I would love to be more adventurous in bed but have always been a little insecure - I am totally in shape and right on with my weight but I have never been able to completely relax and be comfortable.


My hubby recently remarked that he wished I was a little more adventurous.


Any advice?


I know he would love to go anal but we have tried a few times and well it isn't exactly comfortable!


Any advice on how to loosen up and be more of a freak in the bed?





And really how many women are having anal these days?Advice for a Sexual Prude? How many women are having anal sex?
I'd say most women have anal sex, and if they don't, they should!





Anal sex can be beautiful and amazing. Personally I love it, sometimes more than vaginal sex.





The trick is to have had at least one orgasm already. This relaxes you. In fact, relaxation is the key generally. If you're going to let him penetrate you back there, then he should be treating you like a princess. Demand a massage and candles and the whole works! Then, once you get down to it, make sure he lubes up your anus with one finger. Get him to penetrate you with the finger and make sure plenty of lube is going inside too. Then he can add a finger when you're relaxed enough, then another, always adding and adding more and more lube. Then, after he has lubed up his penis, he can can try slowly slowly to penetrate you. Also, for the first time it is probably better not to do it doggy-style as that can tighten you up back there. Lying on your side is best, missionary is ok too. While he is pushing in, you push out like you are trying to go to the toilet (I know this doesn't sound logical but it helps relax the anal sphinceter muscles). While we're on the topic, you might want to make sure that you really DO go to the toilet before, if you are worried about mess.





Basically, as you can see, the main thing is relaxation and LOADS of lube.





Have fun honey, it can be a blast!Advice for a Sexual Prude? How many women are having anal sex?
the one and only time I did have anal I (and he) had had at least 4 or 5 drinks and a bottle of lube. It was pretty traumatizing and hurt like a b**** for the next week and terrified me anytime I went to the bathroom. It felt okay though. It feels good for men both ways because it's a small hole but even if they are the ones being penetrated, their prostrate is the equivalent of our g-spot.





I read somewhere that the Bible (if it's a religious issue) doesn't speak of anal sex so sometimes it's encouraged prior to marriage-this is weird to me, but it's as though it makes it more okay.





Um, just try a few heavy drinks, a big bottle of lube, and a bit of romance, it should work.
Anal isn't for every woman.. If it hurts you.. don't do it. But, it may also be how your husband is going about trying it. Anyway, although people like to think sexual techniques are just naturally known, often they aren't... There are many books, movies, internet sites where you could research things and see what seems interesting that you haven't tried.. be open to trying new things that aren't painful or against your morals... mix things up... Not knowing what all you have tried, it's hard to give you specific examples, but one major suggestion is to talk to your husband and see what else he's interested in that you haven't yet tried.
I have anal sex however, you have to be comfy with the thought of it. And he has to work the area really well to get you loosened up. Lots and lots of foreplay there and lots and lots of lube. AND easy, be easy! But there are a 1,000 other ways to be fun in the sack. The right attitude helps. Know you are gonna rock his freaking world and be confident. Wear costumes, wigs, lingerie, that sort of thing. Use toys, and talk dirty.
LOTS of women are doing anal... not necessarily every day... but often.





use plenty of lube, have him enter slow - then pause while you gasp - and THEN go full depth.





to give YOU a little more ';umph'; try taking a couple of tabs of Arginine (an OTC amino acid) to help the little man in the boat stand up taller ;-} AND use a vibrator on the ';front side'; while he's pumping the back side.
You've tried it and you don't like it. Why waste your time doing something you find repugnant?


If you want to loosen up, maybe buying some really sexy lingerie would help. Also, you can read porn (novels, not pictures) and you could watch some porn and find out if it turns you off or on.
search the internet im sure you can find some kind of instructions for loosening up the anal. lol





watch out if you loosen the anal alot you might be not able to control your bowel movements. lmaoooooooo
Get some porn video with anal sex scenes. Watch it together with your husband and drink some red wine.


As I know many women are having anal these days and enjoy it. They also have orgasm during anal sex.
He should finger before he try. and lots and lots of lube. Jave him try from the front and go in/ out slowly while kissing you. It does help.
I'd guess more explore anal than will admit. It's kinda not accepted to some and loved by others. I have a friend that loves it and openly talks about it like it's no big deal.





Mary in Camden, MI
it is very uncomfortable and can even cause cuts that are very painful.
lots of lube, and you on top.
Anal sex is quite enjoyable and will take some preprep before engaging in it.





Begin by:





1. Pre-stretching the sphincter muscle by insertion of a medium sized well-lubricated dildo. Do this for at least a week or more prior to anal sex;





2. Self-administering an enema consisting of plain warm water [without any laxative] via a hot water bottle to wash out all fecal matter from within the rectum; stop administering when the expelled water appears clear. Do this about 2-3 hours prior to the act;





3. Asking your bf to shave along the shaft of his organ in order to remove any hair. No hair allows smoother entry of the organ.





4. Using a lot of lubricant [K-Y] on the male organ;





5. Engaging in the doggie position, where you are on your hands and knees and he enter from atop;





6. Using a condom is optional since you are basically very clean inside your rectum and should you engage in oral sex immediately after he climaxes in your anal passageway; use an antiseptic/alcohol wipe on his organ before continuing oral sex.





Good luck!