i've been in your situation, and i dont think you are a whore. i think this kind of thing goes on a lot now days. but you have to be truly honest with yourself. do you really love your husband? if you do, get rid of the other man and go get some counseling. if you used to love your husband but you have grown apart, and you want to get that love back, dump the spare and you and your husband both go to counseling. but if you dont love your husband and you could see your life without him in it, maybe it's time to move on. i guess the bottom line is, dont leave your husband because of someone else, leave because you dont want to be there anymore. and also, no matter what the situation is, counseling is a major help. i've been there and done that, and it really helped me put things in perspective and make choices i dont think i could have made otherwise. good luck and hang in there, everything will work out in the end.Im a married women.....bt now entangle with some 1 else.....need advice on this issue...?
why even ask this question?? you know what you have to do, you're just stalling.
You only want someone to agree with you. Most people wont. Dont you think about the vows you took?
I hope they both dump you and your left all alone.
And yes you are a whore!!!!!!!!
Look at your statement. You're selfish. You don't deserve either of them.
You need to work out which relationship you want more. Who would you rather be with when everything falls apart? Who will stick with you for better or for worse? Which one likes you more, treats you better and, most important, which do you love more?
You must decide now. If you don't, these 2 guys will find out about each other and, there goes your love life.
I know it's hard, and this will sound really cheesy, but, follow your heart. Good Luck in choosing.
Hi!! I understand your problem.. And I know how you feel right now.. ok?
like you i hate it when people judge without finding out all the facts. i understand the fact that you need both relationships. i find that most people can not separate love and sex. we need our physical needs met as well as our emotional needs. just because someone does not fulfill both does not mean we can not love that person. i can not understand why we have to make the choice myself. monogamy is an invention of the female gender. men are naturally polygamous. we all have the desire to explore possibilities with lovers that we are not committed to by marriage. some are better than others at controlling those desires. i wish it were as easy for a man to find a friend with benefits as it is for a woman. i love my wife and would not want to do anything that would jeapordize our marriage. on the other hand after 20 yrs of marriage our sex life has become routine and passionless. i need the passion.
Your cheating on your commitment to your husband. You can't have both relationships, the new one probably feels so good. Its exciting because its forbidden, and its not based in reality.
When your with this other man, you have no responsibilities, tell us, did you marry young? If so, you have a huge amount of growing up to do.
Cheating is the most selfish act you can do to your husband.
Walking around feeling dirty, looking over your shoulder, waiting for the other shoe to drop, wondering if your spouse will finally catch you in the act is utter torture.
One relationship (affair) has to die so that the other (marriage)can live OR the Marriage has to die (Divorce) so that the Affair can continue.
You've got to make that choice first before that choice is taken away from you. And ultimately, you will be even worse off physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. because you will pay the price.
Longer answer.
End the affair, head to a marriage counselor and confess your transgression, understand why you are cheating (e.g. not happy with your life) and make a decision whether to continue the marriage. If you decide to continue the marriage, you've got to commit your life to Christ, be faithful to Him, learn to love your husband more than yourself.
If you don't, you will find yourself cheating all over again. It can become a most vicious cycle. Your body will gain in the short term but your poor soul and family will ultimately lose.
As for judging you, that is not by job. When Dr. Billy Graham was asked to respond about former President Bill Clinton during the Lewinsky scandal, he said,
';It is the Holy Spirit's job to convict a person of their sins.
It's the Father's job to judge. My job is to love.';
So, even though I have never met you, I respond to your request for advice with truth in love. I pray you make the right decision.
We can choose to live anyway we want to now. But every wise person will live a better life now knowing that we will all have to stand before God one day where we have to answer for all of our actions, thoughts and intents and be judged.
So choose, but choose wisely.
is that someone else single or married? if he is single , he may never turst you whole heartly. if he is married , he will cheat on you too. but if you look into your heart , you already have the answer. but we don't know the hole story here an it is kinda hard to advise , when you don't have a clear picture.
You are going to get burnt if you continue burning the candles at both ends. It is easy to get into this kind of relationship but hard to get out of it. I know you are having a lot of sexy fun but you need to choose one or the other...
just enjoy it.... for when you come to know about the repurcussions you will just want to get out of it.....
Well, at least you know what you are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now how would you like it if your husband did something like that to you??????????? Show a little RESPECT.
You need a stable relationship and a exciting relationship so you want to remain both of them. But please do not let the excitement relationship destory the family you have now. not worth... if you want to play, play safely.
Make sure you keep the relationship on the side a secret-you have to ensure absolute discression. I have a friend who is going through the same thing right now-I'm not here to judge anyone-but to make sure you don't lose your marriage, you must keep your affair a secret-AT ALL TIMES-be careful!
No I am not going to call you a whore I hate that word I think you are very horny and one man can not take care of you.You should talk to your husband and let him know he is not takeing care of you sex wise.Do not tell him about the other man you will only hurt him and it does hurt.Tonight when he gets home jump on him and ride him like a cow girl do that for a few nights in a row and may be he will get the idea.
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