Men - would you really be in love with this girl? Women - what would you do? (Relationship advice)?

I am a woman who was married to a man at a young age. We also have a daughter together. He cheated and we broke-up, when my daughter was 9 months old. We are seperated now, but still legally married. We now live in 2 different states. He is visiting to see our daughter and I found a video of him and his new girlfriend having extremely graphic, nasty porno-type, anal and oral s*x, and a picture of them (that was taken at a studio) in his wallet. I guess I was always hoping that we'd get back together eventually, but now I am extremely upset. I had so much in common with this man, loved him more than anybody and we had a family. My daughter is so incredibly excited to be spending time with him and I know she wants both parents to be her family and be together.





My question is: Do you think that a girl who would do that stuff after dating for a short while is just a sexual fling for this man, or could they actually have potential at a strong, loving relationship? I know men can be kinky, but at the same time I don't think they'd respect a woman like that long enough to really be serious about her due to the woman not being ';respectable'; or ';someone they could take home to mom';. ie: she must be sleezy to let him do that and while he likes it, the realtionship is just temporary.





Men: would you be long term with a girl like this?


Ladies: would you ever want to work something out with a guy that did that in the long run for your family? Would you hold on to that hope like I had been, or would you give up?





What do you think?





I am crushed. :-(Men - would you really be in love with this girl? Women - what would you do? (Relationship advice)?
I would feel crushed too but also every feeling I had for him would go out the door.





The man you married and the man he is now are two different people. It seems the man you loved is gone. This guy he's turned into is not worth being with,cheating, recording porn, being loose. I would say your worth more than that without even knowing you. Be friendly for your daughter's sake but if I were you I would attempt to open my heart to someone new; once you do you might be suprised how quickly you'll forget about him.





And just a guess his relationship with this new women is probably a passing thing they'll probably be more after her, most relationships only based on sex usually fall to an end.Men - would you really be in love with this girl? Women - what would you do? (Relationship advice)?
You dont want this to work out. Really, you dont.





I know its hard to be a single parent, but lots of people do it, and your child will turn out just fine.





If he is going off and screwing any piece of butt he can find, regardless of whether he wants a long term thing or not, you just dont want him. Give up the hope, move on, find someone thats worth your time. If I had to wager a guess, he probably put those things within your reach just to show you even more that he is done with you. A bit of salt in the wound, if you will...
I'm really sorry you had to see all that stuff. It must be painful for you:(





If it were me, I think I would file the divorce papers. You're not even divorced yet and he's making porno movies with other women. I think that's a pretty clear sign that he's not interested in coming back home. Try to maintain a respectful relationship for your daughter's sake but let your heart move on. I can't say for sure if he'll stay with this girl or move on to someone else but I think the one thing that's clear is that he's not interested in being married right now. He's sowing his wild oats and you have to let him go. I wish you the best of luck.