Advice for dating a Filipino women and getting her parents to approve.?

I am dating an amazing girl (before anyone jumps to conclusions, we are both Americans and met in the United States) and we both love each other very much. Despite the limited amount of time we have been dating, we both already know we found our soul mates.





However, her mother is nice to me in person, but questions my motives behind my back. I have tried being completely sincere with her in my intentions, being nothing but nice to her and she still attempts to drive a wedge between us.





Her mother did come from the Philippines and I am well aware and appreciate the traditions of her mother and where she comes from, however, how can I convince her to at least give me a chance or at least let up a bit. I would never ever ask her to choose between her family or me, I am just trying to find a happy medium here.





My girlfriend is willing to try anything as well, however, she is kind of stuck between her feelings for me and not wanting to disappoint her parents.





Any advice here would be helpful. Normally race wouldn't be mentioned, I thought it would be important because of the rich culture of Filipinos and the great people they are as demonstrated by this Truly amazing girl I am dating. Advice for dating a Filipino women and getting her parents to approve.?
Wow...I'm Filipino and I go through the same thing when I date a guy. What I can suggest is just continue being nice and honest with her parents. No matter what, they will always question your motives, especially if you are not filipino or asian. Traditional Filipino parents usually always want their kids to marry someone who is also Filipino or at least an asian descent. How is the dad with you? Or if you want, you can speak to her one on one, take her to lunch to talk to her about your motives and how you really feel about her daughter. That would definitely change her mind, Im sure. And make sure you are also talking to the rest of the family. Filipinos are big on that! Just dont give up. Sooner or later they will realize that you're not such a bad guy after all! Good luck! and I hope everything works out!Advice for dating a Filipino women and getting her parents to approve.?
I dated a mormon and She was 15, I was 17, her family would not approve until she was 18. so tough road buddy, no real good advice sorry.
dont date immigrants.. their parents are so backwards, stuck in the stone age, the kids are often spoiled rotten.. bleh
yeah those people are very conservative , especially the older generation, they are careful and intelligent
so i'm asian and have been privy to ...1,2,3...3 interracial marriages (either the groom or bride being non-asian).





my advice.


(1) making a tiny effort in customs will go a LONG way.


--the food.


--the language (tagalog)


--any customs


(2) being a nice guy. respectful. natural. yourself.


(3) oh did i say the customs again? if they offer....something that you normally don't eat, dig in!! try to learn tagalog. yes, they'll always question b/c well, immigrants always go through a ton of **** to get where they are, so they'll always be a little wary, but if the juice is worth the squeeze....:)
i think you should show the mum this letter


it will prove to her that you care for her daughter and really want her approval





if not, you could try explaining how you want her approval, and how much it would mean to both of you. maybe you could get your girlfriend to help you explain?





but remember, at the end of the day, she can't split you up, so if she refuses to approve, dont let it ruin the relationship





hope this helps =]
There have been some great answers. Based on what I hear from my friend who is of that same nationality, that what is of the utmost importance is feeling that their daughter will be treated well.





Be a gentlemen, be kind, be real, be consistent. Get your personal business in order. Don't do anything that will cause doubt in the parents minds. Here's a tip. Treat them and their daughter the way you would want a man to treat your daughter and your family.





Because some are so traditional, if that doesn't work then you and your girlfriend will have to make some decisions.
As a Filipino American woman, I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. I see it happen with my cousins b/f's and g/f's and also my friends. Filipinos who come from the P.I. are more traditional and some what set in their ways of their family. We are extremely family oriented people and when family approves...then all is well. So, if i were you i would definitely try these things: talk with the rest of the family members..(we like initiative...it shows courage) %26amp; You can also ask her mom if she needs help around the house (they love that) overall, be genuinely there to get to know the family...not like you're obligated.





ps. filipino girls are the best hahah
Honestly, knowing Filipino families, it will be extremely tough to break their opinions. What I know is that commitment to the girlfriend and to your career are the best ways. Your consideration for the well-being of your future and their daughter would bring satisfaction to any parents. And just hang in there. Although she doesn't like you now, maybe she'll get to know you even more in the future and will acknowledge your commitment to their daughter. And you are correct in believing family is always priority. Don't worry, everything will be fine. I know friends who were in the exact situation as you and actually had terrible confrontations with the parents (who are Filipino), and the relationships happened to work out. Best of luck.