Need advice from good men and women...(any answer is ok)?

Hi,


Im 25 year old virgin guy. Recently i met a girl for a dinner and eventually we ended up drunk.I know that girl for a long time. So... the story is, somehow we ended up sleeping together on that night. One problem, i could not get erection on that night. That was my chance after waiting for a long time in my life. But we just cuddled and kissed. I thought she wants to be my gf. She liked me a lot. So i sent her sms the next day asking ';how she is '; and so on. I wished her a nice day and so on. Then after 2 or 3 sms she replied that ';I should not expect more and i am just her FRIEND';. Did i do anything wrong? Is she behaving because of my last night sexual inability? I was just too scared for the first time. I did not tell her that it was my first time. Was she expecting just sex? Maybe she did not like me at all? I am a very attractive guy. Maybe she expected that i am excellent in sex also. Is it abnormal that i am too cautious abt sex? Are all the girls same like this?Need advice from good men and women...(any answer is ok)?
There are some ladies who will go for a guy and not really expecting sexual contact to happen between them. But I believe that girl is the opposite. Do not worry too much. Do not be humiliated,do not feel unworthy. It is not bad to have second thought or losing the so-called opportunity to prove you are a man!





What you did was right - restrain. I salute you. I am a woman.











INeed advice from good men and women...(any answer is ok)?
I dont think it has ANYTHING to do with an erection I think she may just be embarrassed give her a little time
i dnt think it was sex...u guys wr drunk ...tats y she was in ur bed.....





not because she loves u as a Bf





first chk wthr she wants to have any relationship with u.......





i dnt see any sex issues here.......u r her friend and i feel its bcoz of the drink u guys slept togethr
what happened for you was normal. drunk guys get 'liquor dick' which can affect you in two ways - either you can't get hard, or after 30 minutes of thrusting you just cant get off. I've told women when i'm drunk i appreciate the bl0wj0b, but i'm drunk and it just wont get up. they seem to be ok with that, and we have sex in the morning when we wake up.


also, it was your first time, so you were nervous. Being mentally 'not there' is the express train to limp-land. You've probably built it up in your head a lot as a big deal, so don't get bent out of shape about it not happening the first time.





While girls like a man that can rock their world, and it is possible that she is the type that only gives first chances, it more likely is possible that it was a hit to her ego that she felt she couldn't turn you on. She probably felt like you weren't that into her, or she smelled funny, or she looked fat, whatever... her easy way out solution is to not put herself in that situation again so you can't make HER feel bad about it.





Or, the girl was probably drunk and looking for a one-night stand, which she could pass off with the excuse 'oh I was drunk' and isn't looking for a boyfriend. Don't take it to heart as anything against you. Not all chicks are like that.
I think it admirable that you have saved yourself for so long. It's possible that she thinks herself not attractive to you since you didn't have sex. I might have. She sounds kinda flighty to me. I think you are just nervous. If you are seriously interested in her, tell her that it was your first time. If she's nice, she will still be interested. I'm middle-aged and was long-time divorced when I met my boyfriend of 8 years. He had never had sex before either, something he didn't tell me till we were together a year. It is because he is shy. I would try explaining to her about yourself, and if she rejects you - there are plenty of more fish in the sea.
Just so you know, it might take more than one date and a lot of kissing and cuddling for someone to want to be your GF. Not all girls are like this, no. Expect a variety of responces. It's all totally normal.
no girls arent all like this but it seems like she just wanted sex





to say she had sex with u and that she took ur virginity





and no u didnt do anything wrong dont worry
if you are 25 virgin then she will know you are inexperienced, nervous, etc. unless she's inexperienced also. and if youve been saving for your wedding night...be glad nothing happened. dont worry. maybe she's very embarrassed that you both got drunk and took it too far!! good luck
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wow. I seriously went through the same thing a few weeks ago. Im 19 and me and my ex girlfriend were hanging out and before i knew it we were having sex. just one problem i couldnt keep an erection once we got going. i was so excited because i like her alot. I guess when you get that nervous things just go south. you want to impress them so bad you do the exact opposite. me and my ex havn't done anything since she just wants to be friends wierd huh%26gt;? dont sweat it just be yourself next time.
I think the problem is that you are being WAY too paraniod about the whole sex thing. You were drunk! Of course it will have some effect when you start dancin the horizontal mambo. Don't be so worried about your sex. Sometimes it just happens naturally, and for this being your first time, I wouldn't worry about it, consider it to be your practice run. And this girl... if she says she just wants to be friends then go with it! It sounds like she was getting a little paraniod too, after you sent her all of the txt messages and stuff. Don't let that bug ya. Just so you know, it might take more than one date and a lot of kissing and cuddling for someone to want to be your GF. Not all girls are like this, no. Expect a variety of responces. It's all totally normal.
not sure maybe cuz you couldnt get the seamonster out of the sea
Well neither I nor you can get into her mind to see what she is thinking! The best you can do, in ANY situation, is talk it out. It always clears off any misunderstandings - communication is the key!


Send her a message, or call her, or meet her ( whichever you feel most comfortable with, yet remember, face to face communication is always better ) and tell her....





'About the other night... did I make you feel uncomfortable?Were you expecting something more? It's not that I dont like you and that you dont attract me physically but, well it is my first time and I didnt want to mess it up with someone so special as you....'





Talk to her about it and let her know what you are feeling. When you open up to her, she will open up to you and will tell you what she is feeling.





Hopefully she will tell you what she wants to hear


Good luck and hope everything works well for you!
Uhh, you're looking into this all wrong. Maybe that night was a mistake, maybe she doesnt want to ruin the friendship...





You can tell and encourage her to a relationship and even if things dont work on you will remain very good friends, and promise that it wont be awkward after.
youre way too cautious. maybe she thought you couldnt get an erection bc u really didnt find her attractive. maybe shes a **** just lookin to gt laid? you should move on.